Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[Reet]

Post is coming! I accidently clicked on post when i so wasnt ready!!!

[Reet]

Forshelby- Oh what a terrible day. U poor thing I wld definitely be looking into tweed hospital.. gc hosp doesnt sound like a very good one to be having ur baby at! I reckon even if u are booked in u shld be able to change.. especially if u tell them what a bad experience u have had! I hope u get some answers soon

Melster- Hope u wake up feeling a bit better tomoro morning. Yum to having the pizza for dinner!

Mildez- Congratulations on the 20 week milestone.. woohoo!!!!

Honeybee- Hope ur ds goes to bed tonight like a little angel! Was he grumpy all day today since he had a late night or did u both manage a sleep in?? And so funny.. when i was reading ur post i misread it and thought that u said that u can handle DH'S urine smell.. i was thinking hmmm somethings not right here and read it again and saw that it was actually DS u had written! U had already changed it by the time i had read it. Weird that i even saw it like that in the first place!

Kell- Oh enjoy ur break. Thats exactly what i feel like doing.. Getting away for the next few weeks. Time is always so much easier to handle when ur away from home. Be sure to let us know as soon as u have ur scan!

AFM- This is WAY TMI!!! But... my bbs are finally playing the whole pregnancy game!!! Im a bit embarrassed to say but what the heck... Clear stuff has started coming out of them!!! I got so excited when i noticed! hahaha yes im a weirdo i know. Im a bit funny about dh going near them now when we are gettin it on but i guess its only a little bit and i did kinda have to squeeze a little to notice it There just wont be any squeezing going on!!!
Hahaha anyway im off to bed. Ive shamed myself for the day... oh the things that get me excited..

xxx

[ferrals5]

Forshelby-What are they on at my doc and midwife pregnancy history is m/c terminations everything i cant believe your experience i hate that they treat 1st time mums like they know nothing and make you feel bad next time i hope is better.
But if you can go elsewhere and tell them how bad your experience was.
Is this appointment to have a look at bubs feet? or a general scan?

AFM-I am exhausted from work nothing else happening.

[Reet]

Yeah forshelby whenever i have been asked what number pg this is they always include m/c'es. My dh actually looked at me stunned when i said number 2 the first time. He was probably thinking hhmmmm ive known u for 6 yrs, how can this be so?! I guess he didnt count the m/c as a real pg either tho.

Ferrals- I think its time for u to cut back on ur work! when are u finishing up??

[forshelby]

Reet - Yeah, I will definitely look into changing hospitals. I cracked up laughing when I read your TMI bit... LOL. It's happened to me a few times, I find it very strange and lucky for me DP knows my bbs are pretty much off limits for any kind of er...... action. LOL. He knows they aren't his anymore! Keep your bra on if it makes you feel weird about it..... that's always good if you want to be all 'spur of the moment' lol. I don't think my DP considered the first pg as 'real' either until I got pg again and he was um.. a bit more mature about it. I think now he realises how much it really changes your life before they even come out, and when I had my first appt at the drs they asked if this was my first pg and HE said 'no we had a miscarriage'. Even though it's not what he said I heard 'Im sorry I was such a bastard'. hehehe..

Ferrals - Oh I know, I was so offended when she said it didn't count. The next appointment with the hospital is for no reason as far as i can see. I wouldn't have had my next scan until 32 weeks (they want to argue with the dr and have it at 32 instead of 28....... nobody can agree). I don't know what reason they would have for wanting to see me again when I can just go to my GP for my 28week visit as scheduled. He's doing my GTT anyway..... so yeah, I don't know what their problem is. And I don't have to drive an hour round trip and wait 2 hours or more to see my GP! He's just around the corner! He's already given me a ref. for the scan he wants me to have at 28 weeks to look at the low lying placenta, but he never mentioned having to go to Brisbane at all! Now they're telling me they want me to skip the 28 week scan, and go to Brisbane at 32 weeks and have one done so they can 'make sure nothing else is wrong'. It isn't even to look at bubby's feet!!! Ummmm by 32 weeks it's too f***** late..... if something is wrong it isn't going to change the fact that this baby will be born and its parents will love it. Honestly, I would like to refuse the extra scan and tell them that I find it unneccesary, and that no matter what the outcome is I will be having this baby. I came back low risk for everything at 12 wks, so I don't know why I'm being subjected to all this crap. What would you do?! And I'll second Reet's question, when do you finish work?

AFM - Still feeling a bit aggravated with all this confusion. I wish the hospital and dr could just agree. I'm going to follow my GP's plan, because frankly the hospital are a bunch of idiots, and tell him I no longer wish to give birth there. I'll see him on the monday before my next hosp. appointment anyway, and will have the GTT done as well as the scan, so if he agrees they're morons, so be it... I'm not going back there. He was getting cranky with them when he asked me if I'd seen the hospital yet and I said yes. He said 'well it'd be nice if they let ME know'. Poor bugger is as out of the loop as I am. Add all this to the paperwork shenanigans and the not returning my calls etc.... I've just had it with those clowns. I get they're short staffed, but wow. So far they haven't managed to get a single thing right in the course of this pg. Even the simplest thing is ****ed up big time. Ok, Im going to go and get out of the house now before I go completely crazy.

[angelicdragon]

Can't recall who was commenting on the GD test, but I had GD with my first 4 pgs but not with the last two. I passed with good numbers
So it isn't always true that once you have had it you have it with each pg.

I've been quiet and still stressing about Monday. I still feel sure that when he does the scan he'll tell us we have lost yet another one. The last scan showed two sacs and one heartbeat measuring a day behind, but I did ovulate a day late.The twins scan was a week behind and the sac was not in proportion to the baby and was very small. So this time round the measurements are all good and spot on .. but... maybe it is justthe self protection thing stepping in. I still feel sick and have very sore bbs.

Better go, my 19mth old DS and my grandson aged 2 are both using the spare bed as a trampoline, well it is wet and yucky outside lol

[luna moth]

Hi girls... sorry I haven't been posting. It's pure beached whale laziness.

forshelby - sounds like such a yucky time with your hospy! If you're having a scan for low lying placenta, you want it to be later rather than sooner, so it has more time to move. I did a wee sneaky and pushed mine back at the last minute - didn't matter though as it was well clear.

Tegam - exciting to finish work! Hooray for you!

to everyone else. I am very very very ready for this little bunny to come on out!

[Tegam]

Hope its soon for you audax!

[ferrals5]

Forshelby- if you were 18-20 weeks i go and have extra scans, testing extra but if they are not going to do anything until 28-32 weeks then i agree with you bub will be born and there is no changing that and if you were low risk at 12 weeks then to me it just sounds like a little structual problem with bubs feet many babies are born with club foot/feet, clicky hips holes in the heart ect no one is perfect and the doctors today are fabulous at fixing the little imperfections that otherwise are of no great consequence as our babies are beautiful.
So i would go at 28 weeks to check on the placenta because like my placenta they can be an issue and the earlier we know the better to avoid problems and just go from there.
And i will be finishing up in february if there is no bleeding from my placenta the late nights are just killing me and being this time of year we are very busy.
I got my latest roster yesterday and they have given me an extra 10 hour shift on a saturday morning so that takes me to 40+ hours that week i emailed my rostering manager and said no more extra shifts i will keel over with exhaustion.

Reet-I have cut back already i am doing 3-4 days i use to do 5-6 days before we got pregnant with Abbi i dropped back when we were ttc this little lady i just have very long shifts 10 hour shifts YUK!.

Angelicdragon-All will be fine you are doing great just hang in there until monday.

Audax-the next time we here from you it will be with your birth anouncement.

AFM-Today i went out and brought baby clothes for little miss to wear while in hospital a few little newborn nighties and pink jumpsuits singlets and socks and pink beanie all easy access and comfy for a new bub they are sooooooooooooooo adoreable.

[Tegam]

AFM-Today i went out and brought baby clothes for little miss to wear while in hospital a few little newborn nighties and pink jumpsuits singlets and socks and pink beanie all easy access and comfy for a new bub they are sooooooooooooooo adoreable.

Oh how lovely is that! For so many weeks watching your signature with the "hoping for a good CVS'... to hear that you are out buying clothes and enjoy this pregnancy (well thru all the long shifts and tiredness) It all bring a tear to my eye! Thanks for sharing your lovely shopping trip!

[ferrals5]

Tegam-I know i still cant believe it i am actually doing normal pregnant things i still find myself thinking should i buy this what if something go's wrong but i quicky snap out of it and say to myself life is so uncertain we cant not enjoy it just in case something goes wrong because if everything turns out fine we have missed all the exciting lead up to her arrival.

[Tegam]

i can totally understand. One person can not go thru as much stress as you have in the recent past and not think that there will be hang on effects but if you can "snap out of it' as you say, then i think you are doing an amazing job!!!!!!

And yes all our little ones deserve us to try to enjoy every minute for what it is not what was or could have been!

Isnt that why all of us somewhat emotionally screwed up women are here??

[Melster]

im sorry this post is about me......im so so scared and i just dont know what to do.....i have had some spots of blood.....no real pain just a dull period type ache...in normal circumstances ud probably be ok....and i know it can be common........but after the mc...no blood is good to me...and i cant calm down...the fear has set in and i dont feel any hope..........im at a loss....can this happen again to me.......im so upset the tears keep falling....

[Tegam]

Oh Melster! I can feel your fear! Wish there was something i could do to make you feel better. Be kind to yourself and try not to completey fall apart... We are all here for you, hope you can get a scan tomorrow that will put all your fears to rest!

[ferrals5]

Tegam-yes it is most definately is.

Melster-I dont know what to say a lot of women spot for no reason and their bubs are fine my best friend bleeds for the 1st 10 weeks of all of her pregnancies and her babies have been ok but i understand you are terrified of another m/c try and get into the docs tomorrow for a scan if you can.

[angelfish]

melster~ i wish i had some great words of wisdom.But my thoughts and prayers are with you i hope that you can get into the drs and get a scan.

Angelicdragon~ wishing you the best at your scan. I understand how stressful this all can be.

Ferrals~ it makes me happy to hear that you went out and bought baby cloths. I have bought somethings but i still need more since i am not having a babyshower but i have been holding off due to worrying about if something goes wrong but your last two post has made a big difference about how i feel
****** sorry so long**
AFM~ its thanksgiving is here today its just me and my bf which i am happy about. Please everyone don't think that i am a horrible person when it comes to my bf kids. I am just consered about when the baby comes they are always sick with something, the youngest one has issues with controling her anger she has gotten phisical with her younger step~sister who is three and she has already pushed her numiuos times. There is actually room in there bedroom for the baby to be for a couple of month but i dont feel safe at all. When they come its just really stressful. My bf 95% of the time is on the computer or wacthing tv so everything is left up to me. The cooking and cleaning and right now i am so tired that i dont have the engery for this. Also if you dont keep an eye on them they will be distroying everything thing. His oldest one loves to talk to me which i love and she tells me the stuff that is gong on at her home. Which is horrible she is ten and she is left doing all the cleaning and watching her younger sisters while her mom sleeps becouse she got 6 hours of sleep and was on the internet all day. I feel that my hands are tied i tryed to get someone involed but nothing ever came of it. I love these kids like they were my own. but i also have to worry about my baby this is coming in feb.

[ferrals5]

Angelfish-First of all dont worry about the stepkids illnesses it is normal what do you think would happen if you had an older child or children in pre school or school they catch everything and bring it home.
I had a 4 year old and 2 year old in pre school when i brought my newborn home and they caught everything from chicken pox to imbatago just make everyone wash hands before they touch baby for the first few months and bub will be fine STOP PANICING!!!
secondly you poor thing that is so unfair that he is leaving his kids all up to you they are his responsibility and he needs to get off the net or TV and start pulling his weight you need to tell him when your kids are here i need help and if he wont.
Do what i did in the very begining when DH first started going out my DH would always be to busy to do things with his daughter so i would make plans to meet the girls or my mum so he was left alone with her lol and had no choice but to get off the net but make sure its plans that kids cant go and Dp would not want to go either.
Or you could take the stand your ground attitude and just tell him if you dont start pulling your weight when your kids are here everytime they come i will go stay with ????? mum/friend who ever until they have gone home maybe then he will see it is to much for you.

Oh and i am glad my last 2 posts have changed your mind regarding buying for this bub.

There sorry for the rant but OMG! some men are unbelieveable they have no idea.
Tell me if i crossed the line but my ex husband was a lazy TV game addict and i divorced him.

AFM-last night i had my 1st run of braxton hicks contractions i had about 8 of them in a row every 3-4 minutes so i went and had a bath and they stopped thank god with my placenta i dont want to many of them.

[Melster]

morning ladies...

well i have had no more blood apart from the brownish bit on my nickers and some red when i went to the loo.....i have had no stabbing pain like last time....just some dull periodish type pain on and off....i feel quiet sick....and still have a slight cold.......mum wants to to ring and go see the ob...this is when bubs died last time....but im now petrified of having a scan.....he said last time that he didnt want to do it early just incase we couldnt see anything......