Melster it all sucks doesn't it? I'm on the opposite end and I too HATE CS. I don't know anyone who actually finds them useful. I recently received a large sum of money from ex though CS (9yrs of arrears and I got paid 1/3rd of it at once) anyway it might seem good for me to get this large sum but all it meant was I am now not entitled to a cent of family tax benefit which I was replying on to pay some bills before I can return to work. So baiscally my ex thinks he is now supporting me and my family when in actually fact he pays my family tax benefit so his paying the govenment and DD doesn't benefit. I'm so pee's of. Its been an ongoing battle with them not able to get him to pay for 9yrs and then finally he does and I'm no better of anyway. Then whats even worse is he didn't see DD for almost 8yrs and no one cares and his still entitled to DD x asmount of time despite me having proof he only returned to reduce his payments and then threatening me and her if I didn't drop the money he would cause us hell. I'm so over the lot of it. They don't give to hoots about the kids in my opinion. I'm not trying to deny him access to her but she doesn't want to go 90% of the time and all they can say is they have to give him the benefit of the doubt after his 9yrs away and on the run from CS. All I can be grateful about I guess is he turned up when DD was 10 and not alot younger. Mediation has done nothing so we are now of to court. Which is another thing I can't afford.

Anyway my bub started moving so thats a relief. Still not as much as I'd like but I guess its in the normal range.