Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

Forshelby - glad the CTG was ok but sorry you had such a worry! Almost 34 weeks girl... you must be the size of uhmm well a very pregnant mumma, carrying a very sweet and precious little honeydew. Woot Woot. Enjoy your rest. Seems I am addicted to BB today.... for the first time ever I had little H on my lap whilst I typed earlier. Very slack on my part.... oh and thanks for the compli - you have a pretty good way with words too.

I fight the urge daily to run out and buy every hpt I can find to pee on it and examine the line's. FWIW Chesire, the darkness or lightness of the line colour has no bearing on a successful pregnancy or not; some hpt's just dont have as much dye in them as others. Doesnt stop us from going crazy though ;)
Ive opted not to get bhcg's done this time round but now Im starting to panic about NOT doing it lol Obviously AF is late and Ive had four + hpt's so its favourable that I am actually pregnant but something about those numbers means a little bit of security. But last miscarriage I had, my numbers were perfect up until the end, after weeks of ultrasounds that never showed progress past 6wks but I got to 10wks from LMP before my #'s finally reflected that. Its was pure torture and false hope. I figure if its happening its happening, the ultrasound outcome in 3 weeks time will be what it will be regardless of #'s. I still feel anxious though.

Freya thank-you & no it doesn't. i've spent way too much on hpts this last week & honestly it hasn't stopped me being anxious at all.
will you be 10wks or 7wks when you have your first scan? Either way i hope you get to see a nice strong heartbeat :)

I think we may have been in the same belly/babies buddies thread in 08/09?

I'll be in my 8th week (so 7wks gestation). Id like to wait til the 12wk scan but I think that would nearly kill me with worry. Im about 4w-something now.

I think we may have been! Ds3 was born on March 31st. Can you believe its nearly their 2nd birthdays already??

Dory - Oh yes, I am definitely looking robust these days lol. The nurse at the hospital laughed when she had trouble pulling my shirt up over my belly becaause it was stretched so tight. :) I hope Hannah Bear enjoyed her first computer co-piloting session, what better site to be on than BB?!

Please be safe everyone in QLD. There is a cat4 cyclone headed your way :(

I think someone has a big grudge against qld at the moment. Thinking of everyone in north qld its looks very scary for later in the week :-(

dory - it started off with spotting and bloating (extreme bloating) and really bad pains, like finding it hard to sit up etc. then it was this wave of pain stabbing in my right side to the point where id nearly pass out - that would go on for about an hour or so.. then it started getting to the point where it was more often and i couldnt walk. and referred pain to my chest so i couldnt breathe in either, which was sh*t cuz all i did was cry which made the pain even worse!
i was pretty lucky cuz i was 8 weeks and i didnt lose my tube! but after they removed the pregnancy i kept bleeding and the pains came back, turns out the placenta kept growing so i had to have the methtoxtrate (cant spell it) injection to kill it.
ive seriously never been in pain like that ever.

whats going on in qld? i dont watch the news, hope they r ok though!!

Big cyclone named yasi sitting of the coast around townsville will cross the coast a cat 4 very scary. Will prob be the same or worse than cyclone larry which did all that damage a year or two ago. Anyone in here from north qld?

Yes i am! Am starting to absolutely freak! I normally find cyclones exciting but this one is just way too big. Apparently the biggest one in history that QLD has ever been threatened by. Very very scary. The eye is meant to go thru townsville which is just south of cairns (where i live) early thurs morning, if it does hit townsville we will definitely feel it pretty bad up here. I live in an old timber home too so im a bit worried about it. I might be getting the hell outta here come wednesday! Hopefully dh can come home from where hes away working, he better be able too!

Welcome Freya and Cheshire! Sending you congrats and sticky vibes! Ah, the dilemma of whether to do HCGs! My OB offered it to me but he did say that numbers can be good and it may not necessarily mean baby is viable: they can tell more from ultrasound (Like what happened to you cheshire). So, given the expense of multiple blood tests (and the pain of having them done) I decided to grit my teeth and wait till i was far enough along to have a dating scan; which I did at 6.5wks. It felt like forever to wait from 4.5 wks when i found out i was pg. But then the whole first trimester is torturous waiting! Anyway, i reckon everyone needs to do what they need to do to get through that time. So whatever works for you. I hope you both get lovely numbers and lovely u/s ASAP!

Mildez: I really feel for you doing such physical work while you are pg. I wish you had the space to take it easier. Your family must appreciate how hard you are working for them (and bubby too).
Forshelby: You poor thing. Just what you don't need, someone scaring the cr@p out of you! I can understand why you'd be feeling edgy but it sounds like all is ok. Hope you get some rest now.
Reet: You sound very chipper! That's great! Sending you motivation vibes for painting and other stuff you need to do. (Oh, and I hope you escape any cyclone impact of course!)
Dory: I still try to get away with posting on BB sometimes with my DD around. She is briefly entranced by the 'flappy smilies' and the 'running smilies' and then she wants to press all the buttons so it doesn't last long! Enjoy it while Hannah is too little to try to attack the keyboard!
Alish: You just have to shake your head don't you? Some people just don't get it about the pain of not being able to conceive. And for those who have it that easy and don't want to be pg... umm that's why there is birth control!!!

Hi anyone else i missed.

Me: Feeling crampy today and sooo tired. I thought i was done with the early pg cramps but no. Oh well, i kinda like it cos it makes me think bub is busy growing. (They're at the sides not in the middle so don't scare me too much). Huh, notice my ticker? The idea that i'm carrying a 'prune' is way less cute than the 'olive' i was carrying last week! Bring on the next fruit i say!!!

forshelby sorry you had a scare. fingers crossed it's the last time you'll be worried.
reet be safe. thinking of you and all qld'ers.

oops sorry. double post. the work of a novice. k

Reet - take care up there in all that wind! I have some friends who are moving to Cairns later this week... eek, I wonder if they'll actually be able to get there?

Just wanted to let you know, I blitzed the MRI - I didn't wig out and actually relaxed....not completely but I didn't wig out. It's good to have it over and done with and good to have had a much better experience than I was expecting. I feel almost jubliant.

Possum Magic - too funny about DD... sounds like the cats when they want attention - step all over the key board, stand in front of the screen.... sneaky little furries.

Cheshire - do what you need to to get through. I am bit with Freya, having experienced the whole bHcg testing for 5 crazy weeks ( and with a GP that wouldn't phone through the results so I had to go in for appointments), I found - I was always at appointments either with the vampires or the GP, and that in reality the numbers didn't reassure me because once I got a result, I was then worried about the next results. But when I wasn't on that crazy rollercoaster ride, it was more manageable. Not that pregnancy after loss is enjoyable, but in the pregnancy, when I did the crazy testing, I got to about 8 weeks and had an ephiphany that it just wasn't right for me nor was it helping. I could try to be super controlling of everything or I could try and let go and just try to enjoy the now. And that's how I got through my pregnancies. It's not always a sure fire way, of course there were days filled with pure terror and dread and foreboding when the fear just paralyzed me..... but for me it, not testing and repeating to myself, right now I am pregnant and that is a miracle, was a way to try and focus on the positive.

Anyway, what ever you do, do what you need to to help you through. This is a journey where we each need to find our own way, and reach out for support when we need it.

Alish - of sweetie - that just sounds excruciating.... so in addition to heartache, you had the physical pain to match.....thankyou though, for sharing it with me.

omg i feel terrible - forshelby i didnt even read yours yesterday, im so sorry!! hope youre ok today, glad everything turned out ok

possum - i know right? she says the most stupid things all the time, i tend to take it with a grain of salt now lol you cant put brains in monuments :D
hahah youve got a little prune, thats hilarious! im still getting cramps too, im not so worried anymore

dory - no worries! i used to breakdown when people asked me but ive learnt to deal with it, as much as it hurts, these things happen for a reason and it wouldnt have happened to me if i couldnt have been able to deal with it

reet - hope you guys will be safe & try not to stress, you dont need that :)

hi everyone else, hope youre all well

by my lmp im 9 weeks but doc says im 8 weeks 3 days, and boy is this little one giving me grief today! im contemplating not going to work.. im sooo sick today and its really hot here already and its only 650am! its supposed to reach 40's here today and i work in a hardware thats fully concrete with no air con but a pedestal fan i near stand on top of. im already finding it hard to be on my feet all day, by 3 pm im buggered, i was asleep by 8 last night. :( ahhh what to do??

Morning ladies,

Welcome Freya & cheshire may your pregnancies be happy and healthy until you bring your bundles of joys home.

Forshelby-I dont like scares we can do without those i hope you are doing ok.

Dory-Yeh for getting through the MRI.

Mildez-Take it easy girl dont over do it.

Reet-hope the cyclone goes back out to sea and you dont have to batten down the hatches.

Alish-i have been in both boats it was to easy for me to concieve with my 1st 3 boys to my ex then it was easy with Abbi to my DH but this little one took almost 18 months and we just decided to go one cycle of IVF to hurry it up so i know what it feels like to be lucky i can get pregnant easy and also heartbroken that i cant.
Dont let peoples comments get to you.
And early cramping for me was a good sign.

Possum-lol on the prune i think i must be up to a watermelon the way i feel sooooo heavy.

AFM-sooooooooooooo hot and uncomfortable everyone is telling me i am tiny and i havnt grown much but OMG! she feels so heavy in there.
I have my u/s tomorrow to check the placenta and find out if it is a c section or not and we get to see our girl again 32 weeks yippeeeee!

Got to do preschool and daycare run soon (and Im not even showered lol) but I just wanted to pop in and tell Reet that Im thinking of her and to stay safe :hug: I lived in Townsville up until 2009 so I know the craziness of preparing and waiting for a Cyclone to either hit or fizzle. Yasi is a monster of a TC and I would be scared witless so I can only imagine how your feeling.

Just popping in quickly to say Reet hope you stay safe & i'm thinking of you as well :hug:

Thinking of you Reet - def get your hubby to come back. It looks huge. Keep safe xoxox

Reet...i hope you will be ok!!!!

Ferrals..I hope everything goes great at you're us

Alish...heat and pregnancy dont mix well...sounds like you need a cool drink and aircon

Dory..im glad you're mir went well!!! least its over with now

Possum...yeah those pregnancy pains tend to keep coming as you grow and stretch..hopefully its all good

Hey cheshire and freya...

Hello forshelby, claresmummy.... everyone else...

SS....how are you going???? Has anyone heard from her????

ATM....i am going through that stage again wondering if everything is alright..paranoid stage i guess...feeling smaller than with my dd so i am wondering if everything is alright in there and waiting for bubby to start moving...i swear i have been feelng some bubbles but just cant be sure.....come on little one!!!!!!! Start moving....got so much other stress going on i just want to feel my little one...

Thanks girls! Im just hating the waiting for it to hit.. Too much time being nervous! Its apparently heading more Cairns way now.. but who really knows, its that huge i dont think its going to matter where it hits.. so many places will be affected.

I just had to share an insensitive comment from my mother! Grrrr they just dont think sometimes (like ur insensitive friend alish!)
I was just talking to her on the phone and she was saying that she wld send her partner over to help move outdoor furniture inside and turn upside etc. I said to her 'no thats fine, Ryan will be home tomoro afternoon and we can do it before it hits tomoro nite' and u know what she says?! 'Dont u be lifting anything heavy AT ALL, u wldnt be too happy if u had a m/c now...' WTF??!!! I cldnt believe it!!! Years stupidest comment! Its so wrong on so many levels... for starters it wldnt be a m/c... um im almost 7 months pg! And no i dont think i wld be too happy if i went into labour prematurely from being silly and lifting heavy furniture!
After she said it she realised and kinda mumbled something else but god as if u say something like that anyway! No brain at all! Gotta love mothers..

Oh oh oh! DH is coming home now! :) All his jobs have been cancelled. Woohoo!!

Anyway better jump off, be back later xx

First of all Welcome and congrats to our newbies. Hope you all have a wonderful happy and healthy pregnancy.

Forshelby~ OMG that would of been a horrible encounter for you darl, sending you some massice cybers hugs and you are in my thoughts at this stressful time for you. Glad to hear bubs HB has returned to normal darl now I am praying bub behaves for you and stops scaring you like that darl. xox

Reet~ Thinking of you with the approaching of Yasi darl, stay safe and hide inder a table if you have to as I would. I am praying for you all up there, my sister and all her family are in Mt. Isa and they say that they are even preparing them for the cyclone, sounds scary. Hugs to you and all your family, you are all in my thoughts and I am praying Yasi settles down before she reaches land.

Dory~ Thank you so much for thinking of me yesterday. Hugs to you.

AFM~ As you all know I had my first US yesterday and everything was great, bubs HB is 143 beats per minute and the Sonographer said I have a very healthy little embryo. I measured at 6 weeks and 2 days so he said I am due on the 24th September. Had lots of tears of both fear beforehand but happiness after the scan. Oh and when I finally got to go to the loo I never thought I would stop peeing. LOL.

congratulations clairesmummy. that must be a relief.....!!!!

melster - spent all day in front of the fan with a bottle of cold water & sometimes the bottle was shoved in my between my boobs, hand in the freezer and then on my face, one of the boys tipped water down my shirt but i didnt care it was soooo hot! so i grabbed a seat and sat down infront of the fan and didnt do one thing all arvo :D
p.s everything will be fine stop worrying :)

reet - mums dont think sometimes do they? my mum says dumb stuff allllll the time!!

clairesmummy - congrats thats fantastic news, very happy for you :)

hi everyone else :)

boo - bushfires started today, knew it wouldnt take long!!

Hi Mo - im so happy for your BFP so exciting you make such cute babies :hello:
Lots of sticky vibes for you

Hi Freya and welcome

Clairesmummy your scan sounds great - im so happy for you!

Reet - some people say such dumb things :shakehead:
hope you are all battened down

Alish - boo to bushfires are they close to you?

Melster - wont be long and youll be getting kicked. the bubbles sound like your bubba

Sorry to everyone i have missed

Its sooooo hot girls im melting - this morning i rocked up for my appointment at 8.30 and i was supposed to be there 10.30 DOH - :doh: anyway our little man is going well he is head down now and HR 141 and my belly measures perfect for 27 weeks. I love hearing that heartbeat and knowing he is okay. Got a 32 week scan in 4 weeks. I cant wait to see him again!
He is so active tonight my DP couldnt get over my belly contorting into diff shapes as he sticks arms, bum, feet out gotta love it :)

Im off to bed going to crank up the aircon tonight

kell -nah thank god, the fires were about half an hour away, you could see the smoke from work, i just hate fires more than anything.. a few years ago we had fires at my old place and you could actually see the flames from my backyard, it was across the road pretty much!
im sorta hoping a fire will go through our bush block (nothing on it or near it) so it thins it out a bit!

great news about you ultrasound too, i cant wait to hear heartbeats, always a reasurring sign :)

not as hot here today thank god!

have a great day everyone :)

Just checkin in - REET are you ok, did you stay or go? Please check in with us one last time if you can :hug:

Clairesmummy so happy your scan went well, you must be over the moon :)

Kell sounds like you had a great appointment which is great & thanks i think so as well ;)

Reet my Mum passed away late last year, but she made plenty of insensitive comments during my 1st pregnancy.
I know how annoying it is.

AFM off to the Drs this morning, woke up being symptom free yesterday & today so now i'm just thinking the worst.
I'm 5 weeks tomorrow so i know it's still early, especially since i didn't get symptoms till after 6wks with my other 2.

Sounds normal Mo - my symptoms would come and go and id freak every time. Good luck at your appointment

Reet hope you are safe - they say a cat 5 now when it hits thr coast. Very scary stuff for the people in is path :-(

Kell you'd think i know that by now, I need to stop stressing over things i have no control over.
Easier said than done.

Reet hope you stay safe.

Still thinking of you S&S and praying everything is perfect with you and bubba.

Cheshire and Freya welcome.

Ferrals goodluck today for you and your son. Hope your scan shows your placenta has grown legs and walked up higher. FX. I thought they would do the scan later then now also like 34weeks. Will this be the last one? Woohoo on hitting 32weeks also. So close now. OMG only 5weeks for you until term. Everyone is saying I am small also. ****ing me of as its like because I look small must mean my pregnancy is so easy for me. Forget that I'm up 20kilos and have SPD and varicose veins in my woohaa (not that they know that) but poor SIL who is all baby and at 34weeks is up 4kilos. Arrr it can be frustrating.

Cheshire my symptoms came and went especially before 6-7weeks. Some days I had a job to move without a bucket and others I'd be virtually symptom free.

Kellbell hope its not so hot for you today. Its been aweful here also. Well into the 40's. Even the aircon seems to be doing jack.

Alish hope your ok with the bushfires and Reet with Yasi.

Clairesmummy yeah on your scan and seeing a gorgeous little HB.

Mo knowing it dosent always help in those 1st 12 weeks or the rest of it either. I freak when ever he is quiet and hes just asleep prob poor kid im always poking him to move!

Thanks mildez DS has his u/s tomorrow but the doc said if the placenta is still covering the os then no need for a repeat scan it wont move between now and the birth but if the placenta has moved off the os and is at the side i will have a repeat scan at 36 weeks to see where it is.
And yes i know what you mean my belly might be small and i get all the comments oh your not very big and you must be having a small baby i have put on 6kg but feel soooo uncomfortable and heavy.
You must be feeling pretty awful with the extra weight and the vain in your vajay jay plus the SPD not to much longer and it will be over and we will have our bubs.

Reet-hope you have evacuated.

S&S-worried about you hope all is ok.

Alish-bushfires! thats the last thing you need.

Clairsmummy-good news on bubs scan and HB.

AFM-i am off to have my scan wish me luck the placenta has taken a hike up hill.

Alish....yeah i know. I have been quiet good since the 12 week scan. It comes across my mind now and again and every time they put the doppler on for a minute i panick....I swear i cant feel slight movement tho....

Kellbell....i cant believe you're nearly 30 weeks..seems like yesterday you said you were pregnant!!!! Im glad everything is going well.

Cheshire...hope everything goes well. Its easier said than done to not worry, its very normal to feel the way do after what you have been through. I only started to relax at 12 weeks. I had a heaps hard time, and i had some bleeding etc. I was a complete nightmare...

Hey Mildez

Ferrals...good luck!!! Hope it has risen for you!!!!!!!!!!

SS..I really hope and pray you are ok...we are all thinking of you...

Melster your ticker is flying by too. I know this preg has gone really fast think its having a toddler around to keep me busy. Ellas preg took forever and ever!!!

Good luck Ferrals hope your placenta has taken a big hike out of the way!!

Thinking of everyone who is being affected by fires and other bad weather.

I know that i should poke my head in once in a while but i think that that depression has hit after having the baby i should be over the moon when i am with her i am. But my BF mom is here and is stuck with the blizzard that we are having and my bf kids are coming this weekend and we have not had time to bond as a family just the three of us. I told him that is what i wanted after she was born to have sometime to adjust i dont want his kids here this weekend

Thank you for the kind words ladies I truly appreciate them alot. Yes it was a huge releif to see bubs little HB on screen and even greater to hear the sonographer tell me I have a very healthy little embryo inside there.

Ferrals~ Good luck for your scan today darl I am praying your placenta has taken up mountain climbing and is well on it's way up and out the road for bub to come into the world naturally for you darl. Good Luck and thinking of you today.

Praying Reet and all our North Qlders are high dry and safe before the devastation of Yasi arrives. Thinking and praying for you all up there.

AFM~ Not alot happening still feeling very sick no chuckin up as yet just feel like I am about to, so I don't know which is worse the feeling of needing to or the actual event of being sick. DF told me the other night I have an over hang, his way of being nice and telling me I am getting FAT, lol. I am now waiting for the midwife to ring me back from the hospital I am booking into for my first appointment with an OB and I also have to have an appointment to see a midwife as well, so that will be a huge day when that comes around.
At the moment we are hitting about 38deg. here so I think I will venture to the bedroom today and hide as it's the only room in the house with air cond. Must have it put in the house though before bub arrives even though the MIL has told us if we get air con put in our house she will never visit us again. Hmmmm not a hard decision to make when she says that the sooner we can get it put in the better for all of us I say. lol. My MIL i nothing but a dragon when DF told her of our BFP we never got a congrats we got...... Dont tell me I dont wanna know. hmm yeah, dragon lady.

OMG it is SO CALM outside it is creepy.. not a leaf is moving.. the calm before the storm.. We are evacuating to the school 2 mins away from our house. I really dont think our home will be standing at the end of it.. Found out some 'secret info' from the SES last night.. they have sent 200,000 body bags in, THAT has freaked me out! Will check in as soon as i can, hopefully we dont lose reception for too long. Thanku so much for ur thoughts xxx

OMG Reet, what a horrible thing to find out. Sad thing is that it really does seem like it is going to be that bad :( a lot of people will refuse to leave their houses and by looking at the satallite imageds and radar images, it is going to be a doozy. Hope your family is one of the many that will make it. The eye shoould be hitting about midnight going by the track map.

S&S- How is everything?

Angelfish- My friend went through a very similar thing. She got almost no time with just bub or bub and dh in hospital and then when they got hom it got even worse. Well wishers and MIL would not leave them alone to establish a proper bond and yeah, she ended up with very severe PND. I hope things settle down quickly and you get to spend time as a family with your new and beautiful baby.

clairesmummy- it doesn't seem to go long between feeling like puking and actually doing so lol. The night before mine started I thought that it would be a good idea to go get a bujcket the nexgt day... I basically woke up with my head in the toilet bowl that next morning haha!

Ferrals- good luck.

There is way to much for me to remember to do proper persies so sorry to the MANY I have missed this morning. I do read your posts though :)

AFM- Still sick as and my nipples ARG! Surely they wont just hurt more as the pregnancy continues.... So bad as they are now :( Patiently waiting for the NT scan now, just another week left I think.

Kellbell...yeah i know. im 16 weeks already. yeah i agree, i have to run around after my DD and work a few days a week. Think thats why i havent put on as much weight. My first pregnancy took forever as well.

Angelfish...do you think you have post natal, or just the baby blues? Oh i can completely understand about the step kids. We had two living with us and the other with there mum and apart from all the crazy hormones and the post natal i just wanted to be home alone. There mum wouldnt take them so i kicked up a massive storm. He eventually got them to go to there uncles for a couple weeks. I wanted bonding time, but also learning how to bfeed and i was a first time mother and wanted to suss things out.... Is there a way you can try and change it, tell them your sick or something and theyll have to come another weekend?

Clairesmummy...she does sound like a dragon lady

Reet....oh i hope you're house is still standing and everyone is safe..thinking of you