Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

copied from my belly buddies post this morning! Just to prove i have my sooks too!


Well have been having a lot of ups and downs, i know its normal but not really the personality i am. Even when in the middle of a meltdown im saying to myself sux it up princess.

I think the reality of it coming soon has started to shock me. I always knew in the back of my mind that i hadnt really bonded with this poor little one. I have talked a lot to my DH about it and he agrees, he just thinks life has been too busy and with three other kids its just not practical to sit and day dream all day about it or even really set everything up. I also think a lot of it has to do with the ectopic and how quickly we fell again, the move and just being so bloody busy.

I also think its been out of my mind because as soon as i knew the EDD i thought - right get the kids to end of term 4 then worry about the baby! Well its end of term in 2days !

I also think its cause i am just so small in the belly i am finding it all very odd!

Im not worried about the birth or even how it will fit in i am totally at ease with the thought that ill bond straight away but its just a shock its so soon!

I am stressed about the next bloody scan too but dont want to wish the time away cause thats another day closer to having it!

Oh am i making any sense?

Like ill freak out about getting food shopping done - i mean totally - and then i just say, so going shopping after the baby comes. I have always been up and about the next day so its not like i have to worry about not being able to do things....

Ahhhh happy, sad, angry here we go around the merry-go-round!

Sorry about the me post

I have been under my shell to much latly i have a scan in a couple of hours and i am freaking out that somethng will not be right but i could not read what dory wrote and not have something to sayi hope it comes out right.....

dory~ I dont know if the person who made that comment on your birth ancoument has ever lost a child but i understood 100% what it ment. A little story that i hate to talk about i was six months pregnate 4 years ago finally i thought that i could have my dream i was with an abusive husband he did not want the child and i did he lost his temper one night to make a long story short i lost my baby at six months i never talk about never told my dr's i feel like i have forgotten her and feel like a horrible person.But with your support and listening to you you have healed so many wounds for my i can never say thankyou enough i hope this makes sence your a great person.

i will be back after the scan to finsih my post

Angelfish :hug: wow.. You have been dealing with this yourself for so long. You will never forget your baby. Maybe you just felt it wasn't appropriate to share the circumstances, so it was easier not to talk about it. You can now, if you wish.. share away, we are here to support you xx Wishing you all the best for your scan. I have everything crossed for you xx

Dory, You are amazing. And you are always so amazing with words too. The words you wrote were PERFECT.. Don't you doubt that for a second xx

Tegam :hug: I get what you are saying. Everything will fall into place and soon you'll wonder what all the stressing was about! Something about pregnancy makes everything else seem urgent... Like it's going to be the end of the world once you have the bub.. I remember stressing out bigtime about having everything ready, the nursery, all the little clothes... Archie is almost one and has never slept in that nursery that just HAD to be finished or else the world would come crashing down! haha! He had so many clothes that i shouldn't have bothered buying any as he was given so many gifts. Hopefully i'll be a little more relaxed about things this time.
I, too, love the school holidays! No rushing to be anywhere, no getting lunches ready, no morning madness! I never understood it when people would be longing for holidays to end so they could send their kids back to school.

Forshelby, wow.. poor you for having to deal with your mum!
With regards to your scan, you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. Don't feel pressured into anything. When i was pregnant with DD i just did what i was told because i thought there was no other option, with DS i did what I felt was right. Some people reject ALL medical care and intervention, not saying that i would or you should but, hey, they are our bodies and our babies! Good luck though hun.. I wish you all the best and hope you get to have lunch in the city! :)

Reet, My midwife mentioned something about overusing dopplers, i can't for the life of me remember what she said though! She carries around an old style doppler (the plastic tube thingy that she puts her ear against ITMS!!) because alot of women refuse the doppler. She did mention that it works in a similar way to ultrasound. HTH!
Yay for feeling movements!! And YAY for the belly popping! It's great when you actually start to LOOK pregnant too!
Hopefully i'll have my next BHCG results by tomorrow. EEK!

T-Hopes, Yay on reaching 12 weeks! I wish i was there already! That will be a huge milestone for me i think, as it is for you! x

Audax, Yay on being the most pregnant on BB! Very exciting times ahead!

Hello everyone else!

AFM, Had an appointment with my GP, just had th BHCG test though, will be getting all my monitoring done through an OB/GYN who i see on Friday. Will feel better once i see him i think, never met him though so i hope he is nice!

Goodnight ladies!
x

thank you stoked

Had my 30 us and baby is doing great everything is right on target. Except her wieght she is (3lbs) one pound over what she should be. I got told that it could be from the
diebeties that she is getting the extra suger.But my sugers have been great idk i just care that she is heathy they took allot of the 3d pics for me. I am so tired thou

Ok you girls always go balistic in here when i am at work.

I have had 4 hours sleep so i will be quick before i go back to bed.

Oh! forget it it took me 30 minutes just to read everyones posts

I will come back tonight.

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thank you stoked

Had my 30 us and baby is doing great everything is right on target. Except her wieght she is (3lbs) one pound over what she should be. I got told that it could be from the
diebeties that she is getting the extra suger.But my sugers have been great idk i just care that she is heathy they took allot of the 3d pics for me. I am so tired thou

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i was told that baby should be 4.4pounds at 32weeks, sounds like your baby is right on angel.

Stoked: Thanks for taking the time to reply, its nice to know people understand!

have a nice day ferrals!

Oh! i forgot to add that issue with DH and the work incident with the guy who spat in his face has gone bad the assult charge he got because DH clocked him one because the di#khead spat in his face has ment his security licence was revoked yesterday and he cant work until he goes to court and clears his name which wont be until next year the courts closes over xmas and jan and he cant get another job with a criminal record pending so there goes $1000 a week wage and centrelink will give me an extra $30 a week as he is unemployed whoopee!!! how does that work he cant get newstart because of my income so what the hell do i do now with a baby coming.
Just before xmas fantastic.

Oh ferrals, i cant believe that you have another huge stress to face now! Can your DH sue the man after he is found not guilty for his loss of wages for these weeks? Infact maybe if you started that claim now the guy would think about dropping the charge??

Oh what cr-p ferrals. Thats a good idea of Tegams although can you do that? Of to work. I have a monster head ache day 5now so will check my BP. No protein in my pee so thats good. Too early to be having trouble with that sort of thing but apparently with the funny placenta thing I have going on I'm at risk of PET. Only 6days to wait until I see my Ob and get the official results of my scan.

Happy 12weeks T-Hopes woohoo.

Tegam-it is not possible we cant afford a lawyer and his company is suppose to be paying for the lawyer to fight this case but so far they havent paid a thing and the lawyer has contacted us saying no money has been paid as yet and everytime DH rings his bosses they just pass the buck to the other boss or dont answer their phone and we have an evidence hearing on the 8th next week with no lawyer so i am freaking and the witnesses have still not provided their statements so basicly poor DH will turn up to court with no lawyer no witness statements and he wont be allowed access to the evidence without a lawyer so he is screwed if his company doesnt pull their finger out.

Mildez-I wish we could do what tegam said but at the end of the day DH did clock him one but he needs to prove he was assulted with the spitting in the face and that this little bastard abused and threatened all the guards he has witnesses but they are to frigen lazy to type out a statement.

T-Hopes-well done on the 12 weeks

AFM-I am 23 weeks today and have a migraine from worry.

Reet....thats fantastic you can feel the baby...its so exciting and im only seven weeks and i have popped out LOL..im already finding it hard to hide....wonder why some people pop out and others dont. Its my stomach too and not just fat...

Forshelby..thanks

Tegam..its totally understandable you feel that way when you have alot going on and kids to look after. Its defiantly not like the first one....I hope everything goes well with you're scan so you can feel some peace...maybe try and do something nice and relaxing for yourself

Angelfish..im glad everything is ok..i was always measuring larger, they kept telling me id have a 10 pounder..but she was only 7.11

Stoked...good luck for friday..i hope everything goes well and you're little one is ok!!

Ferrals.....WOW...my heart goes out too you. If it were me and you're partner is being ignored i would get him to actually go into the work place and demand to see someone so that cant fob him of on the phone and dont take no for an answer. Does he have any leave pay or sick pay he can take? Does he have a health and safety officer or someone that handles staff issues??? Maybe he should just go to the top manager.

He needs to tell the lawyer that he has to chase it up with the company not him, did the company organise the lawyer? then he should know that the company has to pay for it. As far as i knew lawyers got paid at the end, what monies is he requesting already? If worst case you could call up and get a govt lawyer....for the life of me i cant remember what there called..ill email back when i remember. Also alot of lawyers have a no win, no pay policy......thats why i am shocked the lawyer is asking for money already...we went through a similar situation with hubby but a bit different ....except we were fighting for 4 years and been through hell and back so if you need to chat let me know.
Can he get a temp job else were doing something else to get you through...or do you have someone that could lend you money just to help you through?

ATM.....well i have crazy ms...boy do i feel ill...so much worse than with DD.....so if i have morning sickness like this would it likely the baby would be alive and ok...or is there still a chance its not....if the baby wasnt ok i would loose some of the hormones wouldnt i? does it happen quiet quickly? still getting a little discharge but its only a small amount and brownish.....i feel like my tummy is smaller which is stressing me out a bit...im defiantly hungry though.....cant wait for my yummy hot chicken roll......mmmmmmmmm

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ATM.....well i have crazy ms...boy do i feel ill...so much worse than with DD.....so if i have morning sickness like this would it likely the baby would be alive and ok...or is there still a chance its not....if the baby wasnt ok i would loose some of the hormones wouldnt i? does it happen quiet quickly? still getting a little discharge but its only a small amount and brownish.....i feel like my tummy is smaller which is stressing me out a bit...im defiantly hungry though.....cant wait for my yummy hot chicken roll......mmmmmmmmm

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You tummy has probably gone down because the bloating bit is ending, hence your hunger start up! Try to relax a little hun, i know its easy for me to say....sorry!

Holey Moley you lot are hard to keep up with!

Reet - most defs on the raspberry leaf tea! I am SO over the stuff! I have run out and was meant to get some on the way home from the hospy today, but it was raining, and I was a bit meh, so will see if DH can do it on his way home from work.

dory - I have copped that about soy milk too! Actually more so about being vegan - my mum and a couple of other nasty friends have blamed the molar pregnancy on my vegan diet. It IS linked to a low protein diet, but the kind of low protein diet where you're subsisting on rice, developing nation style. But nobody wants to hear that, they want to blame. Of course nobody has questioned DH's immune-suppressant medication - it had to be MY fault somehow. Oddly, his family have never suggested that, only mine.

Tegam - I understand you putting your vent in your buddies thread. I had a really awesome buddies thread like that. I say had because once mummyof4's little guy is out (today, so he's probably already here) I am the only one left! And I don't know if this is valid, I don't want to bring anyone down, but sometimes I do like to bring a different perspective to people who maybe don't see things like us. Like for me, people loved to tell me how great it was that my hCG levels were high - but after a molar, that's actually not very reassuring at all.

forshelby - thanks for the lols! You probably didn't mean to be funny, but being a hit with the kiddies - :lol:! Your scan will be fun - it's a chance to have a sneaky peek at that little cutie you're brewing, and they really are lovely up at the hospy. You'll hardly have to deal with Brisbane - the Mater is so close to the freeway exit, and I think the parking's not too bad, but it is exxy.

angel - this baby was 5 pounds 5 (whatever that is - I do metric!) at 33 weeks, if that helps.

stoked - good luck with your betas! Fingers crossed for you!

OK, my morning! Went up to the hospy, everyone kept saying I was "overdue" which kind of annoyed me, but most stuff annoys me at the moment! :) Anyway, my regular midwife wasn't there, so that kind of threw me, but the one I saw was very lovely and happy to go with what I want. I guess it was kind of hard for her, not really knowing me, and trying to gauge what I would want. So I am going in on Monday for another checkup, then Wednesday night I have an induction booked, if baby doesn't make an entrance by then. And she did a S & S today, see what that does.

How awesome is this rain? (since there's so many Qldrs!)

ferrals - hope your headache settles down. I have heeeeeaps of hot chocolate here, would love to share!

rains lovely!

Did she get much gunk on her hand doing the S&S? did it hurt? When i had one with DS i looked at her hand and asked if that was normal? She said yes and it didnt hurt at all. I had a baby the next day?

Sad about your belly buddies but someone has to be last i guess.

Yes its dumb comments like the congrats on high HCG that gets me. Mine was everyone was over the moon to hear i had an induction date at 36weeks. Nothing about small baby or low fluid or the fact i wanted a homebirth!!! :(

Ah we have each other!

Melster-its criminal law so there is not a no win no pay situation here i wish there was and we have to pay for the 1st consult and disbursments for him just to show his face and ask the other side for all their evidence.
My DH works for a sercurity company that only hires permanant casuals at a high rate of pay so no sick pay or holidays they only cover compo ect.
And he has been dealing with the owners of the company there is 3 of them and they are friends of DH he has known them for years and they still dont seem to care.
We rang legal aid and because it's so close to xmas they said put in an application but we wont here from them before xmas so they were no help.
And DH is trying to get another job doing something different but so far it the same story SORRY WE ARE NOT HIREING OVER XMAS or the employment agencies have said most companies lay people off over xmas or close down for a few weeks so try again after xmas.
Believe me we have rang every one and got the same answer but we will try again tomorrow.

Audax-I felt that way getting pregnant like i was the last one i hope it's not to much longer for you and the S&S works tonight.

Ferrals- Man O man. That sux!!! Big time!!! God i wish ur dhs employers wld pull their fingers out!! Every year my dh has 6-8 weeks off over xmas which is really hard but atleast we have the year to prepare for it. Its so frustrating for u guys that this has happened now at this time of the year... worst timing ever. Especially trying to look for another job. U know what really really irritates me though.. is that centrelink wont help ppl like u guys a bit more but they are happy to chuck money away to all the alcoholics out there that really dont deserve it! God u guys wld have paid way more then ur fair share in taxes over the last 20 yrs! I feel for ya.. i really hope things sort themselves out soon for u.

Forshelby- Yeah i think u shld make a lovely day out of this next scan... especially since its at the private hospital!! :) U didnt get a real good 20 wk scan so hopefully this ends up being a good one and u get a great look at ur bubba and some nice little pics! :)

Stoked- Thanks for that info on dopplers, i have heard its kinda the same thing as u/s but not as bad. I might just stick to twice a week. Hopefully i wont need it soon tho and i can just feel baby move whenever i want it too! :) Have u got ur results yet???

Angelfish- So happy u had a good scan! Dont worry about babys weight.. my SIL was only just telling me the other day that when she started going into labour with her son a few weeks early they told her he was 5 pounds and too little so they stopped her labour. When she had him 2 weeks later he was a 10 pound baby! I dont think its possible for the baby to put on that much weight in only a couple weeks!! Im sure they can mess up measurements sometimes. Sorry to hear of ur past experience too :( we are all here for u xx

Audax- Hope u got ur raspberry tea! Altho it doesnt sound like its working! How long ago did u start drinking it??

Melster- Yep m/s is definitely a great sign!!!

Tegam- Hope ur feeling a bit better today then yesterday!

AFM- I cld just lay here all day and all night waiting for my tummy to move! Its so exciting!! It was so funny..last nite before going to bed i used the doppler and straight away the baby started pushing it away! i cld actually see it move!! Dh is away at the moment so he hasnt been able to feel any of the movements yet, but by the time he gets home in 10 days they shld be stronger and more frequent so he shldnt have any problem in feeling them!
One weird this is Im finding my tummy is having 'tightenings' or BH's all day... atleast every half an hour it happens. My uterus just fully cramps up and really pops out.. if im laying down the bulge becomes like a mountain and then slowly goes back down again after a few mins! Does this last all pregnancy???

Tegam - I hope you stick around after bubby arrives too :) Your vent was totally understandable and not sooky at all.

Angelfish - All I can say is HUGE :hug: for you. Don't feel guilty for wanting to put that aside, what an awful time that must have been for you. That's our Dory though, always bringing us clarity :) Great news that bubby is doing well, and I'm so jealous you got 3d pics :)

Stoked - IKWYM, I think they're just bombarding me with stuff to cover themselves. I'm just going with it for now but after this next scan I think I've had enough random testing. Everything is fine, people... stop prodding me! lol. And yes, mum is an interesting character.. :rolleyes: Good luck with your first OB appointment, yay for that!

Ferrals - You poor thing, if it's not one thing it's another giving you stress! I hope it all turns out ok, your poor DH... ugh. Don't even get me started on centrelink....... I don't know who makes up their crazy rules but yeah, ridiculous. I have my FX that some kind of miracle sorts this all out for you.

Melster - Subsequent pgs seem to make you pop out sooner than normal. I couldn't do up my pants from about week 9, but I think a lot of it was all the dagwood dogs I was eating. Mmmm... Also, ms is a good sign. When I mc'd my symptoms faded very quickly, within a week of seeing the first blood. By the end of the week I lost the baby. I really think all is going to be ok for you hun, hang in there!

Audax - Thanks for the encouragement, I hope it's a fun scan! And being a private hospital I'm hoping for a lot better service there. I'm ok with paying for parking, I just want to get a park and not have to walk blocks in the rain like at my hospital here. Sounds like you'll be having that baby in no time, how exciting... excuse me while I squeal like a little kid! About the rain, no, it's sucky and I wish it would go away lol. I've had enough!

Reet - Hooray for movements.... :dance: how great is it?! I get that tightening feeling fairly often but I can't see a difference in my tummy during. I'm pretty sure this stuff lasts the whole way through. I'm going to make the best of the scan and try to enjoy my day with DP. :) Now, get back to enjoying those kicks!!

AFM - The dog just peed on the floor, so DP lectures him and yells at him...... ughhhh. Ok we don't want him peeing inside, but it was on the tiles and not a big deal. Since I didn't catch him doing it I can't punish him as he won't know what it's for. But still DP insists on punishing him by not letting him inside at all tomorrow, and yelling at him, just being very aggressive with a small dog. :( It's not how I'd like to deal with it.

Thanks for your words of encouragement ladies you are great and i know that i have had a really rough time with stress over the last 2 years and we could really use a break and life can suck big time but we have our healthy girl growing inside me so that keeps the smile on my face and i have won my lotto of a life time so if it means we have to struggle for a while so be it my kids will never go without we will but i can live with that.

Forshelby-men they have no clue the dog has no idea what it done after the fact they need to be caught and punished when they are doing it.

Reet-the movements are awesome arent they last night DH put his hand on my belly and little miss went ballistic he laughed and said we have a soccer star in there he couldnt believe how strong her kicks are for 23 weeks.

Angelfish-i was told at 34 weeks with my 1st son he was 8 pounds already but 6 weeks later he was born 6 pounds so they only estimate.

AFM-this is DH last pay day for a while so i am going to make it count and do a big buget shop and finish the kids xmas stockings i am glad i did all the xmas shopping weeks ago.

forshelby - that is WEIRD that it is at mater private - that's just a regular old scan place, my GP offered me a referral for there but I went to the specialist place down the road. I would have thought if it were the kind of thing they were sending you all the way up her for then, it would be at MFM in the Mothers?

Reet - have been on the RLT since 30 weeks. It doesn't bring on labour, just makes second stage shorter and more efficient. Fingers crossed that it happens soon.

I am having such a dark downer of a day today. I don't know why. I think the potential of induction is hitting me and I am wondering if I'm making the right choice. I have a secret stash of chocolate in my wardrobe, so will hit that up. Mum's also arriving today, so maybe that will lift my spirits.

Ferrals - Tell me about it.. I've tried explaining that to him but he gets so 'emotional' about it...... so not the way to train a dog. The dog just cowers and looks scared, then he wonders why he isn't as cuddly the next day. Good luck with the bulk shopping, I've got my FX this is all sorted out in no time for you.

Audax - Maybe I've gotten myself confused? (easy to do these days) They just said to me it's at the 'mater hospital' but I looked up the website and there are a lot of different areas iykwim. I do have a phone number to call so I might call them later and double check exactly where I'm going! I would hope that they wouldn't send me to Brisbane if I could see a specialist here on the gc. Perhaps though because I was at the hospital, they felt the need to send me to ANOTHER hospital and not just a clinic? I don't know, I'm over trying to figure out their reasoning behind things! Enjoy your chocolate, and your visit with your mum today. DP found my chocolate stash last night so I had to share, lol.

AFM - I put up the xmas tree last night since it's too hot to do during the day, it looks great! It sure was difficult with this belly in the way, but I got it done. On a sad note, it was 24 years ago today that my dad died in a car accident. Yes, and my DP is a driver for a living, how ironic is that. Mum called me yesterday a few times and I felt guilty ignoring her what with today being such a sad day for our family, so I caved and just went along with her 'nothing happened everything is normal' routine. *sigh*

Forshelby- Its really weird, i asked if any of the girls in my bb group have been getting the tightenings and no-1 has! One girl said she did with her last pregnancy but they came alot later. But then all u girls in herw know what im talking about.. bizarre! It happened really badly last nite.. i was going to sleep and felt it all tighten and i looked down and it looked like i had like a rockmelon underneathe my skin! All around it was normal, like i cld see my hip bones etc.. just this weird lump was protruding! I wish i had my camera to try and take a photo! altho i had no clothes on so it wldnt have been the most attractive photo to show ppl! ;) Im looking forward to seeing my ob. on monday and asking him about them and why only some ppl get it!
Awww and ur poor puppy :( i hate when ryan tries to discipline our dogs.. one of our girls chewed up something of his the other day and hrs later he got the item and grabbed nala and shoved it in her face and was just yelling at her.. bloody men and there little temper tantrums! I hate seeing any dog get smacked even if they do deserve it. I think they make up for the couple little bad things they do with the love they give! Im a big softie with animals :) Make sure u discipline ur dp if he misses the toilet and gets some wee on the floor.. :) hahaha
So for now things are ok with ur mum?? Maybe just avoid everything that might get u angry, dont even mention to her coming for the birth or anything anymore. Sorry to hear of ur dads anniversary :(

Audax-Oh i cant wait til its all happening for u. Who are we going to find out from when u do have ur bubba? Make sure they come into this thread and tell us!! :)

Ferrals- Hope ur budget shopping went good and u got some bargains!!

Mildez- Hows ur headache going? Hopefully its gone!

AFM- Well ive had an awful headache all day today :( 2 days ago it started off in my eyeballs.. iykwim? Like to move my eyes it would hurt and if i pressed on my eyes it would hurt, now today its a full throttle headache, its awful. I thought i was over this hormonal crap!
4 days til i see ob again! and 15 days til my scan.. come on time!!! :)

Reet-i seem to get them when i over do it when i was shopping the other day it stopped me in my tracks my belly was so tight i just couldnt walk properly and my uterus shrinks down and goes rock hard.

Audax-I am so hoping bub arrived for you last night.

AFM-7 days until my specialist appt.

I'm still here. Keike is announcing this little bundle, it will be in the BA thread, but you'll all know about it!

Reet - Maybe the other girls just aren't noticing the BH?? I find after I pee (tmi I know) I get a tightening sensation in my tummy but I've gotten so used to it now. I also had it happen yesterday while mopping the tiles. That was my signal I was finished. I've tried to explain to DP a million times that the dog doesn't learn from being punished harshly AFTER he's done something. He was getting all angry yesterday about the way the cat pees on clothes left on the floor, and said he didn't want the baby or baby's things peed on too. Well um, I'm not going to be leaving the baby unattended on the floor, or his/her things! (the cat likes to pee on clothes/towels because that's how she marks). I NEVER catch her doing it so I have to just clean it up and not leave stuff on the floor. I've told him this. I told him if there's nothing on the frigging floor, she won't pee there! But still he throws his clothes on the floor then complains when she does it. :rolleyes: About mum, yeah I don't know... I'm just laying low and ignoring things from now on. I most definitely don't want her here after the birth, she's too crazy and has proven that by the way she's behaved the last few months. I've just got to accept that she isn't going to be the supportive person I need her to be and that's that. Ok I'm done rambling now, lol... about your headaches, take some panadol if it won't go away. I found I started to get headaches early in the 2nd Tri, and they just wouldn't lift until I took something. Hell, if you're feeling adventurous take it with a teeny bit of coffee, LOL. And don't forget to lie down and put something cold on your forhead. Might I reccomend some chewed undies chilled to perfection?! :rofl: (read on for explaination...) Can't wait till you have your scan... wheeeee!!!!!

Ferrals - Good luck for your appointment, hun :)

Audax - A.K.A, The pregnantest - :) So excited for you hun, I bet it's nerve wracking waiting for imminent labour!

AFM - Speaking of animals misbehaving, I just went into the bedroom to discover the dog has stolen a pair of my undies which I stupidly left on the floor in the bathroom before having a shower (I know, MY FAULT) and chewed a massive hole in the crutch. :rofl: I am pmsl right now...... bloody gross dog chewing on my all-day undies, RIGHT IN THE CRUTCH! I don't know when he finds time to get up to this mischief but man that's a funny one. I wonder what the obsession is with undies lately, this is the third time he's done that. I won't be telling DP or like your DH he will just shove them in his face (lol.... what an image) and yell at him which accomplishes nothing!

Hello everyone, have read but very tired, have copies to below from my bellybuddies group to keep you all up to date!

AFM:

Well can you be bothered hearing about my day yesterday??

Had a major run of BH on wednesday night that were very ouchy, then on thursday morning i was very dry reachy and threw up a few times (Now nothing special i know) BUT for me these are the ONLY warnings i get that baby is coming soonish. And seeing i was only 34+6 DH and i didnt want to just wait it out and see like we would do at 37weeks....SO off to the hospital i go! Monitored for an age. Showing lovely nice contractions, they OB and MW couldnt believe i wasnt in pain...I knew i was having them but nope not sore. So they do and internal YAY looovvveee getting my vjj out for everyone! SO it shows my cervix in very thin BUT closed (suffer for all those people that have told me this whole pregnancy that id be 2-3cm already and loss as a goose!) I refer back to our car converstation and confirm that i have the SUPER SPORTS MODEL of cervix!!!! So then they were all freaking out saying baby is coming....hmmm i didnt agree as i didnt have any of that "leave me the hell alone' feeling i get. SO they ordered steriods for baby - im glad im a nurse and could say no - as steriods dont work after 30-32weeks! and they ordered for me to stay in on bed rest! far out i have three kids at home! SO i agreed to an moving my US from next monday to yesterday. The scan showed baby fulling engaged (well hello i could have told you that from the pain) and that the cervix is vvvveeeerrrryyyyy short! Well didnt we know that from the internal - but gee thanks for one last date with the dildo cam to confirm NOTHING!

Anyway scan also showed baby back up to the 41% in growth, fluid down to 9... So nothing great but nothing to freak out about, well in my humble opinion!

So back to them wanting me to stay. My thinking was this is pre labour, this is why i labour so fast at the end is cause i have a nice week or so of pre labour. Not nice and yes i know baby could come but no i am not able to stay in hospital for the next week waiting to see when it happens.

So i came home (naughty naughty) came home, had panadol and a nice quiet 1.5hr conversation/relaxation message to my body that this is infact to early to welcome bubs and time to freaking slow up on the whole pre labour ideas. And guess what it worked! The OB said it couldnt be done but ha, i know my body and i believe in my own mental strength! I am not having a 35weeker! The chances of me going another two weeks are not great but not at 35weeks thank you!

But there are some good points. I know know that my cervix is closed so if they do an internal in a week and it shows im 4cm ill know that things are starting to happen and ill be happier with an induction! Their big concern is that i might never dilate slowly, with my history i might go from nothing to 10cm in minute, but thats a risk i am willing to take. Having the short cervix is not comfy and i was wondering if crumpet would lend me her stitch after thursday???

Also another good point is that DH is away now til monday 35+3 and then on leave for......wait for it......7weeks! Amazing, he went and talked to them this morning before he flew off to perth and they just said, dont worry here take more AL! Woohoo so the stress is off us now. DH will be home for the birth (well provided i rest as much as possible until monday night!) Hence i have time to write this essay cause im making the inlaws be grandparents for once in almost 7years, Its hard to rest but ill try to be good!

WOW did you get thru all that??

Tegam-getting so close now how exciting i also have had pre labour signs with my last son i had it from 35 weeks almost every night than spot on 37 weeks my waters broke and he was born 2 hours later maybe that is why the want me to have a ceasar at 37 weeks with this bub because of the placenta previa they dont want to risk going into labour:think:

hmmm ya think ferrals. I think 37weeks will be a fine time to meet miss pink! what dateish is that?? that also makes it less than 100days for you!

Tegam-that would be around the 9th of march thats just over 13 weeks away unless by some miracle this placenta has moved.

Tegam - you are NOT having your baby before I do! I will really crack it if that happens! :lol:

Mum's here now, it's pretty good. She sent me off to bed for a sleep this afternoon, and she's keeping me busy. We bought two pineapples at the market today, she was so funny, she started bargaining all the prices down, and the guy couldn't say no, he was very friendly about it. He kept saying "I'll do you a deal as long as you don't have it here!" He reckoned I look just like his wife did before she had their 10-pounder son, who we met, he carried all our fruit up to the car for us.

I'm not over being pregnant; I love it and could do it forever. I'm pretty sick of all the "Have you had it yet?" calls though. I answer the phone with "NO, haven't had it yet." Won't be long now though :D

hey everyone

tegam.......wow.......hope ur feeliong ok about it all

ferals.....how u going now

audax.....have u had it yet.....lol just kidden......not long and ur baby will be in ur arms...cant wait for ur birth story

hello forshelby...reet....everyone else

atm...had my scan today....bubs is measuring at seven weeks....9mm...and we had a hb....yayyyyyy....now i have a scan at ten weeks....poor girl before me wasnt so lucky....poor lady was crying and they booked her in for a d@c......my heart crushed for her and made me extra scared at my scan and freaked out when he took so long....i thought for sure he couldnt see anything....he scanned on top so i think thats why it took a bit longer then he forgot to tape it....but as long as the baby was ok thats all that matters........now i just have to wait for week ten...........im not sure how i feel.....i feel a tony bit relieved...i dont think the worrying will ever stop now....but as long as im more relaxed than what i have been......i have been pretty sick with ms which like u guys he said its a good sign.......my close friend just announced she is due the same day as me.....how freaky the exact same day

Oh MEL thats a great scan, so sorry you had to see the girl before you so upset, really not what you needed!

Audax: :rofl: sorry i promise you can go first!

Hi all

Wow - Tegam - you've been busy!! What a drama. I'm glad that your relaxation/chat with bubs worked and it doesn't look like things are progressing too fast right now. I hope you do get some warning when it's about to happen, and I hope bubs stays nice and safe in there for a couple more weeks yet.

Melster - soooo glad to hear you had a good scan. Seeing that heartbeat is the best thing in the world. Sending you loads of :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl: and looking forward to hearing great results when you get to your 10 week scan!!

Audax - lovely to hear that you are being looked after by your mum. It's great that you're still loving being pregnant, I was pretty fed up by the end with DS. It's such a special time though.

AFM - Had my anatomy scan yesterday, it went really well. Told the sonographer how anxious I was, so every measurement she took she let me know that everything looks normal. Bit disappointed though, we wanted the sex to be a surprise, but both DH and I reckon we caught flashes of boy genitals so 99% convinced it's a boy. I really wanted that total surprise at the birth, but now the only thing that would surprise me is if a girl pops out:) Plancenta is nicely out of the way of the cervix, which is fantastic. Ob had said it was looking a bit low previously. So relieved not to be staring down the gun of a c-section at this stage.

Hope everyone is doing well and having a nice weekend.

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Audax - Have you had it yet? LOL sorry couldn't resist, even though Melster beat me to it. So good to hear you're enjoying your pg right to the very end. :) Good luck for the birth! Should we start betting on dates/times??? :D

Melster - :dance: YAY! So glad you got good news. Can I uncross my fingers now? :) Sad to hear about the lady before you....... I hope she's ok.

Honeybee - Yay for a great scan. Seems like your bubby couldn't resist flashing those bits at you eh? lol. I'm glad your placenta behaved itself and moved too. Now, can you tell mine to do the same?!

AFM - Busy day shopping, got some great presents for my niece, and had fun with my sister. Apparently she's TTC as of February which is exciting as our kids will be able to play together. Yay! Also she's cutting her hours at work next year to spend more Aunty time, and bought me an AWESOME playmat for bubs. Only condition is that it comes back to her when it's her turn. LOL. I hope everyone is well and having a lovely weekend!

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Well you are starting to sound a little more over it.... hope its soonish!

Forshelby: Glad you had a nice sister day!

Honeybee, :happyforyou: So glad your scan went well. You still really dont know the sex and a little girl looks a lot like a little boy at this stage! I wouldnt be so sure you knew! I still find it hard to figure all the bits out and i have had a lot of scans in my time.


AFM: INLAWS BEGONE please

Audax - :rofl: won't be long now, hun.

Tegam - That sounds like a great name for a repellant type spray. :D "Inlaws getting you down? MIL in your face? Don't despair. One spray of INLAWS BEGONE and your sanity shall be restored!"

Melster- Woohoo for a great scan!!! Thats excellent! It made me so sad hearing about the girl before u :( gosh being a sonographer wld be tough in times like that, but there wld also be a lot of happy ppl so i guess it wld balance it out. Will u be getting the nuchal trans. scan done or just one at 10 weeks then 20 weeks?

Tegam- When are ur lovely inlaws leaving? Hopefully it was today!

Honeybee- Im so happy that ur baby is perfect! I dont reckon u shld take much notice about the bits that u saw.. like tegam said bits can all look the same sometimes! Imagine the huge surprise u are going to get if its a girl!!! :) I hope u are feeling a bit more relaxed now. Are u feeling baby move again?

Forshelby- That cracked me up reading that ur dp is worried the cat is going to pee on ur baby!!! Hahaha funny funny. Oh and ur chewed up knickers.. thats hilarious too!! Dirty little dog!! I have a really gross story but not sure if its pushing it in here!! Hmmmm ill try and say it nicely.. :) After love making sessions we use a little towel to clean up majority of the mess and i normally just chuck it on the floor to take to the washing in the morning, well i USED TO normally just chuck it on the floor.. i cant now cos our dirty little silky terrier has decided she has a taste for mummy and daddy! EWWWWW!! Im grossed out just telling this story! Sorry girls :redface: haha.
Great that u had a lovely shopping day, i went with my sister on friday, it was awful! Ppl everywhere!!! I cant stand ppl!!!! :)

Audax- Still here??? ;)

Ferrals- What is ur specialist appointment for?

Hi to all u other lovely ladies too! :)

AFM- Headache is gone!! Yay!! I woke up this morning feeling great! Well my phlegmy cough is back to being really bad again but i can handle that, i cldnt handle the headache. I have found out its all part of this nasty bug i have.. my BIL was going to go and get tested for dengue fever tomoro until i spoke to my SIL and we realised that him and I both have the same symptoms and so do a couple other ppl they know. I made up a big batch of vege soup tonight, time to get healthy!
Ob. appointment tomoro! Yay!! Cant wait to see baby again!
I still get stupid little negative thoughts in my head tho.. baby cld be moving around all day but then if i lay down at night and dont feel it for half an hour i get scared and have to use the doppler, the baby must hate it cos straight away it kicks at it, i just get so angry and frustrated with myself that i can think so negatively so easily! I even start thinking sometimes what happens if i go to scan and baby actually died weeks ago and the movements ive been feeling are something else.. and the hb i am listening to is mine or something (even tho its up close to 160bpm all the time) Ggrrrrr im stupid!!

Anyway enough ramblings! Hope everyone had a good weekend!!! :) xxx

Reet you are not stupid! 'INLAWS BEGONE' go tomorrow!

Forshelby: :rofl:


AFM:

Inlaws idea of help.

Whilst having first sit down of the day, 5pm

MIL says "dinner is cooked and on the bench, we are going for a walk, dont wait to feed them"

Ok thanks......BIATCH


Hey on another note...look how far along my ticker elephant is, amazing a few months ago id look at someones ticker and think wow 35weeks shes having her baby soon - and guess what - thats ME! How wierd is that!

Still here. Tegam you are totally going to beat me! :lol:

I have had a lot of curry today, and been for a long walk with DH, and eaten pineapple, and done pretty much everything on the "come on baby!" list. It has dropped a bit...

:tmi: have you tried the old :bd:??

I was going to say maybe ill even bet Audax but just couldnt be that mean to another pregnant lady! Your baby will come when its ready!