I thought this might be the right place for me to post. I had it confirmed at OB today that i have just had my 9th chemical pregnancy as they call it. My OB is awesome and he Let me have a cry and said he knew it must be so hard to lose so many babies. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have had a tonne of tests and they can't find anything wrong with us. Everything is normal apparantly.
I just feel so emotionally wrecked. The doctor told me in their office on friday Congrats your preg only to have cramping and bleeding and end up in emergency 3 am the next morning.
I don't know whether we should just keep trying or stop all together
Megs mum DH sounds like he's pulling his weight well good to hear. Hope you're feeling ok.
WTH Poor DH and DP their in for trouble with all these hormones. But hay when they're not there they complain. so enjoy I say. Have you tried tissue salts for your cramps? They worked a charm when I was in the tropics.
Easha hope you are managing to slow down, it's easier said than done.
zstar how's the meds going on your MS hope it helps
MeredithD glad all is hanging in there. hope you find a wig that makes you feel better
Cantwaittobeamum well your DH would be waiting with baited breath glad all is on track.
Josh'smum glad you can share your feelings, I was a MESS at my MC time and I don't think anyone of us is any diff. DH sounds like he's doing the right thing being reassuring but it's still on our minds.
MrsHendo Only you can know if your ready. sorry for your loss.
ATM Just cruzing, work is tiring and at 3pm I'm still flaking out and now getting headaches. Not sure about popping pain killers but Panadol should be fine, seems to not come back after. Can't wait for the "honeymoon faze" where is it?
Just popping in quickly to reply to Mrs Hendo. I am hoping I can help you...
Firstly, I am very sorry for your loss. The constant let-downs must be really upsetting and obviously you want this baby so very much.
You mentioned you have had "a tonne of tests". There are tests, and then, there are TESTS. I have suffered recurrent MC (two were chromosonal, two were unexplained) and initially had some basic tests done with my GP. I then had some more blood clotting-type tests done with an FS, including homocysteine, ANA, anticardioplin, etc. I eventually invested in the SIVF recurrent MC program. Basically we did a lot of blood tests over a monthly cycle, plus they perform an ultrasound, NK cell biopsy (from uterus) and another more involved ultrasound involving inserting sterile saline inside so they can get a very good image of how you are functioning. The tests go above and beyond the standard investigative tests your GP of FS may offer (about 40 tests all up). Ultimately I invested in IVF with PGD, as we knew part of my problem was probably age-related chromosonal issues (though ironically all four of my embryos tested have been normal).
There is a really good link here with some great information:
zstar - Glad that the one day at a time approach is working well for you. I too had constant nausea, but I did vomit every once in a while as well. It was hard having to go to work and pretend I felt fine. That was as draining as the actual m/s itself. For a while, weekends were strictly couch days for me - I needed the downtime. It is hard to enjoy pregnancy when you feel like crap all the time. It did affect my work for a while, but now that I'm over it I'm more productive than ever. I hope the medication is helping.
cantwaittobeamum - I am so sorry for the losses that have had to endure. Congratulations on our current pregnancy. May it be a sticky one
megsmum - Sorry that cough is still hanging around. Things are looking good, I hope the OB is right! Sending loads of labour vibes. I'm eagerly awating a birth announcement.
WTH - Wow, being told to eat more. That would be my dream come true. I'm hungry all the time, but am trying to make healthy choices so that I don't feel guilty for eating so much. Yay for buying for bubba.
greenslw - What an awesome boss you have! It's great to feel supported at work. I hope that the other staff can be just as happy for you and not make your remaining time more stressful. I hope the headaches ease soon. Panadol is fine to take during pregnancy.
lauren - I'm sure everyone is excited for you and will be supportive of you whatever happens. Its hard to find that balance between excitement and caution. My DH was really unwilling to tell anyone before 12 weeks so that motivated me to keep my mouth shut whenever I had the urge to tell. We've been robbed of the innocence that many get to experience with their pregnancies, so good on you for getting so excited that you felt you had to tell. Don't feel bad about wanting to celebrate this baby. Sorry the m/s is being hard on you. When I had m/s I could never really get rid of the nausea entirely, but I found that eating something small every hour or so helped to ease it. Also, I stayed well away from eating things I didn't feel like as forcing myself to eat things just because they were good for me only made me feel worse. I think I lived on green apples and crumpets for about 8 weeks. As long as you're taking vitamins bubs will be fine - he/she gets first dibs on any nutrients in your system.
josh'smum - Welcome and congratulations! Its great to see so many new faces here in recent weeks. Goodluck with the ultrasound
erybery - How did your appointment go?
babymiracles - Great to see you pop in so we get a peak at your ticker.
Easha - Glad you're settling in to your new place. Perhaps your BP will settle down now that the move is over. At least you don't have long to go at work.
possums - Great to see you. I know you'll be back here soon.
jenushka - How are you and miss L doing?
Meredith - Glad things are going along. Sorry the ultrasound didn't go well...hopefully bubs will be better behaved for the next one.
Mrs Hendo - I am so sorry for your losses. I really don't know what else to say....I hope WTH's info can be of use to you.
AFM - DH and I layby'ed the first items last weekend. Nothing big, just a portacot and a 'my little bed' so that bubs doesn't roll around in the cot. We also had a look at prams and think we have decided on the one we want. I hadn't planned to buy anything until 3rd trimester, but the sales are on now and this way we have more time to research and don't have to rush into things because we're running out of time.
Just dropping in for a quick hi everyone and thanks for the well wishes and labour vibes.
Still not a lot of action here, I had a few contractions last night and started to get hopeful, but they are pretty much gone today So the induction is looking increasingly likely for tomorrow. I go into hospy at 4pm to have the gel and then wait and see after that - I think most probably we will spend the night there and then I will have my waters broken at 8am Saturday if nothing happens in the meantime. I may not get on line tomorrow though, still have much to do and of course holding onto a little hope that things will happen naturally of course....
Will try and post sometime next week to let everyone know how we get on Thanks for all the wonderful support over the last 9 months, and I hope some of my lurking friends are also reading this - but thanks to you all too
Megsmum - I just wanted to pop in and wish you all the very best for the next few days. Hoping your little one decides to come along all by herself. Looking forward to your special news.
to all my old friends - I do lurk around here, just don't get much time to pop in and post - managed to score today off work - yay
and to all the newly pregnant ladies - Congratulations - I hope that you have a totally uneventful, happy & healthy nine months
Megsmum - how exciting your so close to meeting your little one!
hannah - Yay for baby shopping, just so much fun!
Mrs hendo - I am just so sorry for your loss, you deserve to have a healthy and sticky bub! xox
AFM- bad news at my ob appoint yesterday. I had high BP 150/100 and protein in my urine, so hoping its not pre exclampsia. Ive always been healthy and never had a problem with BP so not sure why? I had blood tests done and have to see Ob again tomorrow to be checked again.
Have any of you girls had this happen before?
good to hear. Hope you're feeling ok. 
Poor DH and DP their in for trouble with all these hormones. But hay when they're not there they complain. so enjoy I say. Have you tried tissue salts for your cramps? They worked a charm when I was in the tropics.
glad all is on track.
Great to see you pop in so we get a peak at your ticker.
and thanks for the well wishes and labour vibes. 
So the induction is looking increasingly likely for tomorrow. I go into hospy at 4pm to have the gel and then wait and see after that - I think most probably we will spend the night there and then I will have my waters broken at 8am Saturday if nothing happens in the meantime. I may not get on line tomorrow though, still have much to do and of course holding onto a little hope that things will happen naturally of course....
Thanks for all the wonderful support over the last 9 months, and I hope some of my lurking friends are also reading this - but thanks to you all too 
to all the newly pregnant ladies - Congratulations - I hope that you have a totally uneventful, happy & healthy nine months
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