Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[forshelby]

Stoked - I think it's still early enough that bubby could still be snuggling in and implanting? I hope all is well in there

Dory - I think I just got a crummy doctor who was in a rush. Next time I'll be refusing to have them feel for baby's position, it just freaks me out too much and gives me awful tummy pains. If anything like that happens again I will be complaining. Hannah bear will be fine, since she was still sleeping it couldn't have bothered her too much She was probably basking in the sunshine and enjoying it!

Tegam - Hehe, I couldn't help but chuckle when you said 'leg fat'. Soooo cute. Good luck for your growth scan

Angelfish - Good luck for your growth scan too, hun All will be fabulous.

Melster - LOL @ your punching hubby in the arm comment. If he complains tell him next time it'll be the face. I hope you're feeling less queasy soon!

Mildez - Enjoy the nookie while you can, hehe

AFM - Went to BIL's birthday party last night, it sure is a different experience going to parties when pg. I ended up hanging out with the kids because well, we could all be sober together, lol. My niece and her little friend were hovering around all night on 'standby' to feel the baby kick. Very cute. I still had a good time though but was slightly devastated that there was no cake. The only part I didn't enjoy were some of the older women (friends of SIL) proceding to treat me like a bit of an idiot regarding motherhood..... I got the condescending 'oh it's going to get so much worse honey' and the 'you think that's bad.... (insert horror story here)'. One lady laughed when I said I wasn't afraid of the birth. Why do women insist on doing that??? I just brushed their comments off though, and reminded myself that no matter how the labour goes I have faith in my body and feel confident about giving birth. I get that it's going to be the most intense pain I've ever felt. But trying to scare the sh** out of me isn't going to help anything, or change anything.... it's actually just rude and unsupportive.

Ok that's my mini-vent for the day. I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend

[~Stoked~]

Hello Ladies,

Forshelby, I was wondering whether it could have been implantation, but i would have been 4 weeks 1 day and i already had hcg of 73 so doesn't hcg only start once implantation has already occured?? I don't know...
Boo to those horror story tellers! Birth isn't scary! I am sure that Telly has recommended that you read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, best book ever! Her and I are like the Ina May Cheer Squad! And what is with the no-cake birthday party!?!?! GOSSSSHHHHHH!!

Dory, We have all done terrible things to our children unintentionally How is Hannah this morning?

Melster, Thanks for asking The spotting has stopped. Only had it on Friday night, nothing at all since then. I really am not feeling pregnant yet, but i suppose i am only 4.5 weeks so that's probably normal? Just went back over my Belly Buddies threads from my last 2 pregnancies and MS didn't kick in til 5.5/6 weeks and sore BB's not til 4.5/5 weeks so i still have a little time! Hope you feel better soon... although i hope the MS sticks around for you... just for some reassurance!!

Hello to everyone else!

x

[Tegam]

stoked glad that there has been no more bleeding!

forshelby: No cake what tha?? Horror stories. DH and i counted 6 positive stories about babies and birth while we were pregnant with Dd1. It worried us for a little while then it made us laugh. Also just made me say a huge thank you to those that say something nice! Labout is not scary and there is no need for horror stories. Just ask yourself "how many children did this person have" Surely if it was so bad then they would have stopped at one??

I dont even find labour painful AT ALL. intense yes but mine have a history of coming very quickly. But my first birth was 6.5hrs long and lovely. I saw contractions as waves and that made them only last for half the time! Transition was a weird feeling like i should have been doing something but didnt know what and pushing was great! Suddenly i had something i could do. Straight away on video i have me saying "oh i could do that again!

I grew up around positive birth stories and i had this very firm belief that it was natural and normal to birth. Fear or pain didnt add into the equation and i knew at the end i would have my very own baby to hold. What more could someone ask for!!!

[ferrals5]

Mildez-ask away i have no shame lol.
My doctor said at the moment as i have no spotting or bleeding that sex is fine he will review the placenta at 28 weeks then decide if we need to cut back or give it up altogether NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! that would kill me.
I also have a posteria placenta but it completely covers the cervix and i was told i have a 2% chance it will move i was also told have placenta previa grade 4 puts me at risk for vasa previa but they wont check for that until a little later that is where there is problems with the vessels and if they rupture bub will bleed out.
The midwife said to avoid sex or at least be gentle and shallow but i will listen to the doctor and my body and the 1st sign of a spot of blood and we stop but for now i just got home from work and DH whipped me up to the bedroom and i had one humdinger of an orgasm and all has been fine.
I also have been having braxton hicks with no problems but in the back of my head i worry a little so i take it easy.
I have a high risk specialist appt on the 10th so i will be asking everything possible about the risks and what i should or shouldnt do i think 28 weeks they like you to really take it easy you are 2 weeks behind me arent you?.
What day is your appointment ask them about vasa previa seeing as though you have a vesselly placenta.

Tegam-i said the same thing with my 2nd and 3rd i got off the bed after a 4 hour and a 2 hour labour and said i could do that again it was easy and the pain was not to bad my 1st was induced and 26 hours later after a prolapsed cord and emergency OB came in said push push now we need to get bub out so 2 pushes and he was out and in intensive care but again the pushing was easy and quick so i hope i dont have to have a ceasar with this one i want another easy birth.

Ladies ladies we are not bad mothers we are just mothers who care i have done the car door thing with my boys and felt terrible but we are human and our kids are resiliant and they will love you unconditionally whether or not you step on their foot close the door on them or have to pull a splinter.

Forshelby-good for you birth hurts but look what we get at the end of it.

Hi Dory!

Stoked- good to hear the spotting has stopped.

Melster-boo on the ms but yeh its a good sign all is well.

Angel-woohoo on the 30 weeks not long now.

Audax-i hope we havnt heard from you because you have gone off and had you bubby.

AFM-nothing much to report work today fabulous sex this arvo little miss being a disco diva and baked dinner in the oven.

[Tegam]

AFM-nothing much to report work today fabulous sex this arvo little miss being a disco diva and baked dinner in the oven.

Totally and utterly green here!

[forshelby]

Stoked - I would like to join this Ina May cheersquad, lol. That was the first book I read after Telly sent it to me and I LOVED it. I think that's where I realized I don't have to be afraid of birth. I'm reading Active birth right now and it's just as good, actually more 'technical'. As for the spotting, I wonder if it's still possibly related to implanation? Like a bit of blood took a while to escape the body? Not sure.

Tegam - I'm the opposite I think, grew up around all the birth horror stories. They used to scare me but now they just annoy me. As I said, why don't women support eachother? It's like a competition to see who had the hardest longest labour.. and everyone wants to win. It's stupid! My own sister used to tell me her own birth stories over and over again when I was a kid (she's 12yrs older than me) and delighted in the horrified look on my face! I've decided to put all the negativity aside and just enjoy things. DP is also irritated by the number of people who have told him how awful having a baby is (men he knows at work) and how hard it is and blah blah blah. DP says he wonders if maybe they didn't want their babies, because he's excited about having a little one. (awwww)

Ferrals - exactly!!! Well said. Congrats on the great sex... lol.

AFM - Just about to check out the baby's room, DP has snuck in and hung our little mesh toy hanging thingiemagig and I'm dying to see it. YAY!

[angelicdragon]

me post: not looking good. At 6w1d I measured exactly 6 wks but now at 7w5d I only measure 6w5d. The baby has grown a bit more than the sac did so the sac now measures not in ratio to baby which is not good. The h/b is supposed to be around 160-180 but is only 117. So it's not looking at all good, almost exactly the same as with the twins back in March. And yes we should be having twins this time as well as there are two clear sacs, but he said one sac is empty. he did abdominal scan not internal. Not sure if that makes any difference? The fact my nausea is not as bad as it was last week is also not a good sign , he said it could mean my hormone levels are already decreasing. I have to go back next Monday morning to see if there is any change.
I think I need all the prayers I can get