Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

[India's Mum]

Angelfish - my MS and soreness have come and gone since around the ninth week too. I feel so apprehensive everytime it subsides and then I have a big meal and feel awful again so I wouldn't worry too much about feeling a bit better. try and enjoy it. As for the rest, is there anything you can do with the kids that allows you some time to put your feet up, like getting a few good family movies for them? When I feel awful in the afternoons and have to lie down I put a movie on for DD and bring her toys and books into my bed so I can rest.

TimeforaFamily - Yea, Danni Minogue also reminds me of my last one who would have been due next week.

Dory - thanks for your support. I do need to rely on the OB a bit more and not feel as though I am bothering them with my questions and concerns.

HPL - You poor thing with the insomnia. It was probably the thing that made work the hardest for me when I was pregnant with DD. I would usually drift off around 3 so I wouldn't even bother to go to bed until 2am. I think I got more sleep once DD was born.

Ashie - Friends do put their foot in it at times. I don't see anything wrong with your scan results. If there was a problem your doctors would be telling you and they are perfectly happy with the result.

Audax - Beautiful story about the rainbow. It brought a tear to my eye too. It must have a been a very special moment for you.

Well, I am up to a very important week. I lost two babies at the 11th week so it's quite a nervewracking time. I know things could still go wrong but somehow I feel if I can just get through this week that things might be ok.

[ashie]

thanks i really wish the 1st trimester was easy lol, i think dh is saying a girl cause he really wants to use the girl name he picked out and i dont blame him its real pretty! im just going to stay on the fence until my appt with ob he'll do another scan and find the heart beat then ill be able to say boy or girl lol.

[Tegam]

Well, I am up to a very important week. I lost two babies at the 11th week so it's quite a nervewracking time. I know things could still go wrong but somehow I feel if I can just get through this week that things might be ok.

Its going to be an emotional week for you but im sure you will be brave and get a lovely reward!

[India's Mum]

Thanks Tegam, I am feeling optimistic. I realise now I had lost symptoms by this stage before I miscarried whereas I still seem to have most of them now including a really big belly! Wow, just read you had a home birth. Was that a great experience for you?

[Tegam]

Oh Sammy it was the best. I had had two nice hospital birth so it wasnt like i was running away from any trauma, but i just found homebirth was so gentle and just felt 'right' for our family and the other children. We are planning another homebirth for this little one!

[possum magic]

Still lurking a bit, thanks Dory. Oh it'll be hard with your furbaby away but you will get there. Your DH will have to pass on your cuddles.

SammyP I had to stop by and say i'm thinking of you this week. It must be scary i know but the odds are still on your side and your pg symptoms sound reassuring. Sending you powerful sticky vibes!

Ashie: so upset for you that your friend made that comment. Why did she think she knew better than the specialist who did the scan? Very unhelpful. Enjoy looking at your pink and blue outfits and wondering which one you'll get to use!

Audax: What a beautiful story about your angel-versary and rainbow baby.

HPL: Yes, insomnia is hard and i remember with DD longing for her to be born so i could sleep comfortably again...even if it was only for a few hours at a time!

Not going to go too far back to do personals there are (fortunately) lots of lovely ladies in here right now: but wanted to say Belly rubs to all.
AFM: m/c is complete i think. Took about 3wks all up and no d & c so i'm very relieved (last one took 3mths). Feeling sad at the mo but hoping to be back here one day soon.

[milly5]

Hi ladies!

Dory - hello! and I hope your furbaby's treatment goes well. I know how much I would miss my furbaby if she was away from me for three weeks, so I am sending you some of her purrs - can you hear???

HPL - I know what you mean about the insomnia!!! URGH!!! I stagger out of bed this morning, and announce to DH that "I HATE BED" I hate lying down (reflux) I cant lay on my side (either side, clicky hips), shouldn't lay on my back but find that I end up half sitting half lying on my back (I think that this is thw worst possible position to be in, isn' it? I manage about 1 1/2 hours then I wake, and I am getting 2 or 3 of those a night. I am exhausted! Then, if I do fall asleep during the day or even at night, I am having really wierd dreams. They say it is to help you get ready for staying awake at night with the baby. I am going to be dead on me feet when it gets here I think!

Angelfish - I hope you are resting!

Audax - our furniture is a mix-match of older restored pieces and a couple of new things. I think for us the common theme is that they all belong to the baby! LOL! The items are mostly white, and I have put some transfers and things on them but each item has a different coloured "trim" as I wanted some bright colours to go with the white.

Ashie - Yay for your scan results! I have no idea either re the boy or girl! I have everything in white, green or yellow.

Sammy - yay for feeling optimistic! yay for pg symptoms!

Teagam - a home birth sounds fab! unfortunately for us - we live in the sticks, so no-one would come here and its a bit too far from town/hospital if things don't go smoothly.

possum - I look forward to seeing you back here soon too! I am glad that your m/c is complete - at least avoiding D&C is some small consolation. 3 months would have been an ordeal.

Hello to everyone else and sorry to those I missed!

AFM - 31 weeks. Yes WOW Dory is a good way to describe it.
I still have morning sickness (damn it!). I am finding it really hard at the moment. Because, as I am sure you all understand, we so wanted this bub, and were devestated at the loss of our angels, I always imagined that I would just lurv being pg. Well I don't, dare I say it, I hate it! So as well as the MS, I have reflux, so I can vomit at night too. And I have huge swollen feet. I have to monitor my BP to make sure it is not the beginings of pre-eclampsia, but fortunatley BP although a little high is OK. I mean, I don't want the baby out by anymeans, I just want to be able to be happy and glowing and enjoy the pg, and then I feel so guilty for feeling, well, like crap. I am so tired. I have got "clicky hips" (Pelvic Girdle Dysfunction), so my sacro-illiac joints click in and out, and my symphis pubis feels like I have spent a month on a horse. So it hurts to sit. It hurts to ly down, on either side. I can lay on my back for a while, but even that is painful, and you're not supposed to lay on your back when pg anyway. Even with pillows all around me, if I do fall asleep, I find that I have chucked them all out of the bed and when I wake I find I am laying on my back.
I have also been told that For swollen feet - sit or ly with your feet elevated.
For reflux, sit or ly with your head and shoulders elevated.
How do you do both? GRRRR
sorry ladies, that's just how I feel.

Having said that, We booked in to the hospital last week, so that made it all very real, and was very exciting. But it was also triggery too. The room they sent me into was the room that I had to go in when I had my m/c last year, and it was all a bit de ja vous and I started to cry, and feeling emotional couldn't stop. The midwife was really good, especially when I told her how horrible I was finding pg, and how guilty I was feeling because of it. I mean I know I have to go this journey to get the reward at the end, I just wish the journey itself could be enjoyable too, IKWIM? I mean, I spent first trimester spewing and scared of m/c. I spent second trimester spewing and scared, and then now I am passed 30 weeks, and can relax somewhat, I am just overwhelmed with even more spewing and exhaustion and pain. Why can't this be fun?

sorry for my moan ladies. I really am, and I hope it's not too triggery. I know it sounds selfish to those who have just lost their angels, and those at the beginning of their journey, and I really don't mean it to be, so I hope you forgive me my moan.

Bellyrubs.

[timeforafamily]

Dory – About the pins and needles, Vitamin B6 may help, but definitely ask your OB about that. Maybe I do too much reading. Which fingers does it tingle in most? If it’s in the little finger and ring finger it’s more to do with ulnar nerve compression (funny bone). If it’s in the thumb and first finger it can be more to do with carpal tunnel syndrome which is related to swelling of hands from no movement eg. When we are asleep. Worse on waking. Otherwise it may be brachial nerve compression, coming more so from shoulder armpit area. Just being reading about all this because I’ve had tingling in my R) hand. Or just blame the whole thing on being nearly 30 weeks pregnant, you go girl. Just hope it doesn’t bother you too much.

I want to stay and chat, but know it's better for me to get to bed right now. Got our 6 week 5 days U/S in the morning, then work in the afternoon. Cheers all