Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

Reet - Yeah, I will definitely look into changing hospitals. I cracked up laughing when I read your TMI bit... LOL. It's happened to me a few times, I find it very strange and lucky for me DP knows my bbs are pretty much off limits for any kind of er...... action. LOL. He knows they aren't his anymore! Keep your bra on if it makes you feel weird about it..... that's always good if you want to be all 'spur of the moment' lol. I don't think my DP considered the first pg as 'real' either until I got pg again and he was um.. a bit more mature about it. I think now he realises how much it really changes your life before they even come out, and when I had my first appt at the drs they asked if this was my first pg and HE said 'no we had a miscarriage'. Even though it's not what he said I heard 'Im sorry I was such a bastard'. hehehe..

Ferrals - Oh I know, I was so offended when she said it didn't count. The next appointment with the hospital is for no reason as far as i can see. I wouldn't have had my next scan until 32 weeks (they want to argue with the dr and have it at 32 instead of 28....... nobody can agree). I don't know what reason they would have for wanting to see me again when I can just go to my GP for my 28week visit as scheduled. He's doing my GTT anyway..... so yeah, I don't know what their problem is. And I don't have to drive an hour round trip and wait 2 hours or more to see my GP! He's just around the corner! He's already given me a ref. for the scan he wants me to have at 28 weeks to look at the low lying placenta, but he never mentioned having to go to Brisbane at all! Now they're telling me they want me to skip the 28 week scan, and go to Brisbane at 32 weeks and have one done so they can 'make sure nothing else is wrong'. It isn't even to look at bubby's feet!!! Ummmm by 32 weeks it's too f***** late..... if something is wrong it isn't going to change the fact that this baby will be born and its parents will love it. Honestly, I would like to refuse the extra scan and tell them that I find it unneccesary, and that no matter what the outcome is I will be having this baby. I came back low risk for everything at 12 wks, so I don't know why I'm being subjected to all this crap. What would you do?! And I'll second Reet's question, when do you finish work?

AFM - Still feeling a bit aggravated with all this confusion. I wish the hospital and dr could just agree. I'm going to follow my GP's plan, because frankly the hospital are a bunch of idiots, and tell him I no longer wish to give birth there. I'll see him on the monday before my next hosp. appointment anyway, and will have the GTT done as well as the scan, so if he agrees they're morons, so be it... I'm not going back there. He was getting cranky with them when he asked me if I'd seen the hospital yet and I said yes. He said 'well it'd be nice if they let ME know'. Poor bugger is as out of the loop as I am. Add all this to the paperwork shenanigans and the not returning my calls etc.... I've just had it with those clowns. I get they're short staffed, but wow. So far they haven't managed to get a single thing right in the course of this pg. Even the simplest thing is ****ed up big time. :( Ok, Im going to go and get out of the house now before I go completely crazy.

Can't recall who was commenting on the GD test, but I had GD with my first 4 pgs but not with the last two. I passed with good numbers :)
So it isn't always true that once you have had it you have it with each pg.

I've been quiet and still stressing about Monday. I still feel sure that when he does the scan he'll tell us we have lost yet another one. The last scan showed two sacs and one heartbeat measuring a day behind, but I did ovulate a day late.The twins scan was a week behind and the sac was not in proportion to the baby and was very small. So this time round the measurements are all good and spot on .. but... maybe it is justthe self protection thing stepping in. I still feel sick and have very sore bbs.

Better go, my 19mth old DS and my grandson aged 2 are both using the spare bed as a trampoline, well it is wet and yucky outside lol

Hi girls... sorry I haven't been posting. It's pure beached whale laziness.

forshelby - sounds like such a yucky time with your hospy! If you're having a scan for low lying placenta, you want it to be later rather than sooner, so it has more time to move. I did a wee sneaky and pushed mine back at the last minute - didn't matter though as it was well clear.

Tegam - exciting to finish work! Hooray for you!

:hello: to everyone else. I am very very very ready for this little bunny to come on out!

Hope its soon for you audax!

Forshelby- if you were 18-20 weeks i go and have extra scans, testing extra but if they are not going to do anything until 28-32 weeks then i agree with you bub will be born and there is no changing that and if you were low risk at 12 weeks then to me it just sounds like a little structual problem with bubs feet many babies are born with club foot/feet, clicky hips holes in the heart ect no one is perfect and the doctors today are fabulous at fixing the little imperfections that otherwise are of no great consequence as our babies are beautiful.
So i would go at 28 weeks to check on the placenta because like my placenta they can be an issue and the earlier we know the better to avoid problems and just go from there.
And i will be finishing up in february if there is no bleeding from my placenta the late nights are just killing me and being this time of year we are very busy.
I got my latest roster yesterday and they have given me an extra 10 hour shift :shakehead: on a saturday morning so that takes me to 40+ hours that week i emailed my rostering manager and said no more extra shifts i will keel over with exhaustion.

Reet-I have cut back already i am doing 3-4 days i use to do 5-6 days before we got pregnant with Abbi i dropped back when we were ttc this little lady i just have very long shifts 10 hour shifts YUK!.

Angelicdragon-All will be fine you are doing great just hang in there until monday.

Audax-the next time we here from you it will be with your birth anouncement.

AFM-Today i went out and brought baby clothes for little miss to wear while in hospital a few little newborn nighties and pink jumpsuits singlets and socks and pink beanie all easy access and comfy for a new bub they are sooooooooooooooo adoreable.

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AFM-Today i went out and brought baby clothes for little miss to wear while in hospital a few little newborn nighties and pink jumpsuits singlets and socks and pink beanie all easy access and comfy for a new bub they are sooooooooooooooo adoreable.

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Oh how lovely is that! For so many weeks watching your signature with the "hoping for a good CVS'... to hear that you are out buying clothes and enjoy this pregnancy (well thru all the long shifts and tiredness) It all bring a tear to my eye! Thanks for sharing your lovely shopping trip!

Tegam-I know i still cant believe it i am actually doing normal pregnant things i still find myself thinking should i buy this what if something go's wrong but i quicky snap out of it and say to myself life is so uncertain we cant not enjoy it just in case something goes wrong because if everything turns out fine we have missed all the exciting lead up to her arrival.

i can totally understand. One person can not go thru as much stress as you have in the recent past and not think that there will be hang on effects but if you can "snap out of it' as you say, then i think you are doing an amazing job!!!!!!

And yes all our little ones deserve us to try to enjoy every minute for what it is not what was or could have been!

Isnt that why all of us somewhat emotionally screwed up women are here?? :rofl:

im sorry this post is about me......im so so scared and i just dont know what to do.....i have had some spots of blood.....no real pain just a dull period type ache...in normal circumstances ud probably be ok....and i know it can be common........but after the mc...no blood is good to me...and i cant calm down...the fear has set in and i dont feel any hope..........im at a loss....can this happen again to me.......im so upset the tears keep falling....

Oh Melster! I can feel your fear! Wish there was something i could do to make you feel better. Be kind to yourself and try not to completey fall apart... We are all here for you, hope you can get a scan tomorrow that will put all your fears to rest!

Tegam-yes it is most definately is.

Melster-I dont know what to say a lot of women spot for no reason and their bubs are fine my best friend bleeds for the 1st 10 weeks of all of her pregnancies and her babies have been ok but i understand you are terrified of another m/c try and get into the docs tomorrow for a scan if you can.

melster~ i wish i had some great words of wisdom.But my thoughts and prayers are with you i hope that you can get into the drs and get a scan.

Angelicdragon~ wishing you the best at your scan. I understand how stressful this all can be.

Ferrals~ it makes me happy to hear that you went out and bought baby cloths. I have bought somethings but i still need more since i am not having a babyshower but i have been holding off due to worrying about if something goes wrong but your last two post has made a big difference about how i feel
****** sorry so long**
AFM~ its thanksgiving is here today its just me and my bf which i am happy about. Please everyone don't think that i am a horrible person when it comes to my bf kids. I am just consered about when the baby comes they are always sick with something, the youngest one has issues with controling her anger she has gotten phisical with her younger step~sister who is three and she has already pushed her numiuos times. There is actually room in there bedroom for the baby to be for a couple of month but i dont feel safe at all. When they come its just really stressful. My bf 95% of the time is on the computer or wacthing tv so everything is left up to me. The cooking and cleaning and right now i am so tired that i dont have the engery for this. Also if you dont keep an eye on them they will be distroying everything thing. His oldest one loves to talk to me which i love and she tells me the stuff that is gong on at her home. Which is horrible she is ten and she is left doing all the cleaning and watching her younger sisters while her mom sleeps becouse she got 6 hours of sleep and was on the internet all day. I feel that my hands are tied i tryed to get someone involed but nothing ever came of it. I love these kids like they were my own. but i also have to worry about my baby this is coming in feb.

Angelfish-First of all dont worry about the stepkids illnesses it is normal what do you think would happen if you had an older child or children in pre school or school they catch everything and bring it home.
I had a 4 year old and 2 year old in pre school when i brought my newborn home and they caught everything from chicken pox to imbatago just make everyone wash hands before they touch baby for the first few months and bub will be fine STOP PANICING!!!
secondly you poor thing that is so unfair that he is leaving his kids all up to you they are his responsibility and he needs to get off the net or TV and start pulling his weight you need to tell him when your kids are here i need help and if he wont.
Do what i did in the very begining when DH first started going out my DH would always be to busy to do things with his daughter so i would make plans to meet the girls or my mum so he was left alone with her lol and had no choice but to get off the net but make sure its plans that kids cant go and Dp would not want to go either.
Or you could take the stand your ground attitude and just tell him if you dont start pulling your weight when your kids are here everytime they come i will go stay with ????? mum/friend who ever until they have gone home maybe then he will see it is to much for you.

Oh and i am glad my last 2 posts have changed your mind regarding buying for this bub.

There sorry for the rant but OMG! some men are unbelieveable they have no idea.
Tell me if i crossed the line but my ex husband was a lazy TV game addict and i divorced him.

AFM-last night i had my 1st run of braxton hicks contractions i had about 8 of them in a row every 3-4 minutes so i went and had a bath and they stopped thank god with my placenta i dont want to many of them.

morning ladies...

well i have had no more blood apart from the brownish bit on my nickers and some red when i went to the loo.....i have had no stabbing pain like last time....just some dull periodish type pain on and off....i feel quiet sick....and still have a slight cold.......mum wants to to ring and go see the ob...this is when bubs died last time....but im now petrified of having a scan.....he said last time that he didnt want to do it early just incase we couldnt see anything......

Melster, get the scan. If they can't see anything, you'll just get another one, but at 6w3d you should at least be able to get a measurement, and check that there's nothing else wrong.

Fingers crossed for you.

ferrals~ no you have not crossed the line at all. The kids are here to see him they need him. Nothing is written in stone that i am going to be with there father forever.And these kids need to feel wanted most of all.

Melster - how scary for you hun :hug: Blood is the worst thing to see. I had a huge bleed at 9+3 with this baby, was convinced s/he had gone, but all was OK. Had bad, sharp pains with the bleeding too so thought it was all over. I'm so glad that the bleeding has pretty much stopped. I think you should go and get a scan anyway hun, just to know.

HB
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Mel at 6w3d you should see something. Even it is only a gestational sac and fetal pole but usually by now there is a flickering heartbeat too.
I did have a long post typed up early but my DS1 decided to hit the keyboard and the whole lot went :(

has anyone ever just known that are no longer pg with a live baby? Last night I just had this feeling and so today I dind't take my B6 to ss if I had any m/s and I don't feel too bad. Roll on Monday.
sorry for the me post again. DS1 does not let me sit here long enough to read, remember and post. add to that he is not well and DS6 is home from school not well too. so I am off..
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Hello Ladies,

Though i might join you in here. I know some of you from the TTC threads :hello:

Found out on Wednesday that i am pregnant again! Very exciting, but terrifying news! I have had 4 m/c's with the most recent one being in June this year. I am trying to remain positive but, as you all would know, easier said than done!

I haven't read much of the thread so far but i am sure i will get to know you all in no time.

AngelicDragon, just wanted to say- While i was pregnant with DS (and super, super paranoid!!) i woke up one morning and i thought for sure that the baby had died. I had had miscarriages before that so i knew the feeling. My BB's had stopped hurting, i didn't feel sick... i was devastated. I even told my DH that i had lost the baby cause i was so sure i had.... anyway, fast forward to now, DS is almost one year old and healthy as! My symptoms came and went so many times.. it was terrifying! But that is actually a normal part of pregnancy. So please don't stress yourself.. You are pregnant until proven otherwise! xx

Melster, i wrote to you in the TTC thread.. :hug:

Look forward to getting to know you all!

xx

melstar - you really need to go and have a scan, too much stress for you just wondering what is going on in there!
I just wanted to let you know I had some spotting/bleeding when i was 9w 1day... it scared the crap outta me because it was simular to the last year when i had m/c. It was 99% brown stuff but there were a few specks of pink, lasted 24hrs... i paged my ob and he saw me straight away... everything was fine... bubby was safe n sound! I have had another scan since then at 10wks and all still perfect! I was convinced id lost it but we are still cruising along... I really didnt beleive that i could be one of those ppl to bleed and still be ok cause i too associated and bleeding with bad but im proof that it can just happen for no rhyme or reason! Have a scan and see what is going on, i know your scared but you can do it ok!!!

special love xx

HoneyBee - Hello! I just remembered i didnt reply to you the other day! Thanks for the congrats on the iui bubby! We are so thrilled and feel very blessed that we it worked 1st time for us!!! only 10 sleeps till our NT scan not that im counting!! :D Love your avatar by the way! So beautiful!!! xx

thanks ladies....my mum convinced me to go....i had a spot more blood......so really there have been a few drops but boy there scary...i rang my ob and i think he is on theatre and he is meeting me here....im completely ****ting myself and my heart is about to pop out my chest...........im in no way positive...........all that keeps repeating is......sorry there no hb...............please god...please god....make my baby ok.........please please.......make it just a small bleed.........

Best of luck melster. Please let us know as soon as you have had scan. I am really hoping there is a beautiful little hb flickering away. xxx

thinking of you Melster!

Angel: Not going to reasure you but whilst i was totally devistated at being told there was no heartbeat with my first lost i have to admit i wasnt suprised. Dont know what it was but i just knew :( I hope you are just feeling fear.... Hugs

Hi Girls,

Sorry no persies today I'm exhausted from cleaning up this heck hole.. lol. I have been reading though so hopefully I won't fall too far behind. :)

Just wanted to wish Melster luck and let you know I'm thinking of you hun. :hug:

yes....we have a hb and a baby....im measuring 6 weeks and 1 day tho.....have to go back next week for another scan....he said i could have some blood just below my placenta....im a bit shaken tho

I LOVE Heartbeats! YAY Melster, focus on the positive huni, its all any of us can do!

Mel that is still a good measurement as O days can vary the dates a bit. They base all their measurements on a perfect 28 day cycle with O being cd14. So being early or late a few days will throw out their dating. It's great to hear you have a heartbeat :)

Still scared but thank you for trying to hope for me.

Yay Melster! Good to hear! xx

Got my hcg levels back - 73 @ 4 weeks. Nurse was a bit concerned that they are too low. hmmmm.

Stoked im sure you cant remember but mine were VERY low for this baby! I was spot on with my dates too seeing i had the early scan for the ectopic. i have had a very H&H pregnancy....

Melster - That's great news! Being a couple of days out isn't a big deal, 2 days in the scheme of things isn't a huge difference at all. Now put your feet up and rest and think snuggly embie thoughts :)

Stoked - Are you having repeat bloods done? Don't give up hope yet, as Tegam said it doesn't mean things won't end well.

thanks ladies....u r amazing beautiful people.......thanks so much for the support...

stoked....what should ur levels be at....? what do u have to do now? will they check ur blood again? how u feeling about it

angelic....do u find out monday whats going on?

Sorry ill catch up soon on everyone....i have just been a bit freaked out...

Melster fabulous news about seeing a gorgeous little HB.

Stoked your HCG levels sound fine to me! Congratulations!

Melster - so glad you got the scan and you have a heartbeat - wonderful news! What a scary experience. :crossfingers: that all is fine from now on.

Stoked - I hope your levels start rising nicely from now on, and congratulations!

Angelic - big :hug: hun. I am hoping that all is OK :crossfingers:

Sorry everyone, DS is losing it this morning. Will try to catch up properly later.

HB
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Hello everyone...

Just a quick one from me. I was spotting last night which was pretty scary. It seems to have stopped so far this morning and now I've just got the achy AF feeling that I've had with all of my pregnancies, which I think is pretty normal. Hoping the spotting was just normal breakthrough bleeding as it was when AF would have been due. Will be having another hcg test on Tuesday to make sure it's rising nicely. Until then I guess it's just the waiting game!

On my phone so can't see other replies for persies but I hope you're all having a nice weekend so far.
Melster, hope your spotting has stopped xxx

PS thankyou all for your lovely words of support.. It means alot xxx

Forshelby - I know it's old news, but I am so so sorry that you were treated with such insensitivity at the hospital. Hope you are feeling a bit better now. You are having a rough trot at teh mo. If you are up to it... make a complaint.... it won't make it better for you but it might for the next woman. I can't help with public hossy booking systems... just ring and ask is the best bet.

Melster - glad that things were ok but so understand how scary the spotting is. It's no real comfort to you, but I had spotting with Hannah's pregnancy - twice - and look here she is!

Angelic - you know, I had convinced myself with the first bleed in Hannah's pregnancy that the pregnancy was gone and hope was lost. But I went in for a scan ( it was either 5 weeks 5 days or 6 weeks 6 days) and almost fell off the examining table when the Obs said there was a heartbeat ( me being too scared to even look at first). So for me, the feeling of "just knowing" turned out to be wrong. I hope it's that way for you.

Kell - hope you get to chill and relax before the big scan.

Tegam - hugs sweetie.....

Reet - I wanted to say something in response to what you'd written but have forgotten.

Ferrals - awwww how cute about the clothes! and I LOVE your attitude.... that's the spirit. That's how I got through, although when I was miserable, I then felt guilty because I wasn't being positive. Crazy times.

Audax - too funny about being a lazy beached whale. It's allowed at 39 weeks UTD! I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited for you. Not long now and we'll be reading your BA and seeing pics of your bubba but best of all you'll be enjoying newborn cuddles instead of belly rubs/kicks. I am so happy for you sweetie.

AFM - have a huge guilt trip going right now. Just went to check on HB and the SUN was shining on her face. I closed the blind but BUGGER had meant to do it earlier today and forgot. Feel like I am the worst person in the world. Sleep is so hard to come by that I don't want to check to see if she's burnt. It didn't look it from a little way away. Thank god it's later in the arvo..... oh well not much I can do now except beat myself up about it and try to remember not to do it again.

Oh dear how do i say this lightly Dory....if thats the worst thing you do to HB then she is one lucky girl.

DH pinched DD1 leg fat in the car seat and she screamed, he thought she was bunging it on so didnt stop what he was doing, lets just say one guilty man when he realised..

Or the time i shut the car door "pity DD2 fingers where in the way"...


Shall i go on?? Cause sadly i can and i dont think im a bad person!

T - I know... I just do guilt so well in the immediate aftermath ( so self indulogent huh?)... then I get a grip and get over myself. I shut my nephews fingers in the car door when he was 3 when we were out at the shops. Raced into to the store and bought some frozen peas... poor bugger... no blood. Your poor DH, guess he never did that again. My friend reckons mother guilt starts pre conception, and I would agree.

Yes mother guilt is a killer! I guess its right we care :p