Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[MistyFying]

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[Mildez]

New Thread woohoo.

Hello to all the gorgeous mummies to be!

Well I've been quiet just hanging around on my own and working so much to get some Christmas spending money!

Anyway thought I'd finally update since my morphology scan. We have a pink miss on the way (hush hush as DH doesn't know) she looks perfect so I'm told although by some great surprise she is actually smaller then she really is. This is a massive shock for me as my babies are so large by now and its a first ever. My last DD was 22weeks in size when she was really 19weeks so I'm abit worried by that. There are some issues with the placenta and I don't have an appointment to see my Ob until 7th December. He should get my results early this week and will perhaps call me to talk about them (he has done this before) so time will tell otherwise I don't see him for almost 3weeks.

Anyway between the placenta and the uterus wall I have what is caleld massive placental lakes. We all have these which is where the placenta gets the maternal blood from. They are basically pools of maternal blood (and one of the reasons we bleed quite abit after birth) anyway mine are huge and multiple. They said the placenta also has alot more vessles then is normal so I don't know what that means. The placenta also extends to the cervix opening so its considered lowlying but I am sure it will come up as my last one was the same. So I'm a little concerned there is something wrong with the placenta and thats why little miss is not big like my last bubs and concerned about the impact it has on her. They haven't ruled out placenta acreta either which scares the cr-p out of me. I don't want a hysterectomy and everything else that goes along with trying to get it out. What makes it even worse is they suspected I had a very mild placenta acreta with my first bub (had to go to theatre to have it removed) so I am already at risk of that happening again. Arr oh well as long as she is safe I can deal with the rest.

Other then that I have 2days to go until I am the magical 20weeks along. Not that its a huge milestone but it seems to be top me. Next milestone after that I'm looking forward to is 26weeks so I really can't wait to get there. I also want to go gender shopping but need some good hiding spots first.

Sorry this is such a me me post. Thinking of you all.

[Reet]

Sorry girls this is going to be a big me post... i have been reading all ur posts everyday tho just been feeling too crap to post back!

Ferrals! I need ur help! When u had ur cough/flu wat did u do?! My muscles are all hurting from my tummy up to my chest.. I havent stopped coughing for the last 5 days.. its a lot worse at night and in the morning, i end up dry retching from every cough, i went to the health store yesterday and got some chesty cough medicine but its not working very well.. if at all.. Any home remedies that work?? Its driving me insane... my poor little baby wldnt be getting much rest.. Ur dr said it doesnt affect baby tho hey..? Any help wld be appreciated cos it doesnt seem to be going away! xxx

[T-hopes]

Mildez - Congrats on the 'Miss'!!! Wonderful news!!! Im sorry to hear about the other concerns.... i wish i had some good advice for you but im such a newbie at all this! special love xx

Reet - aww love, so awful being unwell.... hope your at home resting xx

Hi to everyone else
xx

[forshelby]

Iona - LOL... woah, baby... that's one spending spree! I couldn't bring myself to pay for a brand new cot or pram..... soooooo expensive. I can't believe what they charge for stuff you NEED. It's wrong. So far we've only spent about $250 and are almost done!

Kellie - I'll post a pic of the nursery when it's finished, almost there! I'm glad I'm not the only one with an adverse reaction to plush things close to the vicinity where poo happens. lol. I saw the highchairs at Ikea but they're reeeeeally low to the ground compared to a normal one. Plus they look so... hard. I can picture bubby banging his/her head all the time. Lucky we aren't getting one for quite a while yet, really no point getting it now. Don't you love the little kicks? My belly has been going crazy lately, lots of big kicks all over the place, I can even feel it in the back area too, not as strong as the front but I feel it!

Tegam - I hope today goes well for you.... FX!

Mildez - Congrats on your pink bundle I think 20 weeks is a huge milestone! My placenta is lowlying too, so I feel your pain there. I hope the other issues don't require a hysterectomy or anything else traumatic for you... eek. It's hard when they give you a teeny bit of info and then don't say anything more and you have to wait weeks to find out what's going on. Annoying! Good luck with your next appt, and let us know what they have to say.

Reet - You poor thing..... I don't know any home remedies except maybe steamy showers to help you breathe easier. Is it a dry cough or all um... gross and chunky, lol.

T-Hopes - Look at your ticker cruising along

AFM - I have a dr's appointment tonight, just the usual, check bp, pee in a cup (most likely) listen to baby, be weighed (cringe) and get my referrals for next round of bt's and probably for my scan at 28 weeks. I REALLY hope I don't get that bloody trainee again for my next scan, or I will scream. 2 hours was way too long to lie there, and my back was killing me at 20wks! I think by 28 I will be too pg to put up with sh**, and will probably tell him in no uncertain terms that I can't stay on that awful table for 2 hours while he fart arses around looking at the same body parts repeatedly, and all while not allowing me to see the screen. Oh god I'm getting cranky again just thinking about it!! Can't believe I'm 24 weeks already though. That's 6 months. WOW.

[Tegam]

sorry i like reet have a me post!

Well after another crap appointment on friday, and scan and then another appointment today...... My inducement date has been set for Monday 13th December!! They expect within an hour of waters broken ill have baby in my arms. Another scan i two weeks, if thats not ok ill be induced earlier... You all know me, im totally out of my mind with the pros and cons of it all and there is NOTHING certain about me going ahead with the AROM on the 13th! eeck i dont even like the sound of the date!

Feeling rather sick, stressed and emotional about it all! Wishing i had a cristal ball to know if baby is better off on the inside or not! Poor little skinny runt that it is at the moment!

Wouldnt it be just perfect if baby happened to come at home before all this but at 36+2 i think even with my history its wishful thinking!

Thinking i may just go hide under a rock for a few days now and lick my wounds! So sorry for the me post but i just dont have anything else in me at the moment

[Honeybee]

Hi everyone

Do you girls mind if I pop in? I'm 17 weeks pg and have been posting a bit in my belly buddies thread (hi Mildez and Reet!), but I don't feel like I can burden everyone in there with my constant anxiety - I even bore myself with it sometimes. So I thought perhaps I could vent a little bit of it here?

I lost my first baby at 9.5 weeks, found out at a scan, and the experience has made me a bit of a wreck in my subsequent pregnancies. I have an almost 22 month old son, who is healthy and wonderful, and my pg with him was great - apart from the constant terror that I would lose him. I thought I would be a bit more relaxed in this pg, but if anything it's worse in a way because now I've had a child I know just how much you love them, also - I had a big bleed at 9+3 weeks and was convinced I had miscarried again, but the baby was fine. All has been fine since then, but every time I go for a scan I expect the baby to be dead. I have my anatomy scan coming up Friday week and the closer it gets the more worried I am that there will be something wrong. I want this baby sooooo much, but I keep trying to protect myself in case the worst happens. I would love three children, but I really don't think I could cope with another pregnancy, I am so stressed. I still haven't been able to bring myself to announce it on FB, and have only just worked up the nerve to create a ticker for the baby. Anyway, that's me. I just wish I could enjoy being pregnant a bit more.

Mildez - I really hope your Ob calls you to discuss the results of your scan, three weeks is way too long to wait to find out what the implications are. I hope that everything is OK and you can get some reassurance soon. I'm so glad that your little girl is well and healthy. I've never heard of placental lakes, hopefully yours aren't actually as bad as the sonographer seems to be implying. When will your DH find out the sex? Is he waiting until she is born? There is no way I could keep a secret like that!! Almost 20 weeks - very exciting indeed!

Reet - you poor thing! I hope your cough improves soon. The only thing I can think of is a honey and lemon drink, but probably wouldn't make any difference to a severe cough. It sucks not being able to take proper medicine.

T-hopes - congratulations on your IUI bub, my DS and this baby are IUI bubs too. Hope the next couple of weeks passes in a flash for you.

forshelby - hi! congratulations on reaching 6 months! There is no way I would be able to put up with a 2 hour u/s! Can you request that someone else do it?

Tegam - hello! I hope that bub can stay inside until at least 36 weeks, that sounds very scary having the induction date set.

Looking forward to getting to know you all.

HB
xxxx

[ferrals5]

I just wrote a huge post and lost it bugger!

Reet-vicks on the chest and neck before bed and a bottle of water to sip when you feel a cough coming on it the only thing that helped me.
And holding a pillow to my belly and hunching over when i coughed saved a lot of muscle pain.
And coughs and colds dont hurt bub they are safe in there as long as you dont get a raging temp or the swine flu.
I have had whooping cough and really bad flu's with my pregnancies and the fetal medicine unit professor said it wont hurt the babies unless you have whooping cough at time of the birth.

Mildez-We have something in common with our pregnancies i am seeing a high risk specialist with my grade 4 placenta previa.

I had written a whole lot more on the pram i brought and other things but couldnt be bothered to write it again it took to long.

I have started packing my hospital bag and baby bag for hospital because i dont know if i will be put in hospital early with this placenta so better to be safe then caught off guard i would rather be prepared.

[kellbell]

i just lost my whole post too DOH

Hi honeybee
welcome its a great group in here. its nice to have people who understand the fear which some dont understand in the bellybuddy group. i too feel more scared than with Ella

big hugs to everyone having a rough time
Reet hope you feel better soon
Tegam - oh its such a hard choice will be thinking of you. hope bubs does lots of growing in the next three weeks
Ferrals - hope you dont need that hospital bag for a long time yet

Forhelby - yep plenty of time for a high chair just when you mentioned ikea i remembered where we got ours.
the material one i saw was $1200 too maybe it was supposed to look good and not have an actual baby in it
my sis has a highchair that reclines she has bubs in it quite early

Im starting to worry about our 20 week scan i just want the baby to be healthy

[ferrals5]

Honeybee-welcome to our happy little prego thread.

Kellbell-you will be fine and bub will be perfect.

My girl is disco dancing in my belly right now i think she like tim tams.

[kellbell]

ummmmm tims tams i wish i had some

I am trying to stay positive but the closer it gets the scarier it is - i wish i could just be excited im having a scan and not think about all the things that could go wrong

[forshelby]

Sorry for the upcoming me-ness but I don't know where else to ask this question.

Has anyone else ever had a really sore stomach after the Dr palpated your uterus?? It's hard to describe how it feels, but bending over hurts, lying down is uncomfortable, and It feels all tight and sore. I'm not sure if this is serious or what... It hurts mostly at the top of my belly.

[kellbell]

Sounds like braxton hicks do they come and go? If thats what it is they are its really normal

[angelfish]

Hi everyone sorry i have not really been around i have not been sleeping that well and trying to get things perfect here. I have thanksgivng on thursday then the crazyiness of christmas after that.Not to happy that my bf kids will be here for the christmas weekend i hate feeling the way i do about them.

But welcome Honeybee!

Tegam~ i hope your bub does do allot of growing in the next couple of week. And everyone every once in a while has a me post we need to vent about our worries. thinking of you!

Reet ~ vicks works really well i have had to use it. Hoping you feel better!

Ferrals~ i to next week i will be packing my bag next week i sill dont have any clue what to pack.

It's hard for me to beleive that next week i will be 30 weeks i go in for the growth scan next week. With being diebectic i am so scared that the baby will be too small becosue i am not showing that much i am but i am not.


Kellbell~ I understand how stressful it can be when the days get closer to your scan but please stay postive.

[ferrals5]

Kellbell-I understand your worry believe me every scan i went to i was sick with anxiety leading up to it after all Abbi's scan's were abnormal and they would find something else wrong each time we went.
But you have had no problems so far your ealier scans were all good weren't they? so try to relax there is nothing you can do until you get in there and they have a look so dont stress it will only make things worse and bubby needs a calm mum.

Forshelby-sound's pretty normal to me our stomach muscles stretch to all buggery when we are pregnant and any extra pressure on them can make them sore i know when i work my stomach is extremely sore by the time i get home all the bending and reaching really does a number on mine to the point that no position is comfortable and i feel like i have torn my muscles so i have to take panadole then it comes good the next day only for me to go back to work so i am trying to do a lot of my work standing to avoid all the reaching and stretching.

Angelfish-It is hard with DP kid's but when you have your own baby you will understand the bond between a parent and their child and that is something you will never have with his kids that unconditional love and when you have your little one you will see what i mean imagine the shoe being on the other foot they were your kids and he wasnt to keen on them and didnt want them around so often it would be hurtful to you i know what you are going through i have a step daughter who cant do any wrong in her fathers eyes but i deal with it in a way that make DH see they he is favoring her and he really tries to treat and disapline them all the same but as i said when you have that maternal bond there is just something there that the step parent will never have and when they do wrong let him deal with it so he can see that they are not perfect and he needs to pull them into line but just remember how you you love your DP and do it for him they are his children and he will always love them so they come as a package deal and remember THEY GO HOME!!!! lol

AFM-all good with me my disco queen is kicking up a storm when she is awake and i have been buying a little every week to get ready for her arrival.

[Mildez]

Mildez-We have something in common with our pregnancies i am seeing a high risk specialist with my grade 4 placenta previa.

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Yes we do were both having girls

[Mildez]

Reet I hope your have found something to help with the cough. Sounds aweful.

T-Hopes almost into the 2nd trimester woohoo

Forshelby I too hate getting weighed. Next time I'll refuse but. Hope your next scan you don't get a trainee. Mine took 1.5hrs and I thought that was long although I loved every minute of it minus the full bladder. DH had enough he told me to stop talking so she could finish her job but she was doing it whilst talking. I too was extremely uncomfortable after my ultrasound. I felt all brusied but it was up high towards the top of my uterus. The scan hurt also when she was doing it so I knew it was a direct cause from that. Anyway it was fine the day after but still took ages to go away.

Honeybee welcome. Hope your anxiety improves and you can enjoy your pregnancy more. It sucks when past experiences spoil the enjoyment out of the next time out of fear of something happening again. I too dread the thought of another pregnancy after this bub I still want the baby so I guess there is only one thing to do about that. Going again is a possibility for us but not definate.

Kellbell I too was an anxious mess before my scan. I have been for everyone so far. Worried they would find something wrong with bub. Its so reasuring to hear everything with bub is progressing as expected. I hope your scan speeds up so you have some reasurrance all is perfect.

Angelfish 30weeks woohoo that seems to far pregnant lol. Well it does when your 20weeks yourself.

Me I have lost my mobile in the house (which is on silence) so I dont know what calls Ive missed. Hoping the Ob calls me and tells me if they think its a placenta accreta. Speaking to one of the Drs at work and they said I have alot of risk factors and signs pointing to that. So I'm still worried as it can cause growth restriction and I'm already worried about that seeing as bub is now smaller then it should be and its too early to be showing signs of IUGR. Was researching the amount of accretas that need a hysterectomy to get the placenta out and its less then 25% so its not as bad as I first suspected it to be. So glad I have private health insurance right now. Its made my mind up to give up one of my jobs just before Christmas and just stick to working in labour ward. Atleast then if something does happen at work I dont have to go anywhere. At my other job I'd have to wait until someone came before I could leave so I'm giving that the flick.

[ferrals5]

Mildez-lol.
I was referring to our placenta's but i will go with the girls.