Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 2011

Reet get reading the more you know the better its less scary that way.
yes the cord is quite long bubs will be on your chest and it wont pull. the placenta comes away with more contractions its not pulled as its attached to the uterus wall you can wait for it to come on its own or they often give an injection in your leg to get it to come away from the uterus which is what i had. Its a funny sensation when it comes out and might need you to push a little not that you normally care as you have a new baby to look at in your arms :-)
Yes you contract right up till the baby is out and some more (less intense) to get the placenta out. The most intense contractions are in transition where they are right on top of each other and then they change as you push the baby out and you get a rest between them. The pushing stage in a first baby can last for 1 -2 hours depends on the size of bubs head and shoulders the rest slips out. I pushed for over an hour with Ella and need a vaccum delivery as i got tired and she was a bit stuck. Im hoping this baby comes a bit easier than that
Are you doing some Antenatal classes? as me and DP found them really helpful even though he whinged about going before we went
Also a good way to meet new mums - we still meet up with our babies 2 years later.
No question is silly ask away :D

reet - my last scan was 6 weeks so no :( thats why im stressing i dont want it to happen again!
a lady in another thread had her baby stop growing at 8 weeks 5 days, i was thinking that after 8 weeks youre sort of okay!
now im scared! plus i keep having dreams everynight that i start bleeding and miscarry its freakin me out!
but i think im ok - i dunno, im still nauseous and getting headaches and stuff but you never know..
the appt is at 2.20pm at the hospital in bairnsdale, about half an hour away where dh works, so he is coming with me! he is so excited which is great. he thought you would be able to see the sex of the baby, god love him.
im the same as you, i HAVE to know everything! i dont want any surprises!
ohh hiccups! how cute, i cant wait til i can feel things..

we bought a stroller off ebay on the weekend, she used it 3 times to push her baby around the house, went to pick it up, it was in perfect condition, not a mark/scratch on it! we got it for $106 and she paid $349 in oct last year! bargain! even dh loves it, i think im going to have a fight on my hands to push the baby :P

hi everyone else, i hope youre all well :)

have a lovely day ladies

Reet-Oh god yeh every day since i found out the placenta has moved except if its to hot there is no way.
And i am glad you are trying not to worry so much i think i told someone once that there is really no point because once your a mum thats it the worry begins from abnormal babies to stillbirth then SIDS and on to childhood illness to stranger danger then alcohol and drugs and now for me car accidents as my nearly 18 yr old is learning to drive:pray: so just give up and cross your fingers and hang on for the ride of your life.
OH! i will say i wouldnt change a thing i have loved every minute of it.
And your questions are legit the cord is normally long enough to reach for bub to be put on your chest.
The midwives sometime gently pull on the cord to help the placenta out but only if the placenta starts to come away after the injection they give you they did with my boys.
My contractions are painfull until the transition then stop then the pressure of baby coming down is all i feel the uterus is still contracting to push bub out but i dont have the pain with them at that stage so it can be different for some women.
I know my sister was the same painful contractions until transition then nothing but pressure and pushing and burning v jay jay.
With pushing i have only had to push for about 5-10 minutes with all mine even my 1st i seem to wait until the head is right down and i get that heavy pressure feeling before i push but again different for some women.

Alish-sometimes the 12 weeks scan if in 3D you can see the sex my girlfriend did it was a boy so pretty obvious but dont get your hopes up.

AFM-Yeh! i had a reasonable sleep last night.
I just want to know am i having a c section in 22 days or am i going natural in 36 days arrggghh!!!! i hate the unknown.

T-Hopes-woo hooo on getting RAK'ed did i say that already a few posts back so many girls are getting RAK'ed i forget who i congradulated.

Dory-theres no shame in not being sure as a 1st time mum i had way to much milk with all my boys and was engorged all the time so bubs had a lot of trouble attatching hence the split cracked bleeding nipples and mastitis so i have S26 gold packed in my hospital bag for backup just in case.
And 2nd 3rd ect babies are so much easier cause you just know what your doing and there is no fear you are relaxed and just get on with it.

Reet - oh sweetie - I am so glad you've asked all those questions! Kell said it pretty good.

Some women, like me, also get after pains, well into the day after delivery. Basically just the uterus still contracting as in essence everything is less tight and fit than it was the first time.... the Obs said it's more common in second and subsequent vaginal deliveries. I didn't know about it so it was quite a surprise and more painful than I would have thought. But as you're a first timer, you shouldn't have to deal with that.

Transition is often the hardest time where you might shake, get the shivers, scream for it all to be over and want to go home. And once you're dialted and effaced you do have to push and it can last a while but only during the contractions, and hopefully there will be time in between them to rest. Before you experience it you wonder how will I know to push? But you do know and your body knows. It will tell you. It's an almost irresistable urge.

Take some energy drinks with you and some snacks, just in case you need an energy boost. Things that deliver a quick burst of energy - sugars and they're also easier on your tum.

PML when Kell said delivering the placenta can feel a bit weird. Right on there! It is a very WEIRD sensation.

Sophie's cord wasn't long enough for her to be placed on my chest immediately - poor wee girl only got to my tummy - I never asked why- maybe it was because she was twin 2 and so was much higher up in the uterus ( and I have a very long torso, for my height)...

I am just so excited for you.... I know it's scary because it's all a little unknown, but you'll do an excellent job and it is truly the most amazing experience ever. I would do it all again in an instant. To birth your own child is such an awesome and uplifting and yes painful, experience. But well worth it.

Ferrals - thanks sweetie... for building me up. Any news on Murray?

Anyway, off to run my errands... kinda looking forward to it but dreading it at the same time.

belly rubs.

Hi ladies!

Reet - No such thing as silly questions! This is my 1st bub too so im just as curious about things as you are! Ive been doing a bit of reading on labor and its really helped my mind from wandering outta control! Im not scared (yet) of giving birth, I know its gunna hurt like no pain i can even imagine but i figure everyone goes back for more so its gunna be more than worth it!
Ive also got the fear about something being wrong with bubs - my sisters little boy has a very rare genetic disease called Ectodermal Dysplasia, we have no idea where is has come from in the family as he is the 1st to any of our knowledge to be born with it. As much as he is a gorgeous little boy, they are lucky as he has it mild but in some cases it is very bad! He has no teeth and never will have, he is 6y/old and wears dentures! It also means he cannot sweat and he overheats dangerously fast. He also had very sparse whitish coloured hair, they all seem to look the same! Thees a lot more to it but he is otherwise a normal, little boy! Very intelligent and active 6y/old. ED is mainly common in boys but girls can be the carrier! So i worry since we dont know where the heck it came from, that i am a carrier! The geneticist doesnt believe i will be a carrier as i would have had to have shown certain traits like dry skin, eczma, thin hair and thin brows! I have the opposite to ALL of those symptoms! I have thick, thick hair and brows, oily skin and suffered from acne not dry skin conditions! There is no in-vitro testing for it in Australia yet so not much we could do! My sisters 2nd little boy doesnt have it so they think maybe it was just one of those freak things that could have started in him!
Its a fear that sits in the back of my mind but no matter what my love for this bub is un-conditional. It worries me for the babies sake, not mine. I hate to think its little life may be harder because of it, i dont care about mine but worry for bubbys sake if that makes sense!?! Anyway what im trying to say is what will be will be :)

Ferrals - glad you got a good nights sleep! Please reveal your secrets! Im miles behind you and sleeping is a nightmare already! Eiiik!

AFM - im at home today and half of yesterday having a sicky, had a stinking headache yesterday and so exhausted but starting to come good now after resting!
Friends of DH's had a baby boy last night and they used our EXACT baby boy name! So spewing! Even the same middle name! Dont ya hate that! Ah well we aint changing so may have two boys within 4mths of each other with the same name!

Oh and im 24wks today! Hoooorrrraaaaay! Hurry up June, I cant wait to meet our bub!! :happydance: :bellyrubs: P.S we arent finding out the sex of this bub but I am getting soooo tempted too! Someone stop me!!!! We promised ourselves we wouldnt!!!

T hopes - be strong! It is tempting to find out, but so glorious not to. Congrats on 24 weeks... now I must really go.

Reet you need to wait until the placenta is seperating from the wall of the uterus as otherwise there is a risk of pulling the uterus out also (inverted uterus where its inside out if that makes sense very unpleasant) I've only seen this twice so its rare but if you just pulled the cord the rate would be much higher. Or else you can pull the cord and snap it or rip it of the placenta. Often when this happens and this is common its not a problem and the mother can push the placenta out without any cord traction but sometimes it will cause haemorrage as until the placenta has detached from the uterus it has a lovely vessel supply. Not a problem for bub as he/she is out by then but it can be from mum. Another reason for a physiological 3rd stage of labour in comparison to active (drugs, tugging etc) as its allowing it to come on its own.

With my first I pushed for 2.5hrs but she was posterior and the midwife had me pushing before I had any urge so I didn't have my body to go with. I think had I been allowed to wait until the urge was there it would have been quicker. I insisted on waiting with no2 although I'd been fully dilated for 30minutes before and when I pushed it took literally 1minute and she was out. That time I couldn't have not pushed for the life of me.

As for the cord been to short I have only come across that 2-3times and then its clamped and cut so mum can have bub on her chest. The few I've seen have been so short that they have needed to be cut to get them above the vagina if that makes sense. One was about 25cm and it did cause a few minor complications. Mum had some tugging during labour on one side (where the cord was attached) and when she pushed the baby was stuck as the cord wasn't long enough. It did snap all was ok but now I'd be more aware if someone complained about a tugging sensation during labour. But I'd say well over 99% of cords are normal length.

T-Hopes woohoo on been 24weeks. Your so close now don't find out.

Well my morning resulted in me getting a flat tyre 40kms from home on a dirt road. My car is a patrol so I knew I couldn't change the tyre (Ive been doing it for years) but the weight of the tyre been pregnant made it impossible. Luckily my Dad was able to come to the rescue or else I'd still be walking.

I think it's official - I am officially addicted to BB. I need help.... I should be out doing gardening ( well maybe not in this blustery wind) or I should be doing housework whilst HB is asleep... but no here I am, furiously checking the threads. I have given myself some leniency over the next couple of days but then with any luck I will hopefully take a bit more of a back seat.....

Mildez - poor sweetie - Yay for Dad's to the rescue.... that's a pretty decent amount of time to be pushing my dear... well done.

Seriously ladies how am i meant to keep up!

Reet: everyone seems to have answered your questions. Thomas cord was shortish and the placenta fell out at the same time as the baby! so it was on the floor and we had to cut it quickly so i could hold him properly... Id say that the contractions sort of stop...i mean in the way that whilst your in labour they are intense but as soon as you get the urge to push there is NO pain, just a purpose and something to concentrate! The afterpains Dory explained get worse the more kids you habe so normally none for your first and very stronge for my 4th....everytime the baby sucked i contracted, ouchy!

Dory you asked me if having your 2nd or more is harder or easier than your first..... Well thank the lord no nothing is ever as hard as having your first baby.
All those preconcieved ideas you had, the worry the unknowns...The 6 week rule still applys but you are more confident, so you truely believe it will end. You get less stupid advice and are more able to filter what you do get. Yes you have to juggle more, yes you are probably more tired but you are more use to the lack of sleep. And you have the joy of sharing the experience with the children you have.
And sadly you say "why did no one tell you it was this hard" Well people did you just didnt want to listen and they just didnt deliever it the right way. People dont want to hear how hard it is before they have a baby, one views are allthrough rose coloured glasses. But thats the right of a pregnant women, the key is to be there as support when your friends need them after the birth when the going gets tough. Think about it, could any advice have made it easier? Nope its a learning curve we all must go through!

Oh THANKYOU SO MUCH girls for all ur replies to my questions!!! What wld i do without u! U all have a few different stories so its given me a bit of an overview of what i cld expect.. im going to read over all ur replies a few times so it all sinks in a bit better.

Kell-We have an antenatal class on the 12th march.. im having our baby at the private hospital here and they only do the one 8 hour class.. im happier with that then going every week since dh works away alot.. luckily its his week off that week. Im also thinking of doing the ABA course thingy.. its apparently a really good b/f course... i wld rather have a bit of my own knowledge so i dont have to listen to everyone telling me what to do and how to do it!
If i have any more questions i wont hesitate to ask all u knowledgable women.. u are so much help! :)

Alish- Was there more then just a sac at ur last scan?? Gosh i dont know how u have done it, i wld have definitely had to have another scan for peace of mind! U will be fine tho, the 12 week scan is the best, its so hard to believe that ur baby is still so little when it looks like a fully formed little human! So ur definitely going to find out the sex at ur 20 week scan?
Well done on ur stroller purchase! Bargain! Funny how males love prams.. my dh is insisting i wait til hes home to choose one.. hes got all these little requirements for it.. haha im glad he knows a bit about them.. i have no idea! As long as i can push it im happy.. ive had a terrible time in the past trying to push my SIL's babies.. the pram just wasnt going where i wanted it too!

Ferrals- Gosh u always hit the nail on the head.. u are so right.. my mum has mentioned a few times that once u have kids u know what constant worrying is like... its just one of those things i dont think u understand until ur a parent. Gosh i know i wld have tried a bit more to be an angel in my teenage years if i had known how worried my mum was! Love ur comment 'hang on for the ride of ur life!' haha so true..

Dory- Oooh energy drinks during labour hey??! yummo! My addiction was V's before i fell pg... i see them now in shop fridges and just gaze at the wistfully.. haha u have got me all excited! One of those will definitely boost my energy levels and spirits! Ill have to double check there ok when b/f.. im sure one wont hurt during labour tho..

Oh and i imagine that delivering the placenta wld feel a bit weird... (TMI!!!) about 4 days after my m/c started, i 'delivered' the sac.. it was about the size of my palm.. i was in the shower and just felt this big thing gulump (cldnt think of any other word to describe it!) out of me... it was a bit bizarre! I was tempted to just try and jam it down the plug hole :redface: i dont know what i was thinking.. thank goodness i didnt! I got some toilet paper, picked it up and woke up dh to see it.. probably not the best thing to be woken up too!

Im very curious about our dear friend Murraycod too! Where oh where is she??!

T-Hopes- Oh ur poor little nephew, he sounds like he manages quite well tho! I can understand ur fears, but im sure everything will be alright with ur beautiful little baby.. its sad how these freakish things can just happen. You have helped to put things into perspective for me.. i know i wld love our little baby regardless too.. i started feeling really overwhelmed the other day wondering how I wld manage looking after a disabled baby and all the things I wld miss out on.. like b/f possibly etc, very very selfish of me!
Like ferrals said the other day, women are made tough to cope with whatever life throws at us. I guess all u can hope is that ur baby is going to be healthy but yep what will be will be!
Oh and how on earth did dhs friends name there baby exactly what u want to name urs??! Did they copy u???! Thats crazy.. and quite annoying!
Stay strong with not finding out the sex too! Im finding it really really difficult.. especially since im getting u/s's every couple weeks from now on at my ob's office! It will be worth it tho.. :)

Mildez- Oh hopefully i get a good midwife that doesnt make me push too soon, hopefully they only tell me too once my body feels the need too.. pushing for 1 minute sounds a lot easier!
U poor thing getting a flat tyre! That really sux. Thank god for ur Dad! Theres no way i cld lift a tyre now.. U wld have been absolutely crazy to try too! Did anyone drive past that cld have helped in the time u were waiting??

AFM- Feeling so so sad about the earthquake in Christchurch, its absolutely devastating. Its making me feel sick watching it on the news.. i just cant seem to turn it off tho. Give me a cyclone anyday over an earthquake, atleast there is warning. All those poor injured ppl and families that have lost loved ones :( We got married just near Christchurch, it is such a beautiful city, so many old buildings that have been damaged and wont ever be able to be replaced. Its all so sad :cry:
Its making me worry a bit that im bringing a baby into this crazy world...

OMG i wrote a post and did some persies and its not there..arrggggg dont you hate that

Im having one of those days and im tired....

My backs actually quiet sore and my stomachs real tight.....anyone have this after scan? do you think its all the prodding and poking she did? the baby was doing flips while she was trying to get shots so i dont think she was too happy...

Reet no we live in the sticks. I was on my way to visit my parents on their property so had been on the dirt road (of the main highway) for about 3kms when it blew. Luckily my Dad heard his mobile which lives in his ute as he was walking past it about to get in his tractor and go bush. Thank the lord as I was even contemplating driving it the way it was (it has a 3" hole in it where I obviously hit a rock on the gravel) I know I could have stuffed the rim but even if I got a few kms closer would have been good. Gee I'd be in trouble if I did do that! I was working on my plan of attack when my Dad answered. The joys of having a massive beast of a vechile I guess. I reckon I could safely lift a small tyre but not one for my vechile.

Dory - Oh yes, can't wait to powder that little bot-bot... lol. So true that it obviously isn't that bad considering how many people have more than one baby. I think the first time would definitely be the most nerve-racking and brutal hehe. I'll be thinking of you and your precious Amelia tomorrow. :hug:

Reet - Appointment went well, I was a bit annoyed that the Dr was slightly cranky (with the receptionist) and so was very rush rush and quite impersonal this time. I guess we all have cruddy days.... but yeah. It doesn't feel like a bowling ball between my legs yet, more like a bowling ball on my bladder. I will definitely find the time to answer any questions you have even once I have a newborn to take care of. Afterall, you were here first lol. As for your questions about labour, I think the other ladies have said all I was going to say. But girlfriend, get yourself some books STAT! Hehe :) You will feel so much more at ease knowing exactly what happens (or usually happens). I do have some book reccomendations. I've read: "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth", "Active Birth", "Kid Wrangling", "The Birth Partner", "What to expect when you're expecting", "Hypnobirthing", and "So you're going to be a Dad". Ok, I've read a lot. And I only read the dad book because one of us should dangit! DP 'doesn't do reading'..... pfffft. I found all of those books really good. Ina May's and Active Birth were particularly enlightening. I can give you the names of the authors too if you like. :) Also, this may or may not help....... but here's how I look at it. I try not to think of labour as 'pain'. (even though it may very well be excruciating). I'm trying to think of it as just plain old hard work. If I go into it expecting it to be very painful, then it's more likely to be that way. However if I go in there with the most positive mindset I can muster, even though I know there will be pain, it will be productive pain. Every contraction just means i'm closer to holding my baby. We'll see how that holds up in the delivery room, lol.......... but that's the mindset that for now is keeping me from being nervous about the birth.

Possum - Look at your sweet little peach on your ticker.. :)

Alish - The odds are in your favour. Missed mc's are not so common and the fact you still have nausea etc is very encouraging. Also you're right, the odds of mc are lowered after 8 wks, and again after 12. I don't know the statistics... but things are looking good for you. :hug: Oh and great work on the stroller, bargain!

Ferrals - Ahh sleep. What's that? LOL, I'm at the point where it's hard to get any decent zzz's when every time I roll I wake right up because I'm too heavy to just flop over onto the other side. Not to mention the sound of my spine/pelvis cracking.. it's SO loud lol. The unknown is the worst part, isn't it?? I'm not afraid of going into labour..... I'm just afraid it'll happen at an inconvenient time :)

T-Hopes - Wow 24 weeks! Congrats :) I hope you're feeling better after a good rest........ and I too would be spewing if someone stole our boys name! I have a few up my sleeve though, my favourite of which is (don't laugh) Axel. I don't know why but it was the first boys name to 'jump out' at me and it stuck in my head. Oh and I agree with Dory. Not finding out the sex makes things VERY exciting.... we can't wait to find out whether it's a pink or blue bundle for us!

Mildez - Oh how sucky getting a flat tyre! Glad you didn't have to walk all that distance.

Tegam - Great advice. I'm going to try to think of the first 6 weeks of motherhood as 'boot camp'. Kinda like the first few weeks in a new job. Plus sleep deprivation and there's no training provided lol.

AFM - Getting tireder and tireder by the day. I've had a couple of catnaps already today, and feel like I could go for another one! I suppose I should rest while I can. Not much else is going on..... the Dr says bubby is still reasonably high, not engaged yet, so basically a rebel without a cause. LOL.

reet - it was a sack with the blood pumping through it, like the heart wasnt fully formed yet!
ive been going mental! i couldnt get in and they wouldnt book me in so ive had to deal with it!
dh loved the pram, he never had a choice but im glad he likes it!

thanks forshelby - i know im going to be ok but there is always that doubt, hopefully 3rd times a charm!! p.s 20 days to go wooohooo!

Hello ladies

How you travelling Alish?

Forshelby...get as many catnaps in as you need...i remember my last pregnancy i would be finishing work and go home and get straight in bed and eat my t in there and then not move...this one im not as lucky coz i have DD wanting me to play with her and read her books lol

Mildez, how are you?

Reet...we have family over in NZ but luckily there not near christchurch....and we were only over there a year ago right in those spots....poor people

How are you going Tegam, hows bubs?

Dory, when DD was small and i knew i should be sleeping i always happened to do everything else and i would say i would go to sleep in a sec...the next minute she was awake again!!!! its very hard

Thopes..Congratualations on the 24 weeks...i cant help you...i was so so so strong until the day we went in for the scan and then i caved..got her to write it on a piece of paper so mum didnt know and then we looked later lol

ATM..im struggling at work these last few days..im really tired and seriously just cant be bothered. The days are taking forever..hopefully i can have a sleep in tomorrow. Tummy is still feeling quiet tight but no bad pains...all the stress's has taken a toll on mum so i hope she doesnt get a panic attack..she normally does a couple weeks after the fact..she is off work today so i hope it doesnt start up her staying in her room and not coming out......bring on lunch..i have been a bit hungry these last few days..think baby is having a growth spirt...oh well im just grateful im heaps smaller than last time

Melster - I used to get a sore back after an u/s mostly because of the awful flat on my back position required. Also, their beds were rock hard. I wouldn't worry too much. :hug: I hope you get that much needed sleep in you're wanting. :)

Alish - That number sounds so small....... I'm going to have a baby in 20 days? :o

AFM - Well, I decided to go for a tour of the hospital last night. I wasn't nervous................. but NOW I AM!!!!! Just seeing the birthing room made my knees shake lol. DP had to shove me into the room because I was too scared to go in there. Ladies kept asking me how far along I am, (probably because I was the biggest belly in there) and surprisingly one of them was a week ahead of me! I still feel all freaked out just thinking of that room now. I had a dream last night about it, and we had a girl. Now, I have to go and just try to shake off this weird panicky feeling I have. Dangit and I was doing so well, not worried at all.... then I see a hospital room and feel like I might wet my pants in fear. :o

Forshelby~ i remmber when i went on the tour everything hit me dead in the face how nervouse i was. but everything will be fine .

Hi gals!

Forshelby - 20days to go! Bring it on! How exciting! :dance: Yeah so annoying that they used the name we love! We havent told anyone other than my sisters and folks so they certainly didnt copy, just a pure conincidence! Sorta hard to explain their connectionn to us, but Dh used to play footy with him and his brother ended up marrying my bestest friend so its my best friends nephew now! Does that make sense? Anyway, disappointing all the same! Axel is cute! I love hearing ppls names!

Anyway big hello to everyone! Im off for a haircut now and a few highlights! Soooo exciting! Its been 12wks so im looking like a troll.... not for long!!

xx

Forshelby: You'll be OK i promise, just go to hospital late if you dont like the feel of it! Or go in a different room!

Mel: We are great thank you! Molly is lovely and 100% happy of she is having a cuddle, lucky for me i can co sleep ;) Sorry to hear you are so tired, baby probably having a growth spurt in there!

Thopes, its been so much longer than 12weeks for me.....and i am not even going to talk about waxing :rofl: Enjoy the cut!

AFM: Going camping tomorrow....nuts...what could go wrong......:rofl:

hi melster! im going good, hanging for friday! 2 more sleeps!!
its no fun being tired huh, im so tired now i cant imagine how tired ill be later on! and hungry, ill be a whale soon haha!
glad to hear youre going well though!

forshelby - 19 now! yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dont be nervous, you will do great and everything will be fine :)

thopes - how good is getting your hair done, you always feel like a million bucks .... until dh dosent even notice hahaha!

tegam - yay for camping have fun! we are going friday arvo for a night, i have to work on sunday otherwise we would have stayed two!!

hi everyone else! love and belly rubs! :D

Mildez- Oh ur very lucky ur dad heard the mobile ringing!! We've just bought a patrol for our family car.. im not even sure i cld change its tyres not pregnant!! Just looked at ur ticker and it says baby is soon to be head down.. is she head down for u yet do u know?? Im looking forward to my next ob. appointment to see if mine is, i really dont think he/she is yet tho, i dont get any movements below my bellybutton really.. mainly to the sides and ribs.. im thinking its sideways alot.. but really i have no idea whatsoever! I feel like i shld know what body part it is poking out but nope! Arent i hopeless!

Forshelby- The dr was angry at the receptionist and u managed to figure this out?! Wow they shld probably be keeping their little issues to themselves! My ob. rushes things all the time, it really annoys me, a man of very few words. Its like In and out in 2 mins and then ching ching.. goodbye $70! Oh well seeing baby makes it all worthwhile i guess, even if it is only 30 seconds worth!
Oh bowling ball on ur bladder, how awful! I really struggle now if my bladder is a little full and baby goes near it, what an uncomfortable feeling!
Ok ok im going to go to the book store and buy some baby books, i will write down the ones u suggested and buy a couple that look the most appealing to me! My dh wont read either so theres not much point getting any daddy books.
U really do sound terrified of that hospital room! Is it cos its all just white, bare looking and sterile??? Not homely looking at all? Ill be doing the tour in a couple weeks, atleast ill have a few weeks to forget my fears before i go into labour!
I keep thinking ive got 9 weeks to get our house in order etc. but really if ur feeling exhausted and needing catnaps all the time i better get my butt into gear and get it all done very soon! Im sure i will just want to kick back the last few weeks anyway and relax! Are u feeling ready to have the baby?? Theres no little jobs u feel like u need to get done still?? I have got the longest list of things still to do around here, its a bit stressful! I dont know why i feel as though i need to get it all done, its not like im going to be paralysed once this baby comes!

Alish- 2 sleeps 2 sleeps! Soon to be 1 sleep!

Melster- I hope u manage to get a sleep in tomoro! U sound like u need it!

Tegam- Have fun camping! Hope the weather is beautiful! Do u just have 1 big tent to fit u all??? Gosh u wld have to pack a lot of stuff for a family of 6! I struggle with packing for just dh and myself!

AFM- OMG im so over all this creamy CM.. sorry i know its TMI but its so awful! I get out of the shower in the morning and if i dont put a panty liner straight into my knickers they are a mess! :redface: Im normally someone that sleeps with nothing on but definitely cant do that anymore! Dh is away at the moment which is probably a good thing, DTD wld be pretty messy i imagine! Im getting pretty over it!

Im starting to miss my boy so much.. :( hes been away for almost 2 weeks and still has another week to go. I feel really sorry for him too... Hes missing out on seeing our little pup getting bigger plus my growing tummy and all the crazy big movements im getting. Its been ages since hes been away non stop for this long.. i think thats why im finding it hard. His sister is flying in and staying at our place tomoro until monday and bringing 2 of her kids with her so that will be good, some company and a little baby to snuggle with! Shes got 5 kids so im hoping she can shed some light on what the different body parts are that poke out cos like i said to Mildez i have no idea but wld love to know!

reet - dh bought me a liberty wagon last year when we were preg cuz i had a 2 door lancer! that would have been crap to get the baby in and out of that!
where is your dh? away working? it sucks huh, dh used to work in melb and come home on weekends, i was really going insane without him!
look at your belly how cute, how far are you there? youre so tiny!! :)
my cm was that bad for a while i thought id wet my pants, its not as bad atm but i have my days haha!

1 MORE SLEEP!!!!

have a nice day ladies xoxox

Reet-ahhhh! the dreaded drippy vag pretty gross isnt it i have had it the worst with this bub to the point id be shopping and i say to DH ewwww i have to go to the loo it felt like the floodgates have opened mine was bad between 24-34 weeks and only just recently it has settled down and yes it is very hard to sleep naked and getting woken with a drippy bum crack:lol: so i had to sleep with undies and liner on also wow the joys of pregnancy mabye i should put that in ella's baby book lol.

Alish-1 more sleep now.

Tegam-have fun camping i dont envy you at all my idea of camping involves a cabin with hot water and toilet fridge ect i am most definately not a camper.

Forshelby-oooh 19 days to go sooo close i have my u/s next thursday to see if i am still having my c section on the 16th part of me wants to so i get to meet my girl sooner and i wont have to worry about her being born and the other part of me wants another natural birth like my last son just over and hour and sooo easy hardly any pain.

AFM-Last night Ella was going crazy in my belly you could see knee's and feet and she would push her back out one side and her feet out the other so DH got the video camera out and filmed it lol so funny she is a real little wriggler i hope she sleeps well once on the outside.
I am having the capsule fitted on monday DH's court hearing tuesday kids doc appointment in sydney on wednesday u/s thursday and OB appointment on friday so i will be very busy next week i think i will sleep all weekend in preparation.

Reet yes my baby is head down. I only get movements down the bottom which must be hands and elbows (I swear she is in my bladder not uterus but) I get alot of tightening up the top of the fundus which I think is her stretching most of the time. I'm told the placenta is on the top of the uterus stretching down the posterior wall (very different from my 19week scan) so perhaps thats why I don't get kicks as its cushioned by the placenta. Either that or she doesn't have legs or they dont work (another thing I stress about) I do get some strong pokes up under my ribs every few days so not regularly and also some weird pokes underneath my underarms but lower if that makes sense. It feels in a very weird spot. I know she is definately head down from the ultrasound I had a week ago. I was half expecting her to be breech but no she is head down where hopefully she will stay.

Ferrals when is your next scan?

OMG its almost March and we have lots of bubbas due then (and April)

Well this morning I witness my DDs guinea pig have babies. Makes our one baby look easy almost in comparison. She had 5! Although I think I could handle 10weeks of pregnancy for an instant family lol

I didn't see your post Ferrals. Your week does sound very busy. You better take it easy if you can. So lovely to hear little miss Ella kicking up a storm in there. She can give my baby some of her beans. Mine still is been very sluggish.

My drippy vag seems pretty dry at the moment. Like ferrals I find the wet bum crack very unpleasant. Thats worse then the other end for me. I constantly feel like I have a damp butt crack.

Alish- Yeah dh works away, hes normally gone for 3 weeks and home for 1... its not normally a full 3 weeks tho, most of the time he comes home for a day here and there between jobs. He works as a communications rigger so he climbs all those big towers that u get ur mobile phone reception from.. Always travelling around everywhere.
I was 29 weeks in that pic... im gonna take some more pics next week, i will probably be double that by then!
1 sleep 1 sleep!!

Ferrals- Oh i hope my drippy vag settles down at around the 34 week mark, that wld be great! The way its going tho i dont think theres any chance! Im just hoping it doesnt turn into thrush, which us far north qlders in the tropics are quite prone to getting, i wld hate to pass it onto our baby on its way out.
U do have a busy week next week, as tiring as they are, atleast the time goes fast when ur busy! U will have ur little girl in ur arms in no time at all! I hope u do manage to have a nice sleepy weekend this weekend.

Mildez- Oh good that ur bubba is head down, lets hope mine is as co-operative! When do u have another scan/ob. appointment?? Mine is next wed and then every 2 weeks til around 36 wks then weekly, yay! I get so excited waiting for ob. appointments!
Wow, i cant believe the guinea pig had 5 babies!!! Thats heaps! Poor mumma, no wonder she was huge! They are so cute when they are first born, bet ur DD was over the moon!

Im so excited for March to be here, then i can say we are having our baby NEXT MONTH!!! Yay!!

I had the itchiest tummy yesterday, it must be doing some serious stretching, lets hope it doesnt result in stretchmarks!

Just a quick one meant to get on yeseterday but ran out of time.
Was thinking of you Dory yesterday and Amelias birthday - hope you had a beautiful day remembering your gorgeous girl

Sending lots of love to Clairesmummy too and more hugs xoxox

10 weeks of preg sounds like bliss Mildez - lucky were not elephants though they are preg for 2 years poor things

Ferrals - what a busy week you have coming up! makes me tired just reading it lol

Alish - is your scan today or tommorow how exciting

Reet - i have no idea what parts are sticking out of me either i can only guess lol. the other morning when i woke i had i think his bum sticking right out. I cant tell between elbows and knees and his kicks are all over the place so i guess hes still got some room that is going to be fast running out soon.
Hope this week goes quick and your man is back soon.
i agree on the creamy CM so yukkkkkk

Tegam have fun camping - where are you going

Forshelby it will be fine - are you in the birth centre or is it the hospital part?

T- hopes - did you get your new haircut

Yah for March and April and our beautiful babies coming into the world how exciting!!!!

Mildez-:ROFL:I'm glad i'm not alone in the horrid uncomfortable wet bum crack.

Hehehhehehehehe! i better join the WBCC - Wet Bum Crack Club! :cryinglaugh::ROFL: Count me in! And why does it sweat so much when we need to poo badly??!

Hahahhahaha! and the smoodgy vag club! I carry around baby talc, baby wipes, panty liners and spare knickers in every hand bag! Its so gross! Ferrals - I have had many bolts to the loo at shopping centres too! Sometimes i get ****y and think - oh i wont need a liner today! :doh: Always wrong! Im a gambler!

T-Hopes-:rofl:dont you just hate that you venture out of the house forgeting the liner and in the middle of shopping ect you feel the surge of it coming and there is nothing you can do but slosh to the loo yuk!

Lol you girls are hilarous!!!
Count me in both so gross though :-)

Anyone know when i can start rasberry leaf tea is it 32 weeks?

OMG!!! I AM SOOOO BORED. the eldest son is at work the 2 youngest are at school DH has some casual work this week my house is emaculate.
I have nothing to do all my friends are at work and i am going crazy.

Kellbell-I think i have read 32 weeks i am almost 36 weeks so no use in me taking it now.
Although i never have before.

Ferrals is you were not on light duties and were not more pregnant then I and lived near me I could pay you to come help me tidy my house. OMG I dont know where to start. It was suppose to be a cleaning day but I couldn't resist the target sales (got 2 cheap bras, BF singlet, some kiddie clothes and goodness knows what else) then I did food shopping and then had lunch with a friend, then went to best and less and got the most gorgeous bunny rug for my hossy bag and a single and socks for bub and now I am home I dont feel like doing a thing.

Yes I'd read 32weeks for the raspberry leaf tea also. I need to go buy some alhtough I'm a firm believer it doesn't help go into labour I think it just helps strengthen and co-ordinate contractions etc. So I think the caster oil would be more effective in inducing myself not that I'm going to try it but it would be tempting.

Oh and at target I brought the most hideous pack of 5 undies you have ever seen. I wanted to make sure they were big enough to fit ice packs in them and pads and I hope I'm not seen dead in them. Those incontinence pads/undies would have looked better I'm sure.

Just a quick one. Scan went well. Baby is measuring 8 weeks and has a good strong heartbeat. Fingers crossed. We haven't got this far since DD.

Mildez-I taken myself off light duties seeing that i have had no spotting/bleeding and the placenta is no longer covering the os i do it all vacum upstairs and down mop upstairs and down take the bins out you name it i do except the lawns ewww no way will i do lawns i hate the itchy grass.
And go the ugly undies lol i usually wear g strings so i went and brought some snazzy brief kinds i got 10 all up i dont know how i will go wearing them with a chuncky surfboard wedged in them but i have done it before so if i managed then i will manage again.
I also got 2 beautiful mink blankies for ella's bed at best and less they are sooooooo soft and gorgeous.
If i could go shopping and spend spend spend i would but i have to be a budget head at the moment and god is it lame.
Hey a question is it true that dental infections can cause pre term labour?

Indiasmum-looking good i am praying for you and your 12 week scan next so you can relax.

OMG! I HAVE BEEN RAK'ed AGAIN. :jawdrop:what does that mean 2 years of platinum membership i cant believe it.

I dont deserve this i am just an average mum.

I am so overwhelmed thankyou thankyou to my mystery RAK'ers i wish i could give you a :hug:

I love Belly Belly soooo glad i found this site what an awesome bunch of ladies.

Angelfish - I'm wondering if there's more to it than just seeing the birthing suite....... I just feel strange.

T-Hopes - That is a weird coincidence! I hope you felt fab after your trip to the salon... last time I went I was only 16 weeks pg! So WAY too long ago. I thought Axel was a pretty cute name, and it grows with them too hehe.

Tegam - It's not that I didn't like the feel of the room... it was quite nice really. The lights were low and they had some cheesy 'relaxing' music playing, It's hard to describe the vibe it gave me. have fun camping! lol...

Alish - Thanks hun, I'm sure everything will be fine I'm just being panicky. Oh and how's this for freaky........ DP bought us a liberty wagon last year when we started TTC because I only had a 2 door lancer. :o crazy co-incidence there!! How nice are those liberties though.. mmmm. Ours is only a 2004 model so not super new but WOW the difference in quality from my old lancer to this is huge.

Reet - Yeah! The Dr actually TOLD me what the issue was, saying how he had to see this patient again after she went to someone else for months and I quote: "she has every problem under the sun and now I have to start all over again with her". I was gobsmacked. If I had the money to pay to see someone else I would probably consider it. I guess we all have our bad days, but I was surprised he was so... candid with me. I think my bowling ball is getting a LOT heavier because I got up to pee about 6 times last night instead of the usual 2 or 3. It's getting so hard to get up and out of bed on my own, and actually hurts most of the time now. But I'm trying not to complain about it.... I wanted this so badly. The hospital room wasn't terribly sterile or anything, it actually looked kinda nice but I think it's just the reality of it all is right in my face now. I can actually visualise what's going to happen and where....... it makes it a lot more confronting. The staff I met were really nice though so that's a huge plus. Ikwym about feeling like there's a ton of stuff to do but not having the motivation to do it. I still have a few things that need doing but I just can't seem to drag myself off the bed or couch to do anything. Just cooking dinner is a challenge right now. I am DEFINITELY feeling ready to have this baby now. Even though there's stuff to be done, I'm just getting anxious and uncomfortable and kinda want my body back. But then I flip flop on the issue and think, ohhh.. but I won't get to feel those kicks anymore, and I won't have my belly anymore... lol it's good that it's coming to an end but also kinda makes me sad. Thanks for the laugh with the creamy CM story.. lol. I can't say I've had much of a problem with it at all................ up until nowish. LOL. Make sure you get yourself those books really soon to help pass the time until DH gets home. I guess having your SIL there will help, but still...... you can show him all the stuff you've learned hehe. :)

Ferrals - That's so great you have Ella's discoing on video..... you can show her when she's older, I bet she'll love it! I too would be torn by wanting to meet the baby early and also having the natural birth...... it's a tough choice! I guess luckily it's left up to fate so whatever will be will be. Oh and PMSL I can't believe you call pads surfboards too! I'm actually dreading having to use one as I am a strictly tampons kinda girl. Way TMI there but hey, at least I'm not talking about a smoodgy vag. :rofl: Also, I must ask....... don't you feel all exposed in a G-string?? I can't wear them cause I feel like my butt cheeks are wobbling all over the place and people will know. LOL. I hate being a budget head too right now, especially since DP f****d it last weekend. I have heard a dental infection could cause prem labour.... can't remember how or why though. And how spesh are you getting a double RAK?! Of course you deserve it, you're somewhat of a superwoman in my eyes........... it's about time some good stuff came your way, and it looks like it's happening! (DH getting some casual work, your placenta moving a bit, your dad helping out etc...) Things are finally looking up for you :) Bring on more good luck for Ferrals!

Mildez - Cute guinea pig babies! I bet your DD was thrilled :) Amen on the hideous undies........ I got myself a week's supply of very DARK coloured very LARGE knickers.

Kellie - I'm in the hospital part, I never did hear from the BC when I asked way back in the beginning of this pg.... I figure it's partially because of my paperwork being so fricken screwed up and being posted all over the place except to MY HOUSE. LOL. Ahhh well, too late to complain now. I think you can start raspberry leaf tea at 35 weeks.

India's Mum - Congrats! That's fantastic news. :) It's so relieving to see a strong HB. Looks like the odds are in your favour, hun.

AFM - Well, I feel strange. I don't think depressed is the word............. I just feel out of sorts and vaguely annoyed at everything. I don't like looking at that pile of washing to be folded, but I don't want to fold it! The dishes need doing but I couldn't be bothered. After taking DP to work this morning I crawled back into bed with my breakfast, and didn't get up again until 12.30. :o I'm feeling so sleep deprived, the last week it's been getting worse and worse, and rolling over HURTS. I don't want to be the whinging complainy pregnant woman, but wow...... GET YOUR FOOT OUT OF MY RIBS, BABY! lol. To top things off I feel like I'm coming down with the flu or something... my throat hurts, I had a headache earlier, and I just feel generally irritated. Kinda reminds me of PMS (though I never had it like this).

I do have my moments though..... for the last few days I've felt all my excitement etc just draining away into nothingness and was starting to worry what was going on with me. I think it's just the whole last couple of weeks moodiness. I did have a fleeting 10 second moment of excited anticipation today though, so I think I'm just finally experiencing some of the awesome things hormones can do to you. Up until now I've felt 100% normal and like myself, but just this week I can feel something changing, and I can't put my finger on it. Vague, confused, hard to concentrate............... ouchy pains down there....... is it wrong to say that I want my body back now? But if I say that, that means my pg will be over, and I will be *gulp* responsible for this tiny human being. On the outside!

I think I'm having a last-minute freakout. I guess I'm entitled to mine since DP had his last weekend......... pity it had to destroy our budget though and I'm now left having to try to fix everything up. It's not like I can go out and waste our money getting absolutely obliterated and then pass it off as a 'last hurrah'. Well, that's just GREAT for you, Pal.. but how are we going to pay our bills now? Oh, and when I casually mentioned that thanks to his binge we're now "f****d", his response was: "OK, I get it, I f****d it!". Pfffffftttt!!! Don't get cranky with me, Mister, you're the one who selfishly went out and blew all that cash without even warning me. Now how are you going to afford time off with me and the baby??. Now I'm pretty much on my own, for lack of a better term: left holding the baby. Why do I always have to be perfect and responsible and 100% in control, but you can have your little spaz outs and I'm supposed to just accept that. If I did cr** like this I'd be SINGLE. You'd leave me so fast, because you deserve so much better. But I don't.

Ok, getting out of here now I'm having a disjointed rambly pg moment lol.

Forshelby feel free to go on with your disjointed rambly pg moment. I'm feeling similar and don't have the late pregnancy as an excuse. I think how your feeling is very normal at the end of pregnancy. Just think you will probably nest soon and that pile of washing etc will be folded and all put away. I never nested. Wish I had but. The nickers I got were dark also as I'm sure the surf boards wont hold up.

Anyway I'll be back later just wanted to say woohoo to India's mum. I'm so pleased that another pregnancy hurdle has been met for you and your little family.

Kellbell - most places recommend starting at 36wks, but the packaging on my raspberry leaf tablets & all the research that I did on it prior to taking the tablets said any time from the beginning of the third trimester (so 28wks). It's different for everyone though - some people can't take it until later in the pregnancy because it can make their braxton kicks worse, ironically my BHs and irritable uterus have gotten a lot less painful since I started taking the tablets just before 30wks, and i just had my first cup of raspberry leaf tea today and so far so good.