Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

Reet I'm probably silly working up until 38+3 but there are a few reasons for it. One I work in a maternity unit so if anything does happen I'm right there. Then I worry I will just sit around waiting if I stop working sooner. Then I also only get the gov mat leave so I want as much time with baby before returning to work. If I work up until I do I can afford to take about 2months of with my own money before applying for the gov maternity money so I will then have atleast 6months at home before returning to work. I also have a really big tax problem I'm not sure what to do about it. I haven't been paying enough tax so I have had to up my tax I pay (to almost 50% of my wage) to reduce the bill I'm currently going to get. Then I have a child support issue on top of that. I'm trying to get as prepared as I can for the finacial side of things when bub arrives and I'm not working. Unfortunately DH wage is not enough to support us even with only the basics.

S&S I can see why your Ob said bub is fine despite not feeling movements. They say a reasurring scan and CTG indicates bub is going to be fine for atleast 24hrs (provided there is no big event like a haemorrage, labour etc) still very worrying non the less. My bub hardly moves (placenta is posterior) and I feel I'm getting smaller. My fundus isn't as high as it was 2weeks ago. I've got another 11weeks of this before bub is due (I am electing to be induce if bub isn't here by 41weeks maybe even sooner) not that I want her to come now of course or in the next 8-9weeks but the sooner I can see her when she is at term the better. Really hoping the anxiety is relieved then with the help of my trusty apnoea monitor (if I didn't have that Id then freak out about SIDS)

Reet you will be surprised how quickly pink or blue outfits and accessories replace unisexed ones. By the time your home you will probably have half gender specific. I didn't know my first was a girl and by the time I got home from hospital I dont know if I had much unisexed stuff left.

Reet~ Yep I must agree with you darl Clomid is the greatest drug ever invented I reckon, lol. Yep my scan is on Monday feeling pretty darn nervous about the whole thing, I am still frequently POAS just to keep an eye on that nice dark line and make sure it don't dissappear on me like last time. I can't believe you are so far along now time has just flown by for you along with the other girls that were in the TTC thread. You are so much stronger than me and I must give you huge credit for not finding out the sex of your bub, I was like that with DD until they sent me for a last minute US than I just had to know, I have no will power at all, lol. So I take my hat off to you for being able to leave it as a surprise.

S&S~ I am praying that everything is ok with bub for you which I am sure it will be, when I was PG with my DD I never felt alot of movement at times they thought I had to much fluid so I was sent for scans and they never found anything wrong and couldn't explain why I couldn't feel the movement. The only thing the midwife could come up with was because I was so busy everyday that bub didnt have to move around alot as all my movement was keeping bub busy, if that makes sense. Thinking of you and sending you some huge hugs darl.

Angelfish~ A huge CONGRATS on the birth of your little girl Honor, hope you are enjoying every second of those newborn cuddles and that you are both happy and healthy darl. xox

AFM~ Nothing much to report at all, still feeling queasy from time to time, and my nose is soooo blocked I can hardly breathe from it. Thinking I am having an attack of hormones going crazy at the moment as I have been extremely moody and just wanting to get out of here and never come back. Oh well I shall deal with it and hopefully move on and come out of this trance in a much better mood. Hope everyone has a great weekend, mine will be spent stressing about Monday.

Sunshine - Good to hear the OJ got some movement happening, I hope your visit to the ob gyn gives you some positive answers. :hug:

Alish - Good to hear you're feeling a bit better. Hopefully the ms eases soon. I found frequent bland snacks really helped ease my queasiness. :)

Clairesmummy - A blocked nose was one of my biggest complaints early on! That and the ever so slight nosebleeds. I still get a blocked nose from time to time, pretty annoying but if that's the worst I get then lucky me :) . Try not to stress about Monday, I'll be sending you positive vibes for your scan. xoxo

AFM - Feeling a bit down in the dumps today. DP's work likes to shuffle around the day they process the pays when there's a public holiday........ and it just means that he loses an extra day of pay, plus all his overtime money vanishes as it isn't paid daily. It's done 'weekly' so on a short week, his overtime rates drop to normal and it leaves us VERY short on cash. I had to pay electricity and credit card today, both overdue and am just feeling pretty rotten. We're meant to be putting money away for the baby and just can't. There are other bills to save for as well which I just can't find the money to save for, so when they come we'll be in a bind AGAIN. I know this is nothing compared to what some of you have faced (thinking of you in particular, Ferrals :hug: ) but omg.... it just gets us down. We haven't been out for dinner or to see a movie or anything for SUCH long time and that time is fast running out. I've resorted to trying to sell as much stuff as I can on ebay to scrape together some extra cash.

Does anyone have any ideas how I can help ease the burden financially for poor DP? I feel so useless sitting here, it's like I'm just sucking up cash and not contributing anything. :( Sorry about the big boo-hoo, I'm just feeling pretty crummy.

clairesmummy...good luck with ur scan...dont worry all those feelings are normal...well they are for me anyways....its just from everything u have been thro and are going thro with the hormones mixed in between...

Mildez...i am the same with wking...i finished work on the friday and had dd on the following wed....work will at least keep u occupied.

Alish...thats good that ur asthma has calmed down....is swimming supposed to help?

Ss.....how is everything going now?

Forshelby and reet....i am the same i dont know what i am having either..with dd i did and it was good because i could set up everything with being my first....this one i will use most of the stuff i have anyways. I have bought some stuff in neutral colours but im not a big fan so i have been trying to stay away from the baby department.....its a bit annoying not being able to buy things on special.....but after the baby is born we can go shopping....i wanna see what a surprise is like...

Atm...nothing much to report here....i love doing water aerobics...its making me feel fitter and healthier...so i am going to make sure i keep it up......getting annoyed with being thirsty all the time and either not feeling like eating or when i do nothing satisfies me......i am starting to get that stretching feeling so everything must be moving down there and its burning a bit.....i am so so so moody...i am like the hormonal devil......im wondering if i am having a girl lol........still waiting for movement......counting down the days

melster - yea it does help but there is no way id get into the pool down here! eww! and i hardly have any time to go swimming at the beach ! i think there is something in the air down here that has triggered it, its like a hazy film.. its starting to go away!
how exciting, wont be long now til you can feel movements! dont worry about the mood swings, i think its happening to all of us! brett just has to look at me wrong and i snap his head off! lucky he knows i love him :D

forshelby - one of my friends just got a job doing 20 hours of data entry a week from home, is that something you could do? im not sure who it was through but she lives on the goldy too! maybe grab the sun paper? (is that what its called? i used to live up there but cant remember?) or have a look on the internet.. hope that helps.. least it wouldnt be physical or too stressful ! :)

sunshine - how did you go??

have a nice night ladies, off to the rsl for chinese tonight, yum! :D

Forshelby-Hun i know it sux but we will get through it i have extentions on my elect and ph bills at the moment and DH's car and motor bike rego is due the 1st week of march and we cant afford it we have to borrow the $3500 to pay the bond for a house if we find one so we can move all while i only bring home $450-$500 a week and our rent is $420 and we have to feed 3 teenage boys 2 dogs 2 cats and all the other household bills it makes me sick just thinking about it i have to pay $225 for an u/s next wed and $660 for a doctors bill on the 2nd of march and i cant do any overtime to make extra money and DH still cant get work.
Centrelink gave him $15 last fortnight lol what a joke child support are hounding him and he owes a debt collector almost $3000 for a debt his ex wife owes for a loan they had but he paid his half so at the moment our life is really f#cked and we are struggling but thinking about my girls arrival puts a smile on my face every day and i know we will be ok she has everything and more for her arrival and lucky we brought 99%of it before DH lost his job we just have the car seat issue but are going to hire one for the 1st 6 months and my dad is buying us the 6mths to 7yr one.
So hang in there when bub is here you will get family payment and baby bonus to help take the burden off your man i will get maternity leave to hopefully cover my wage and that is it i have been told my family payment wont even go up as my income for the year is to high but i will just wait and see.
So we can feel crummy together.

Hi everyone!

Haven't done personals, but I really hope everything is going wonderfully for everyone!

AFM: Sammy Boy (SB) is home safe and sound! YAY!! I had a c-section after a couple of days of contractions that weren't going anywhere, baby boy was nowhere near engaged. C-section was actually really good, we got to have skin on skin straight away and DH cut the cord. SB was breastfeeding super quickly (I had no idea what I was doing, but he seemed fine!). So now we're up to 9 days old and hitting some serious sleep deprivation. It's tough, but the boy is a complete wonder. Really don't want DH to go back to work, luckily my Mum is staying a few more weeks.

Congrats to Angelfish!

So now it's the race between Forshelby and Ferrals!

And a very special thank you to my PIG Dory, your support has been incredible and so appreciated - you rock :)

Alish - YES, data entry is exactly my type of job. Most of the work I did for the last 4 years was all centered around data entry and maintaining spreadsheets etc...... I think the newspaper you're talking about would be the bulletin. I never get the paper, lol. Could you ask your friend where she found that job????

Ferrals - Ughhhh you poor thing. We will BOTH get through these crap times together! :hug: Sounds like you've got it way tougher though, so I admire your ability to keep smiling through it all. I'm not sure if we'll get family payments as usually DP earns up to $1200 a week... we've just fallen behind with so many things over xmas, mostly due to him paying $1000 in tax in one week because his work likes to dodgy up the pays. We had no idea that was going to happen and were totally unprepared, spending away on xmas etc... :( I'm hoping to get paid parental leave even though I'm 2months shy of fulfilling the work criteria. BUT due to my circumstances and the reason I had to leave work, I'm hoping they might make the exception. They were understanding when I told them the whole sordid story and waived the 'non payment period' when I was getting payments... so who knows. If not, baby bonus will have to do. The sucky part is though that being casual, DP doesn't get paid leave so we have to find the money to cover our bills while he's off work....... and I don't want him to miss out on this special time. Time to get my thinking cap on!

Kit - Aww yay so great to hear from you hun. Congrats again and I'm soooo glad SB is doing well. Typical boy, knows how to handle a bit of boob, eh? lol. :)

forshelby - she just jumped onto mycareer.com.au and the looked through the paper! im actually looking at mycareer now and there are a few on there, i havent read much into them but theyre on there! thats right, the gold coast bulletin .. i remember the jingle now, it used to drive me mental :P


erk im so full from chinese i need to take my pants off haha! the couch misses me..... night ladies! :D

Just wanted to say hello and I hope I am here soon. The girls I was pregnant with last time are just having their babies and it's so good to hear it all went well and what lovely names they have. I am currently four weeks pregnant again but already having problems so I won't cross over to here just yet. Hopefully I will be posting here soon.

hi there india's mum
congrats on your pregnancy.. lets hope these problems are just bubs settling in.
wishing you all the best!

India's mum- i hope everything settles down and you can come join the girls here.

Alish-yummmm chinese! as forshelby said i havnt been out for dinner for ages i am so jealous glad you enjoyed it.

Forshelby-My DH was casual to and i had worked out to cash in some of my leave to cover his loss of wages for 2 weeks he brought home $900 a week so i was taking my annual leave for me and cashing in my long service for him when the maternity payment started but now i have to take my annual leave and cash my long service for my self just in case the maternity allowance doesnt kick in straight away as he will have no money what so ever.
And what worries me is if DH gets a job before bub arrives how will he be able to have any time at home with us there is no way a new employer will allow him to have time off after just starting so i am at a loss as what to do also.

Kitfaerie-So happy everthing is all going great how has the recovery been from your c section were you in a lot of pain afterwards how long before you were out of bed ect.

AFM-Nothing much happening just waiting for next week i have heaps to do work tue u/s wednesday DS has his u/s on his testicals thursday to check for cyst or tumor OB and midwives on friday and i should know if i am definately having a c section or not and hopefully get a date for it.

ferrals - it was really nice! dh usually wont go out for chinese cuz its too expensive so it was good! i hope everything is ok with ds?? thats a bit worrying?! good luck with your u/s on wednesday i would be so excited! mine isnt until 11th feb im so hanging to see our little baby!! is your c section a choice you made or??

feel abit sick today.. this housework im supposed to do is just not happening!!

Ferrals, recovery has been surprisingly easy, first night hurts-take the drugs! I was up and walking the second day, it hurt in bits when I did too much walking on the 3rd and 4th day but after that nothing really. Now I have to remind myself not to stretch cos I don't feel that different. The scar is already fading. Elective c section is very different to emergency. I co slept with SB in hospital to limit twisting as well.

Alish-no way would i have a c section by choice i have had 4 natural births but i have had grade 4 placenta previa this time since very early in the pregnancy and the last scan at 24 weeks it was still covering the cervix so this next scan will check so see if it has moved but my OB said very unlikely so expect a c section.
There is more risks having a c section but i will do what ever it takes to get my girl here safe and sound.

Kit-thanks for the info i hope mine goes as smooth as yours.

I dont want to jump in but yes make sure you keep up on your pain meds .

S@S i hope and pray that everything is okay

Honor is doing wonderful had a ruff night with her but everything is great. I still keep looking at her and have a hard time believing that she is really here. When my Water broke on sunday i kept talking myself out that it was true that it was actually happeing

angelfish - glad everything is going well, just love the name honor! so gorgeous!

ferrals - oh ok! well fingers crossed for a quick recovery then! alot of people who ive spoken too prefer a c section to a natural birth, i have no idea about either but i reckon theyd both hurt :P the end result is all that matters though!

Oh i didnt know a new thread had started.....here i just thought you had all been quiet!

Dont have time to catch up properly but had to mention a huge WOOHOO to Angelfish, congratulations!!!

Stoked another boy...yay!

Ferrals 32weeks now right! Thats amazing!

Ok ill read the other 3 pages tonight!

Sunshine - thinking of you gorgeous.

India'sMum - hope you can join this thread too soon. Hope the troubles are just bubs snuggling in.

Got to run - sorry.

Good Morning,

Ferrals, thanks for your wishes. I'm 23 weeks along now. Which is very exciting and further than I've ever progressed before. So far things have been smooth. Afer M/S until 16 weeks I actually feel pretty good. I'm sorry to hear of your situation; your bub will be such a relief. I have my fingers crossed for you that your girl's birth will be exactly how you want it. Thank you for thinking of me when you have so much on your own plate.

Angelfish, congratulations! such wonderful news and a lovely name for your little girl. I hope you are having a nice time with her.

S&S, sending you the very best wishes.

Dory, hi. thanks too for your message. my due date is 1 June, I'll try to get to your list to add myself soon. Hope you and your little lady are well.

India's Mum, hope you're here for good. good luck.

Forshelby, good luck on the finance front, hope you can sort something out so you can relax!

to everyone else, big hello. I hope things are going well for you.

x

India's Mum I have everything crossed that your here to stay for the next 8months and beyond.

Ferrals not long now until you get an answer about delivery. Will be good also to know when you can expect little miss to come.

Me I am trying to work out how we are going to survive financially from April to November. Trying to prepare now for when I am not working.

Sunshine and stars just wanted to say I hope all went perfect yesterday with your appointment.

Sunshine-waiting to see how you got on and hope all is ok.

Mildez-me to me to i am wondering how we will cope after my annual leave runs out on the 14th of march before the maternity payment starts i have applied to cash in my long service which is about $1800 just to cover things until little miss shows up and the maternity payment starts but i still havnt had a reply to see if it is approved or not and it is even more of a worry now that DH cant find work.

Kmm-woohooo 23 weeks that is awsome i bet you are feeling a little more relaxed the further you get.
And thanks i hope my girls birth is smooth and a good experience even if i have a c section.

Tegam-yep just about another 3 days and i have hit the safety gestation if this placenta causes a problem and she has to be delivered early i know she will be fine.

Alish-you are right the end result is what it is all about i just want her here safe i am still scared of waking one day to no movement and being told she is gone that is my worst fear right now.

its such a scary time isnt it, alot of people seem to think if you get past the first trimester its all good! but its just as worrying, if anything its more worrying!! but everything will be fine, being scared is normal :)

sunshine - anxious to see how u went!!

S&S how are you?

Ferrals YAY not long now til that magic 32, i love that week!

Forshelby: not long for you now!

Alish: hello in here too :)

congrats indias mum

mildez, melstar, clairesmummy, dory....and anyone i have missed - hello!

hey tegam :)

Sunshine and stars: thinking of you and hoping all is well
India's mum: Hope that you get some good news this week.
Ferrals: Nearly 32 weeks! Yay! Hope you get some relief to your financial worries soon. That sort of worry must be really tough. I also hope you get good news on your scan this week (and your son too on his).
Forshelby: Can't believe you are the pregnantest person here!!! I hope you also get some cash flowing soon to ease your mind.
Mildez: Ditto: hope the money fairy pays you a visit. (Wish there was one).
Reet: Just saying hi!
Tegam: Did you take that photo of Molly yourself or did you have professional ones taken. Very sweet!
Alish and Damprye: How's the nausea?
Kellbell: Hope all is well. 3rd trimester now?
Dory: Hope MRI goes well. Is that tomorrow?
Clairesmummy: Enjoy seeing the flicker on your dating scan!
Kmm: COngrats on 23 weeks!
Angelfish and Kitfaerie: Happy baby snuggles!

AFM: 10 weeks. The weeks feel they are passing so slowly. Saw OB on Friday. All good. Baby clearly growing nicely and heart thumping away. I don't think i'll start to feel like i can think of myself as pregnant though until I get past 12 weeks with good news on that scan. Still scared this is going to get taken away from me at the last minute. (Not that 12 wks is the last minute exactly but it's the last minute of the first stage anyhow. The point at which we will tell people about it). Just counting the days...

hey possum, nausea is ok, i just eat little snacks through the day, nothing i cant handle :) been more tired than anything at the moment.
yes the weeks are passing so slowly arent they! my next scan isnt until 11th feb so im hanging for that to come! glad ur scan went well

S&S still thinking of you and praying everything is perfect with you and bubs.

Possum magic woohoo on being 1/4th of the way there and so close to the 12week mark. Hope the next 2weeks flies by. Are you having the NT scan or a 12week scan?

Alish hope the 11th comes soon so you can see your bub again.

Sounds like a few of us are worrying about money. I really need to work 7-8days a fortnight allowing to save for bills like rates, insurance, school fees, swimming and music lessons for the girls etc but my body is going to the pack. I'm so slow at work and waddling around feeling sore and just wondering how I am physically going to catch a baby (as a middy) I haven't had to for a fortnight but thats just been luck and now I don't know how I will do it especially for another 8weeks. My legs are massive with fat and odema but if I start maternity leave any earlier I can't afford my bills and DH wages go all into our morgage and electricity. Then I'm not eligable for family tax benefit as ex maintanence cuts that out (I've received a large amount of arrears this year after 9yrs of him not paying a cent) it was easier getting nothing from him as now I miss out on all my entitlements. Arrr I guess we will survive and I'll return to work later this year anyway.

Ferrals I hope your scan is great and your son gets good news.

Forshelby yeehaa on been the most pregnantist. I wouldn't mind your title at the moment lol. Means your the closest of us still pregnant to meeting your darling little baby unless some sneaky lady and bub wants to bump up the que.

Almost 30weeks for me woohoo. Almost 3/4th of the way there!

Thought I might sneak in here and hopefully stay under the radar. Ive tried to be quiet about this but I just cant, Im stressing to much and need somewhere that understands that.

For those who dont know me; Im Freya. Ive been in this thread quite a few times over the years and hopefully this will be the last (and hopefully for the full 10mths) stint.

My Dh and I have 3 boys, aged 4, 3 and nearly 2. I got a + Hpt on Friday which was a bit of a surprise. This will be my 8th pregnancy (3 successful pregnancy+4 miscarriages+hopefully this one sticks!). My last miscarriage was in October, I ended up with a d&c. It really hit me hard. my last m/c before that was pre-second kid so I guess I thought I was past all of this uncertainty and what not.

3 weeks time I will have a viability scan and hopefully get good news, then I can relax a little and enjoy the pregnancy.

Hope your all doing well :)

Hope you ladies don't mind if i join in here.
I had an early m/c last Nov & we found out that we are pregnant last Wednesday.
I've been stressing because my lines don't seem to getting a lot darker, I saw my Dr and he has reassured me that there is 2 lines & sent me off for my blood tests, I get my results back Wednesday.

I hoping that everything will be fine but i can't help but be nervous.

Hi Girls!

Sunshine & stars- Starting to worry now!! I hope u come on soon and tell us that everything is ok and ur little baby is still snug inside u. Thinking of you.

Clairesmummy- Good luck today!

Ferrals, Mildez and Forshelby- Im joining ur little money issues group! I am starting to FREAK! We have just got a $350,000 mortgage and bought me a new but old family car. The car was only $7000 but we were meant to do a bit of a trade with the friend we bought it off, he was meant to take DH's quad bike but decided not too so now we gotta find the money! We are having to borrow $2500 off MIL just to be able to pay him back, and then we are left with no savings, it sux! Desperatley trying to sell DH's quad now and everything would be fine but no1 seems to want to buy it! I really hope someone does soon FX! I HATE money problems!! I hope we all get thru it ok! :)

Mildez-Man o man u poor thing, do they try and give u light duties every shift?? It wld be a bit difficult being a midwife helping someone to deliver their baby, there wld be a lot of bending and stuff i imagine! I hope u get thru it alright, i bet ur counting down every single day!

Ferrals- Good luck with urs and ur sons scans this week. It will be good to finally know if ur going to have to have a ceasar or not.

Possum- Yay for everything going so well for u! Not long til u get to that lovely 12 week mark, it will make it a lot more real and exciting once u can start telling ppl.

Alish- Bring on the 11th! Those scans are just the best, so reassuring, the wait kills u tho hey! It feels like a lifetime!

Hi to everyone else! Hope everyone is well :) Kit and angelfish- hope ur enjoying ur beautiful little babies! :)

AFM- Baby had a huge weekend! Didnt stop moving the whole time, i find when i lay on my side it goes crazy! Poking all its little body parts out, I LOVE IT!
Pregnancy is just the BEST thing ever! I feel so lucky that its been so easy for me (so far anyway!) ive never vomited, i dont have any aches and pains, no swollen fingers or feet (i really thought i wld have had to take my wedding ring off by now but nope fingers are still the same!) Ive had no cravings whatsoever, only just put on 5kgs.. hmmm everything just seems too easy! I hope it continues on like this! As much as i cant wait to meet this beautiful little baby, Im so glad that its a looong 40 weeks, i think i will really miss being pg once im not anymore! :)

Im also loving our new little man (puppy), i fall more in love with him everyday, i still have outbursts of sobbing tears over our little Nala girl but our little Yogi Bear has definitely eased that pain. Hes just so adorable. Funniest thing was he slept in our bed for the first month everynight, and then like a week ago we thought we better see how he goes out with our other girl Heidi, we expected him to cry all night until we let him back into our room, but nope! No crying at all, I think he actually loved it! Haha i can just imagine what we are going to be like with our own baby.. hopeless! :)

Anyway i better jump off, im gonna go and try and find some motivation to start scrubbing and painting walls! Wish me luck! :)

xxx

Sunshine - thinking of you..... sending you lots of love.

Alish - I know what you mean - I had a friend say to me... "we didn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until it was safe".... for me, there is no such thing as safe, until they in your arms healthy and wailing lustily, and even then a whole new set of worries start, but they are the worry that you get with having a bubs to take home. I guess really until you've experienced both the absolute heartache of loss and the anxiety of pregnancy after loss, you don't really understand. Maybe that's a good thing.

Hey Freya - good to see you here! Congratulations on that BFP... guess what? you're pregnant... Yay......

Welcome Cheshire - congrats on that BFP and I am so sad that a m/c brings you here. It's ok to be nervous, actually I reckon it's pretty unusual if you weren't nervous.

Forshelby- still at the top of the list!

Ferrals - hugs

Mildez - extra cuddles

Can't stay got to run - seems one sleep cycle is it for Hannah this morning.... wish it was longer..

New people.. Yay!! Sorry that ur in this thread in the first place but at the same time its great that u have joined us, IYKWIM

Welcome Freya- I hope the next 3 weeks goes quickly for u. Have u got some good symptoms happening? (i never got ANY tho so that means nothing!) Wishing u the best of luck x

Hi and welcome Cheshire- Sorry to hear about ur m/c in Nov. Dont worry about the hpts, a positive is a positive! I was freaking out about the exact same thing and so many ppl told me to ignore the tests, if there is a line theres a line which makes u pregnant! :) Did u get 2 lots of blood tests a couple days apart to see if levels are going up or just the one to see where ur levels are at at this stage? Good luck x

H is here with me now and quiet.....well not crying and sends a big hello...

Reet - oh sweetie - It' so good to hear you happy and positive and enjoying this incredible journey ( I had a lot of discomforts and still loved it, when I wasn't scared witless). And little YoGI -how cute is that? It's ok to still cry for Nala - that's just how grief works - totally unpredictable! Give you little puppy some pats for me.

Possum Magic- the MRI -it's this arvo! Thanks for remembering and asking. Will let you know how I go, but no results for at least a couple of weeks after today. I do know how you feel about being scared your pregnancy and bub will be taken away from you... it's such a hard feeling to overcome. I hope you do and can start to at least enjoy some of the journey ahead....hope the next couple of weeks are manageable.

KMM - 23 weeks is pretty special... congrats.

Ferrals - it is such a relief huh? To know that you've reached a stage that if bubs comes early, that bubs has a pretty good chance.

Clairesmummy - thinking of you today.

hey freya & cheshire! all the best for a happy & healthy pregnancy, dont stress :)

dory - yep i agree ! im finding it so hard not to tell anyone im pregnant though, im sooooo happy :D
after my ectopic (and when i was jus preg with next angel baby) i had a friend say to me "oh i wish i had trouble conceiving, i just have to look at him and im pregnant" and i just looked at her and said youre a f**king d**khead, as if youd ever wish that!! some people have no idea!

reet - oh so hanging for the 11th! hurrrrry up!!!!!

hope everyone is having a great day!
its stinkin hot here, i want to finish work already lol

Thanks for the welcome Ladies :)

Reet just the one lot for now & i see him Weds morning so he might give me another slip for more then.

Alish - OMG - that is such a ridiculous thing to say..... glad you put her straight. Congratulations on making 8 weeks and 2 days - it's so exciting!

I was talking to my friend last week, she has been TTC for 5 years has had 2 m/c ( 8 wks and 14 wks) has had a few ivf cycles... and I am not sure if I said the right thing.. I said something like, "before what happened to me happened , I would have never been able to imagine that what is happening to you is happening, it's just so hard and to have more than one m/c and then to have trouble conceiving.... it's just so devastating, and you would have been the only person I am really close to, who's had this happen". ( although I do some other women, just not very close with them). I just hope I didn't upset her... I was trying to say that what she's going through is really tough, and I would never have imagined it could happen once let alone more than once. Think I might check in with her about it.


Do you mind if I ask you about your ectopic pregnancy? What were your symptoms?

Chershire - GL with those bloods on Wednesday - only 2 days! Much easier to be in the TWW huh?

Freya - welcome, hun. Here's hoping for a sticky one!

Chesire - Welcome! As a wise woman once said to me, a line is a line. It doesn't matter how dark etc, as long as its there. :hug:

Everyone else - hi!! And yes woohoo for being the pregnantest :)

AFM - Just got back from the hospital. My GP was concerned about bubby as the HR was decelerating at my checkup this morning. He said not to worry but to go straight to the hospital for a CTG. I called my DP to let him know what was happening and totally freaked him out with my hysterical crying :( I was ok till I heard the worry in his voice when I said the word monitoring and hospital. Anyway, results were just fine and the nurse couldn't give me a reason for the earlier decels. I feel relieved to a certain extent, but also a bit edgy. Time for a nap, I'm exhausted from worrying. Sorry for the me-ness.

Sunshine - Thinking of you hun, I hope all is ok.

Dory - I think your comment to your friend was absolutely fine. Your words always come out so elegantly, and I bet she feels much the same, happy to have someone close to her who REALLY understands.

None of my friends have had trouble with their pregnancies, I've had 3 m/c now & 2 of those were before we conceived dd2 & i spent the whole pregnancy thinking something would go wrong. My friends never understood it & sometimes were insensitive about it.
Dory i think your friend is lucky to have you & i hope she understood you were trying to comfort her :)

Alish someone people really need to think before they open their mouth.

2 days is a lot better, I keep telling myself my levels wont be high as i'm just over 4wks but i'm still kinda dreading it.

Thanks Forshelby, that is exactly what the Dr told me & he pointed they had got darker since last week. I not going to test anymore i'm doing my head with the hpts.
So glad everything is ok with you Bub :)