Tegam - we didn't really tell people officially until 16 weeks. We had told MIL & FIL at about 9weeks as they had come to help us with some heavy work - which of course I didn't do, so we told them why, but also that we didn't really want to tell people yet, which they were quite understanding.
I was vommiting quite a bit at work, so I think some people may have guessed, but I didn't tell them until about 16 weeks. And only then becasue I was showing!
I didn't officially tell my boss until about two weeks ago, though I had unofficially told her at 16 weeks because other people knew.
It's hard, because on one hand you do want to tell - even if only for the support should something go wrong, but on the other hand, I didn't want to tell, because I didn't want to talk about it incase I jinxed it.
It took me a while to get my head around that I was pg.
Then I got that I was pg, but couldn't quite get that there was a baby in there, IYKWIM (I know, sounds silly).
Then it was there is a baby in there, but that doesn't mean one will come out.....
It's really only now, this last couple of weeks, probably the last week or two, that I really feel like yes there is a baby in there, and yes there is a happy end to come! And now, I have an awful lot of nesting to catch up on!
I just wanted to send hugs - to all of you - and say yes it is hard to feel excited in the beginning. But I don't feel guilty for not being excited, just disappointed that there is a lot of happiness that I missed out on that I needn't have.
Angelfish - it is hard for partners who - I must say, while they have their own grief experience, they just don't get it - you can't blame yourself for what happened, so it is wrong to think that you caused it in anyway. Tell your b/f that that is not helpful!
Possummagic - I don't know anything about the progesterone, but am keeping everything crossed for you and hoping that your acorn sticks.
Dory - you didn't tell us about your hair??
HPL - you sound like me LOL. I am due Sept 10 and am working up to end August (I don't want to sit around waiting too long, but also, don't want Spud to arrive on my first day home! I have told Spud that while I am very anxious to meet him/her, I don't want to see him/her before September, so not until at least 1/9. (Oh and definately out by the 17th!) LOL. I am told that they can hear at this stage.... just not sure if they have a good grasp of language and time!!
And, my DH does that with the computer too!!!
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