Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

Reet - It must be hard with DH away, but feel free to come in here and talk about your furbaby all you want to. She was a part of the family and deserves to be remembered. :) Can't wait to hear how your scan goes, how exciting!

Kellie - How nice being able to buy boy stuff, I guess that's a plus in knowing the sex! I look at pink and blue and have to restrain myself from both... lol. My bubby is breech also, I'm pretty sure they can turn just days before birth if they decide to wait that long. Most do turn though, so fx both of our little ones behave themselves and find their way to the exit :)

Angelfish - Ugh she sounds horrible! I hope karma sorts her out quicksmart. Just remember though, as sad as it makes you not being able to have the best of the best things for your little one, what they need most is love, and you'll have plenty of that to throw around. Money is only money, but being a loving family is so much more important. We could've gotten a lot more stuff for this baby but we decided to keep the cash in our pockets for DP to be able to take more leave, and give our baby the gift of two parents at home to bond and welcome him/her. I think we've only spent about $300 so far and we have almost everything we need. By the time we're done I think we will have spent about 5 or $600 total. :)

Audax - Congratulations again! So great to hear you had a wonderful birth experience, and I hope you're enjoying bonding with your beautiful little girl.

AFM - Well, on the subject of ex's, I would just like to thank my lucky stars that DP and his ex gf (they were together 10 years) never had kids. She hung around in the background for the first 18 months or so of our relationship, and if it wasn't for my kindness towards her, it would have caused a lot of problems for us. For a long time I turned a blind eye and allowed DP to help her out when she was stuck and in really desperate situations, and eventually things worked out. She seems to be doing a lot better for herself now (from what little I hear) and she doesn't interfere in our relationship by calling constantly anymore. About a year ago I did have to put my foot down and tell her to back off, and leave us alone as it wasn't appropriate to call her ex at 9pm to laugh at an amusing ad she saw on TV. (especially when we were in bed... *ahem*) I can't imagine how hard it would be to deal with an ex you CAN'T just remove from your lives... that must be so tough.

Anyway, that's my little ramble about ex gfs, lol. I had a lovely morning today hanging out where I used to work catching up with all my old colleagues. I spent about 2 hours there doing the rounds and letting everyone cop a good feel of my belly. LOL. I've never been rubbed so much in one day! I ended up sitting down at an empty desk (which happened to be my old workstation when I first started there) and remembering the good old days. I never thought I'd miss my old job so much! Mostly it's the social contact I miss, but I know it'd be different if I was still working there. Right now I'm enjoying being the centre of attention when I visit, and it's so cute seeing everyone get all excited to see me and examine my bump. :)

me is HOT and does not like today at all!

Kell- How did u find out ur baby is breech?? From ur last u/s?? Gosh i just assumed the baby kept doing little somersaults until closer to the end when it moved into the right position.. the little kicks or elbows i feel are always all over the place on my tummy.. hhmmm it will be interesting to see on friday how baby is sitting!

Angelfish- Sorry to hear ur going thru so much crap with ur bfs ex. Just make sure u put urself and ur little baby first. I cant believe how close u are to meeting ur little bubba!! :)

T-Hopes- Congratulations on reaching ur 14 wk milestone!!! and thanku for ur kind words.. I was and am still absolutely devastated.. i cant see myself ever moving on and not crying over how much im missing her :( Before i felt like the only one that has ever cried over a dog that has died but ive realised from chatting to u lovely bb girls (i also did a post in the boohoo room) that it is normal for the pain to be overwhelming when something happens to our beloved pets.. it just sux that she was only 10 months old, she was so cute with so much energy and cheekiness.. i cant stand the thought that shes gone.. oh here we go again... :cry:

Melster- Whens ur next drs appointment or u/s??? I hope ur slowly starting to feel more positive and that ur m/s disappears soon!!

Audax- Woohoo congratulations!!! So happy that u had such a great birth and enjoying every minute with ur gorgeous little girl :)

Forshelby- So lovely that u had a good little outing at ur old work :) does the boss ever get angry when ur there cos not much work gets done by everyone else??! :)

Hi to all u other lovely ladies too and thanku everyone for all ur kinds words.. really really appreciate it xx

AFM- Still just moping :( i try my hardest to be strong and can go a few hrs without crying but it ends up catching up with me and im a mess. I feel as tho i shld be starting to move on but im not.. i cant even really bring it up with dh anymore.. i know im starting to frustrate him a bit with all my tears.. he loved her just as much as i did but i guess im just different to him.. hes had dogs die in the past.. he knows how to deal with the grief.. i have no idea... ive never missed anything so much in my life... i just want to wake up and have her back. Theres so many 'if onlys' that are constantly running thru my head.. if only we werent playing with her outside in the first place.. if only she hadnt run to the neighbours house to play with the dog... if only we had waited 30 seconds to call her back... IF ONLY THE MAN WLD HAVE BRAKED... if only she didnt die...
I try my hardest to forget the moment just before she was hit.. she was running back to us full speed with such excitement and then the loud thud.. the poor little thing didnt know what hit her...
I was about a metre off hitting a wallaby on my way home tonight but managed to brake and miss it.. why cldnt he??!!!!!
ANYWAY ANYWAY ANYWAY GOTTA STOP! Howling like a baby again.. im so sorry to bring my sadness in here and bring u all down...

Maybe my hormones are making things 10 times harder... who knows... i just know i cant keep going on like this. Pls send me some strength!!!

On a happier note.. baby has been kicking heaps lately.. maybe its trying to make me happy :) Im really hoping this scan on friday brings a whole lot of positivity with it!

Love to u all and once again sorry for being such a downer!

xxx

thank you everyone for your help
But just when i thought things could not get worse bf got another court summons yesterday haivng to appear three hours away in court now she is trying to say that he has become emotional abusive since he found out i was pregnate which is such BS and she is trying to get supervised vistation. She is going to make the last few well so bad
I cant believe that my lil baby girl will be here in just a few short weeks :)

Reet-you are right at this stage they roll all over the place my little miss will be head down and kick me near the ribs and all around the top ect and the next day i can feel her feet kicking away down low and OMG! it feels like they are going to pop out my Vjay jay.

Angelfish-Grrrrrr!!!!! ex's they just suck i hope it all turns out in your bf favour.

Forshelby-I am soooooooooo jealous you have already left work i am starting to feel the exhaustion creeping in but with DH out of work i have had to pick up an extra shift a week which is an extra $250 a week oh well only 8 weeks left.

AFM-Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tired.

Oh ferrals: you are doing se much for your family! Sorry times are so tough!

Reet: :( you make me so sad you poor thing. I am so sorry :(

Angel: Pooh situation but YAY on bubs not being far away!

:hello: everyone else!

Tegam - I'll second that! I woke up in the middle of the night all sweaty so I had to rip off my nightie and sleep topless, LOL. I think DP wondered what i got up to during the night when he woke up for work. :)

Reet - Nope, the bosses never get cranky when I arrive. Because there's so many people there I just move around and when someones phone rings or they have something to do I move on and come back later. My old boss is especially fond of my visits, I usually sit beside her at her desk and let her inspect the belly lol. It's nice to feel so welcome even though I don't work there anymore. I'm free to just stroll on in and move around the building as I please whereas other visitors aren't. :) Lucky me. About your puppy, nobody is truly gone as long as we remember them. I think that goes for pets too. I think it's definitely harder for you being your first loss of a pet, and the fact that you're pg. Heck I cried watching Friends the other day, lol. Try not to indulge in the 'if onlys'. There's nothing that can be done now to change it. Don't feel guilty either, as it's not your fault. It's just a matter of taking each day as it comes, and grieving as you need to. But don't for one second think you did anything to cause this, because you didn't. :hug: Like I said before, you can talk about your furbaby all you want. If you need to be captain bringdown for a while, I'd be happy to be your loyal sidekick, I just need a decent name. :) :hug:

Angelfish - Ugh it just gets worse and worse! Get yourself some good character witnesses. Can you testify also? I'm pretty sure YOU would know him pretty well. Also, perhaps her definition of emotionally abusive is 'no longer focussed solely on her'. It seems she's jealous that you're pg and she won't be the only woman with babies he's thinking about now. Is it possible for you to speak to her at all? How would she feel if someone was piling all this stress onto her during her last weeks of pregnancy? Maybe you can appeal to her sense of decency, if she has one.

Ferrals - Funny how we always want what we don't have no matter what it is. I'm jealous that you still have your job! LOL. I get so bored and lonely here by myself all day...... but I do enjoy the sleep. Not long now and you can be bored like me, LOL.

AFM - Not really much to report. It's hot here and I'm just dying for the weekend to come so I have DP home with me and I don't have to be so bored all the time. I know, I won't be bored when this bubby arrives, but right now I feel like I've been at home for an ETERNITY~!

Reet - sweetheart, you keep crying as much as you need! I would be exactly the same. I have lost a dog to old age and that was horrific enough for me, let alone seeing your poor darling in pain at such a young age... im sure she has found your angel baby in heaven and they are safe, happy and healthy together. Let those tears fall as long you need, better to deal with your emotions than bury them away :comfort: sending you lots of love and strength xx

Ferrals- Im glad u know how ur little girl is positioned! I have no idea! It cld be a head butting me, a foot kicking, a hand punching or maybe even an elbow! Who knows!! Maybe in a few more weeks ill know a bit better.. or maybe after ive had a few more kids!! :)

Angelfish- That sux :( she will get her karma.. hopefully the courts can see whos the more trustworthy one.

Tegam- How are u going other then being stinking hot?? Any signs ur bubba is on its way?? Im so happy that u have managed to prolong it this long!! It sure was touch and go there for a while!

Forshelby- Oh u must feel so loved going back to ur work :) imagine once u have had ur baby!! All the ppl will be loving the new born cuddles!!
And thanku so much for being so lovely.. but are u sure u want to be my emotional baggage handler?! Gosh i think i will do ur head in with it all.. im doing my own in! I know we cant blame it on ourselves.. everything does happen for a reason.. BUT ITS SO HARD NOT TOO!! We so cld have easily prevented it from happening... ive just gotta realise her time was up. A friend of mine wrote me a lovely facebook msg saying she has gone to get ready to come back as our little baby.. :) so lovely. Ive always called my little nala girl my angel since she was born the day i had my m/c.
Anyway enough offloading for today!! Thanks forshelby xx

T-Hopes- Thanku so much once again and thanku for telling me its ok to still be crying! I feel so silly.. like i shld definitely be moving on by now..
U know what.. i feel so bad saying this.. but i have a 13 yr old silky terrier that is pretty ready to go (sorry tillie!) she is blind, deaf and cant walk up our stairs which means every half an hour im having to go and help her.. if she were to pass away now i wld be really sad but i wld know that we had given her the best life possible (and i dont mean pass away tragically like my girl did.. i definitely cldnt bare that) i just cant understand why my little girl had to go when she had so much more living to do.. even the naughty things she wld do we wld just laugh at cos she was just so cute.. god she got away with walking on our kitchen benchtops when she was trying to get to all the potato peals in the kitchen sink (little weirdo!).. SO NAUGHTY but did we get angry?! Nope! She was super spoilt. Anyway here i go again! Sorry u are all going to be so sick of me...:shakehead: A very big thanku for all ur understanding :) xx

AFM- Feeling a little better today, still teary and that bloody lump just wont leave my throat still but im slowly accepting the fact shes gone and i am so grateful that we have so many happy memories of her. I think half of it has been that i feel like i owe it to her to be sad and spend every day in mourning.. but she was such a lively little thing i know thats not what she wld want.

I am starting to get excited about our scan tomoro!! Come on 3pm. I really hope it is a perfect scan and we get some good pics or my gosh the sonographer will cop it!!

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Reet-have fun at your scan tomorrow.

AFM-Found out today that the fake witness in DH court case who lied in his statement is one of my work collegues who i got him into trouble a few months ago and he got a written warning over so we dont get along so has a grudge against me and DH.
And his statement is completely different to the drunk di#khead who spat in DH face so our solicitor wants us to do some detective work and try to get some proof that they are friends or at least aquaintances so then his bullcrap statement will be thrown out as false and just a vendetta against us so now the snooping begins

Oh Ferrals that sounds positive, still bloody annoying in the end if its thrown out and DH spent that long out of work and you having too when HR pregnancy! Idiots!

Reet: YAY for scan tomorrow! I know i cant believe i am 37weeks tomorrow. Last monday was the date they had set me for induction but i just said no. Now booked in for next tuesday but going to say no unless movement drops right off!
So sorry you are still up and down but i guess thats going to last a long time. I know what you mean about owing it to her to be down but then she was so happy she wouldnt want you to be sad. Just feel what you need to and dont worry about what you should be doing or feeling!

Good luck tommorow and enjoy your scan - hope you get some nice chubby 3d pics
Sorry again about your puppy :hug:

Our little man was breech on the scan - he sitting up really high too my belly is really high. all the kicks are down low so thinking he must still be head up. my DD was head down the whole preg she never flipped the other way she must have been happy that way. he better not get to comfy head up

ive been having weird preg dreams too - some not so nice and downright scary :o

Reet~ frist of all i just would like to send you some long distance hugs i know that still does not take the pain away but i am so sorry. And good luck on your scan

My bf ex wife does not care abotu anyoen but herself. If i tryed to talked to her she would just turn everything around on me. Also when her and my bf was married she use to be abusive towards him and use the kids as a pawn of why not to press charges. I have seen the pictures of were she bit him so badly that he had burses down his whole arm :( Bf still has nightmares about her. And as a man here its was hard to press charges against her. But now if the police were called he would have no say its domasitc and she would have been arrested the frist time. See were the jeliously comes in is that she has four kids all together two of his and two of her present hubby.My bf mom will go over there to see the two of her grandchildren and see that the other two needs stuff and she will buy for them even as them calling her there grandmother. But what gets me is okay when it comes to his mom okay your a nice person she is trying to wreak your sons life even more can you stop babying her and make her spend cs on what needs to be spend on
sorry for the long rant
The new court date is sent for the end of jan i hope this baby does not come before this or in the middle.

Thanks for listenig sorry i have been so self asbored latley

Hi ladies , sorry for a totally absorbed ME post but i need help.....

I haven't really been around because I'm sort of in a state of confusion about my whole pregnancy ATM. I'm definitely pregnant but I haven't told DH yet, partly because I want to pick the right time to tell him and partly to surprise him at Christmas.

most couples would be happy, falling pregnant after a miscarriage but DH has had a weird attitude lately about life in general and he has said quite a lot since the miscarriage that he doesn't want more kids, that he doesn't want anymore with me,and that he never wanted kids at all. I dont know if this is all because of his feeling towards the miscarriage or how he really feels.he married me when i was pregnant, but he didn't have to..... I would have done it alone...... But he wanted to get married at the time.....and he is a good dad when he wants to be....

And saying those things to me, whilst hurtful if they are true then I'd rather not stay married to him, because i definitely want more children, not one or two..... And now being pregnant again....

I'm thinking everyday just tell him and he will either be happy and you will have a future or he will act like the world is ending, and be ****ed off ttc actually worked , ruin the happiness for me and I will just leave.... I'm not scared to do it alone but I don't feel right telling Him, him faking happy families and staying together...possibly again, for a baby, and then further resentment when I want more children or ttc again in the future... ( he deliberately avoided me a couple of times when i said We could get pregnant in the last few months, and to be honest last month was really a fluke for us )

So I'm putting off telling him for his reaction because maybe it's not the one i want.....but maybe it will be....I don't want to upset life right before Christmas, then i though what a great christmas present, but that's only if he would be happy, if not I'll ruin Christmas supposedly for I'm and we will have a **** start to next year.... ARGH!!!! why can't he even tell I'm pregnant, I haven't brought up ttc for two weeks now and I usually pester him with baby talk everyday.........and I haven't said vie had a period, no tampons been around. if he wasn't so unattentive he would already know.....

Any advice.... I want to just tell him but every time I bring up, for example......

We could be pregnant right now.... He says I hope not
I say, do you wan a make a baby? He says let's have sex ( but no mention of actually trying )
I say I'd really like to be pregnant for Christmas.... And he doesn't even respond, he loves to ignore me
I say would you be happy to find out you were having a baby on Christmas day? Like for a present? (WTF OBVIOUS ?????) he says why is one of your Internet buddies going to do that? I suppose if they wanted a baby then.....

All signs says he doesn't want another baby
So why since my mc in September he been actively participating in trying and not using protection, to get me pregnant, and not voicing his opinions until November then keep having crazy sex all the time with me so I get pregnant if he doesn't really want that?

Anyone have a psychiatrist handy, my mil is one but i think she's the one who messed him up :(

M2R, I'm on my phone so this will be quick.

Men are weird. All they want is for their OH to be happy.. I think sometimes they say/do things just to try to please us. I'm sure he will be happy about the new baby.. Surely if he felt that strongly about not wanting any more kids he wouldn't have been such a willing participant in the TTC part!? Maybe he's just having a hard time at the moment. It might be hard for him to see the positives in anything if he's feeling down in general.
I also know that my DH gets sick if me talking about babies and TBH I think he misses the old me... And the old us! They are just not as into it as we are!
I hope when you tell him the news, whenever that may be, that he is excited and realises that it was what HE wanted too. Hugs babe xx

Thanks Stoked, I hope so too

M2R I'm sorry your DH messages are so mixed, Confusing right. I hope you find the ideal time to tell him and he is very excited about your next addition. Perhaps its from your m/c that has started some issues with pregnancy and he is grieving in his own way and expressing it differently to how we would expect (been women and all) My DH has also given me mixed messages as to how he feels about this bub. Its so confusing when she was very much planned and we were just about to start IVF. Deep down I think he doesn't like how pregnancy changes me but wants the baby. Men who can understand them sometimes or most of the time in my case.

Reet hope you have a wonderful scan today. I too and very sorry to hear about your puppy. A similar thing happened to us 18months ago and it was just aweful and it still makes me very sad.

Ferrals I hope you get the info you need to clear your DH. FX its comes easy getting the evidence.

Reet - It is kinda fun visiting the old gang, I love how excited they get over the belly. It'll be even more fun once bubby arrives for cuddles! I'm happy to be your emotional baggage handler. I've gotten good at it with my own craziness hehe. I really think there is just no preventing some things, it was her fate for this to happen as sad and horrible as it was. I can't say there was a 'reason' but I'm sure she'll be with you in spirit for a long long time to come. I did see that fb post by your friend and thought it was a really nice thought. Maybe her purpose had been served, and it was time for her to move on. You sound like you're feeling a bit better though, so thumbs up for that. It takes time but you're doing just fine dealing with it. You're right though, she would want you to be happy and to remember the good times more than the sad. Good luck for your scan tomorrow..... YAY! I'll stand by for pictures!

Ferrals - Oooohhh the plot thickens. What a piece of work this guy is! I hate how some people can't just take responsibility for their mistakes (re the written warning) and realize they did something stupid. Oh no, they have to blame EVERYONE ELSE. Frustrating! I have my FX that you'll easily be able to prove they're friends, and that the statement is fake. Was there any security video footage of the incident itself?? Or would that be too convenient, lol.

Tegam - Wow hun look at you go! That little bubby inside is so lucky to have such a strong mummy who can say NO to doctors and their over-intervention. :)

Kellie - Ikwym about the breech position.... mine went from breech to bloody transverse! Could it get any worse? LOL. I hate those scary pg dreams, I had nightmares all night last night... I won't go into it because they were quite terrifying but I woke up exhausted! I hope you can switch those nightmares for some entertaining crazy dreams instead.

Angelfish - It seems like your bf's mum is in a really tough spot. I don't think she can 'make' her do anything with the cs money...... I'm pretty sure she would be afraid the ex would just cut her out of her grandchildren's lives. It's frustrating I know, but my mum is like this with my brother and his girlfriend (they have 2 kids). She loans them money all the time to get food for the kids, but wouldn't have to if he just drank less! Bah. None of my business though so I just try to ignore it. I know how frustrating it is to watch though, I feel your pain!

Mum2Romone - Wow hun, what a situation! I think you should just give it to him straight. No amount of delaying is going to change his reaction, whatever it may be. And you know what, you should be able to share this news with him..... I don't know how you've kept it secret this long. Don't take this the wrong way but he needs to man up already. He knew what made babies. he knew you wanted a baby. He acted like he wanted it to, so now he's got it. If he can't face that, well boo-hoo for him he needs to decide whether or not he's going to be involved or not. He's a big boy and he participated in this, so don't for one minute feel guilty or worried about it. I would ask him straight out if he was just going along with ttc to keep you happy but didn't want another baby, tell him very calmly but very bluntly that you are pregnant, and he was a fool to go into the pool without floaties if he can't swim. (sorry the pool is enticing me right now it's so hot!) Whatever happens we're all here for you. Good luck!

AFM - DP's Grandma sent us a very generous and much appreciated gift in the mail yesterday. There was a lovely card and as usual she sent us a cheque. I almost swallowed my tongue when I realized she'd doubled the normal amount she sends, and specifically wrote that she wants me to get something for myself to enjoy. I could have cried. I won't say how much she sent us but it's SO needed right now and her generosity is just so beautiful. I think especially after losing my own Grandma this year, her presence in my life is even more important. I think she knows this. (I call her Grandma and she treats me as her Granddaughter). Anyway before I get myself into a tizzy and start crying, I think it's time to go and have a chunky dunk in the pool. (No more skinny dipping here...) :) Take care lovely ladies!

Thank you i am at the pont to were i have to worry about my babies health frist and everything else last.

Just a quicky i am off to bed i have a big weekend of work work and more work.

Forshelby-no video footage just their word against DH and the two guards with him.

AFM-sorry i am not real talkative we got a letter today from some debt collection company after DH from when he was married to his ex they had a $4000 dollar phone and internet bill that DH paid his part when they seperated now they are taking him for the ex wifes half as she wont pay so $2500 they want or they start legal action to recover it as she is on the pension they wont touch her.
I have had enough our 1st wedding aniversary is sunday and we cant afford to buy each other anything.
Sorry to be a sook i just cant take anymore bad sh#t coming our way.

Hi ladies
Thank you for your words of support xxx I went to the dr today for my cough and requested Bhcg level testing every few days.... I want to make sure this baby is going to stay before I say anything, I know that's stupid but I've been having heavy pains, all day IYKWIM and a really sore back, also when I mentioned to the dr that I had HG ( severe morning sickness ) with my other pregnancies but haven't been since since the day I found out nearly two weeks ago, she seemed worried, and even sad for me, like she thinks it will end in miscarriage....so results Monday and testing again Monday and then Wednesday ..... DH will be working, so I won't have to lie, or anything.... I can't believe he hasn't asked already anyway.......

I want this baby, but fingers crossed for good test results.....

Ferrals - I hope the lack of video works in your favour though.. you know, reasonable doubt etc. Sorry to hear about the debt collection thing, that absolutely sucks. I know it probably doesn't help right now, but no amount of hardship can tear the two of you apart. It's nice to be able to give material things, (and receive... :) ) but as long as you two have eachother and your family then you've got everything you need. Perhaps DH could lavish you with diamonds when things settle down a bit for you two. :hug: Not trying to minimise at all though, it's really not fair that you can't splurge on eachother with nice gifts.

M2R - Don't lose hope just yet. I'm surprised the doctor would make you feel that way without any evidence to back it up. I had cramping & backpain right from the start, and my MS was pretty mild considering. (more of just an all day hungover feeling) I'm going to use the old saying, every pregnancy is different. So far there's nothing to suggest this bubby won't stick, so keep your spirits high and when your bhcg's come back, talk to your DH. :hug:

AFM - Having a weird symptom right now, the back of my tongue and roof of my mouth is all tingly and annoying. That used to mean I was going to get a migraine, but so far nothing. It's more annoying than anything else...... I have no idea what it's all about!

Ferrals i am so sorry that you have to go though this when it come to DH. But things will work out.
M2R: my ms would come and go so much that i would cry on the days when it would go away i would cry etc.

I am out from under my rock for now. A few days ago i filed out a ticked for a rafle for a bunch of baby items and guess what ???/ I won i have almost everything that i need now. I know this will not help pay the rent or other bills but makes me have a little bit of faith that things will work out.

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Hi ladies
Thank you for your words of support xxx I went to the dr today for my cough and requested Bhcg level testing every few days.... I want to make sure this baby is going to stay before I say anything, I know that's stupid but I've been having heavy pains, all day IYKWIM and a really sore back, also when I mentioned to the dr that I had HG ( severe morning sickness ) with my other pregnancies but haven't been since since the day I found out nearly two weeks ago, she seemed worried, and even sad for me, like she thinks it will end in miscarriage....so results Monday and testing again Monday and then Wednesday ..... DH will be working, so I won't have to lie, or anything.... I can't believe he hasn't asked already anyway.......

I want this baby, but fingers crossed for good test results.....

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Its not stupid at all, in fact i dont think there is anything you could say in this thread that would suprise any of us!

AFM: Just been reading posts as i really dont have anything exciting to share...sorry!

Just dropping in some induction-beating vibes for Tegam! I'm finished with my lot :D

Baby on shoulder, love to all! :heartbeat:

Thanks Audax....am getting very uncomfy and the thought of induction is getting so so so much more hard to resist hehe.....

Also thats all my girls have asked for for xmas...what a bad mummy if i dont produce!

How is your little girl Audax??

Girlfriend just dropped off her capsule for me to use, i thought it was going to be one of those big ones but it is one of those posh looking slimline ones. Still not sure if i will use it much after not having on for three kids but it also might come in very handy!.....oh so clucky now!

Nooooo Tegam! You do not want the induction! The induced and artificial bit of my labour was the absolute worst. But I know what you mean.

We have a capsule, got it so that we could transport bubs without having to wake her, but she screams in the car, and we hardly drive anyway. Might use it more as she grows.

Our little bunny is just perfect - dozing in the sling right now. It's so cold here today and we don't have many warm clothes for her. So she's in a long sleeve bodysuit and booties, seems to be about right. Just keeping her close, seems to work :D And I can't stand putting her down anyway. Too too precious.

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Just keeping her close, seems to work :D And I can't stand putting her down anyway. Too too precious.

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Oh i am so green with envy!

Me too!

hey everyone....

I have been reading but have been having trouble positing.....plus i have been so negative.....ill post a big one when im on my work computer

m2r......how are u going now?

Atm.....well i have my scan thur and im completely petrified....i want to call up and cancel....we have christmas at our house...and if somethings wrong ill loose it.......i feel so so negative...cant help thinking that somethings wrong.....i keep thinking the baby is not growing and thats why my stomach is getting smaller and not bigger and its gone all soft which is freaking me out......i know the bloating might have gone but its not hard like with dd......i still have ms but then they say u can have ms even if baby has passed.......so i have totally convinced myself something is wrong which is making me a hormonal nightmare and fighting with everyone...........blehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......i feel so stressed and unhappy.......nothing seems to be helping

:hug: Melster, It makes things so much harder that you cant get all excited straight away and be happy :(

I know how you feel, hopefully your scan will provide you with the hope you need :)

Oh melstar you sound a mess! So sorry you are facing the scan two days before xmas...too much hey??

Im sure everything is fine but a million of us could tell you that and you are still going to stress. I say just get it over and done with. You will have such a better xmas when you know everything is normal and ok with your little one. Putting it off til after xmas will not make you any happier.

We are all here for you and cant wait to hear the good news thursday avo!

Audax - It's good to hear you and bub are well. :) Best Christmas present ever!

Melster - I hope Thursday brings you some good results and you can relax and enjoy your xmas. :hug:

M2R - How are you going, hun?

Angelfish - Congrats on the big win, that's awesome!

Tegam - Induction or no induction, it won't be long now! So excited for you! Wheeeeeeee!!! lol

AFM - I'm exhausted after babysitting (well kid-sitting) for my best friend today. Her boys are 11 and 9 and I had them all day today. They're generally well behaved but I've noticed the more they get to know me the more they push the boundaries. The older one was standing on my lounge at one point.. and I had to get rather firm with him. There were other small incidents, but mostly it was a good day. I find I'm just super tired from having to be 'on' all day and hearing 'NELLY- NELLY - NELLY' all day.... I'm sick of my own name, lol. My throat is even sore from yelling. Well not so much yelling but you have to raise your voice to be heard over the chatter & loud roughhousing of two boys. I've got them tomorrow too, and as much as I love to lend a helping hand to my best friend by doing this from time to time..... I know I'll be a dishevelled mess by tomorrow afternoon lol. When she picked them up this afternoon I turned off the tv, sat on the lounge with a very large glass of water and basked in the silence. :D I must say though they were very good boys while I had my BT done this morning at the clinic, waited very patiently and weren't too much to handle as we wandered around for the hour after I had my special drink.

Whew! Sorry that was so long, I needed a debrief though, hehe. :) Wish me luck for tomorrow, and please please tell me it's different when they're your kids! Repeating myself is driving me a bit batty, and I'm tired of hearing myself say 'no' or 'behave yourself young man'. :) It is good to have some company for a change though, at least I wasn't lonely!

different when its your kids, but it changes daily as to whether thats better or not :rofl:

Ferals.....my hubby got one of those...but it was for her car that SHE had.....i can really sympathise...Who's name was it under, both?

M2R..how are things going now? any news on the baby front, have you told you're partner yet?

Forshelby..how you feeling?

Angelfish..thats fantastic!!

Tegam..I have never used a capsule, but i know some people who love them

Hello to everyone else..

A lady at work,,,who has an extremely big mouth asked if i was pregnant...so right about now everyone should know!!!!!!!!!! I still havent had them do my contract yet and i was assuming it would have to be in the next day or two coz tomorrow is our last day...so who knows whats happening with that..i just want to be able to sign it so i feel safe........thanks for you're support. I have been a bit of a nightmare lately but its because i am scared and stressed...these hormones are taking over. Im dreading that scan Thursday...i really am..i dont know why... i just dont want to know and want to bury my head in the sand...dont know why i have convinced myself something is wrong...maybe when i have my scan and if things are alright i will ease up a bit...because ill be ten weeks...closer to 12 were the percentage of mc drops and ill be past the last baby who died at 6 weeks but i went until 9.........the fear is horrible..i think the bleeding earlier certaintly didnt help the fear factor......i have no real evidence except that bleeding a few weeks back...and last week i had real bad pains for about half hour which completely freaked me out...but it was after eating..eggs, bacon, cheese muffin...for breakie which was really fattening and i have had it before when not pregnant...and have needed to go to the toilet...so i am hoping and praying its just that....my belly is getting smaller and muschy...but that could be the bloating has gone down and maybe i have lost weight from throwing up and not eating as much and maybe its stretched....i havent had that heavy, pulling type period feelings but i am hoping thats coz its already stretched down there......i havent had any red blood like last time...and i still have ms...maybe not as bad......and i am DEF hormonal lol so that should be a good sign............anyways i am just going to have to find a way to live through this........and we have all the stepkids for christmas......GREAT....just what i need right now :wall:

Melster - If it helps at all, I was told that most mcs happen before the 8 week mark. I know they do happen after that point too, but that's what my doctor told me. When I had mine the pain was accompanied by a LOT of bleeding, and a LOT of clots. The nurse at the hospital told me as long as I wasn't seeing clots that there was hope. (she told me this before the clots started) I know how hard it is though to calm yourself in these early stages when there isn't a whole lot of evidence you're pg, like feeling kicks etc. Just take it one day at a time for now and try to de-stress yourself as best you can. As for that lady at work.. ugh how annoying! If they don't renew your contract I would be asking questions. If their reasoning is that because you're pg, then that's discrimination. I hope everything works out for you! Oh and to answer your question I'm feeling great. My feet are always sore, but now my knees have started to hurt and my hips too. Apart from that, everything is just perfect and bubby is kicking all the time so it's all very reassuring.

Tegam - Oh, LOL.... I have my FX that I can maintain some kind of peace and serenity as this baby grows up :)

AFM - Round 2 of kid-sitting today. They seem calmer today, I haven't had to get cranky yet but we're only an hour into it... lol. Let's see how this goes. *deep breath*

forshelby: hehe at remaining calm at the hour mark! hehe

Mel: Poo the lady with the big mouth!

AFM: Nothing new! Sorry :) Oh but we are getting our new car this avo at 3pm so now i can have the baby and we can all get somewhere together!

Melstar - sorry to hear your so stressed about the pregnancy - i guess we can all relate to those fears, they arent much fun! Im prayinh that everything is wonderful on Thursday and it gives you that reassurance that you need and you can enjoy the festive season knowing bubby is strong and healthy!

Reet - how are you doing gorgeous? xx

Tegam - Yay for the new car!! What are you getting?

Audax - So excited to hear your little girl is well!! Im so loving your avvy!!!!

AFM - 15wks today! Hooray :hooray: Bought my first pair of Maternity Jeans on Sunday!! They are ace!! I got 2 pairs for $78 at Jeanswest - i had no idea they even sold them there until some girls in my bellybuddies were talking about them! And they are cool as! Skinny leg and straight leg! Im rockin em with my little belly :dance:

Thanks ladies..

Hows those kiddies going forshelby...i KNOW exactly what you mean..i pull my hair out when i have stepkids over..

Tegam...wow new car..very flash

T-hopes...congratultions.......yep i heard about those jeans also..miss my skinny legs..think ill be popping over there also

ATM.......WELL BIG MOUTH certaintly open her big mouth.....YIPEE tho for getting my contract renewed for six months...(been here 10 years) and he said if i wanted to talk about anything...told him what was going on and he was really good...said at the end of my contract he would fight his hardest so they would keep me...guess ill just have to wait and see...so now two bosses know and two work people..so it will be all around the office soon....lets hope that my scan on Thur is ok...if not at least i have two weeks off

Tegam - Yay for the new car! Ok baby, all systems are go, you're free to make your way to the exit when ready. :)

T-Hopes - Awesome, I had no idea there were fashionable maternity jeans out there! It's way too hot here for jeans atm though.... I shudder just thinking about them. Congrats on 15 weeks!!

Melster - OMG... I'll launch into my rant at the bottom part..... first let me just say hooray for getting your contract renewed. I'm sending positive vibes your way for Thursday :)

AFM - :o I've had my moments today where I actually thought 'what have I gotten myself into having a baby'. The younger kid has been pretty manageable. Nothing too out of order, and when I get cross he listens and says sorry and does what he's asked! The older one though.... omg. I actually had to yell. I am NOT a yeller. But I yelled and the guy in the drivethru window heard me say 'frigging'. LOL. I don't know if it's just because I'm pg or what, but the older one just WON'T LISTEN and I'm sooooo sick of repeating myself. I'm getting all stressed out. :( No exaggeration here, I told him in excess of 20 times NOT to sit on the lounge in his wet swimming pants and wet towel, and every time he'd get out of the pool, he'd go straight to the lounge. Then when I say 'remember what I told you. Get one of those chairs and bring it over here until your pants are dry' and I get the rebuttle. 'Oh my pants aren't that wet. they won't wet the lounge. My towel is dry'. Anyway, I have to go now because they're FRIGGING arguing again, and the little one is getting a bit upset.

!@#$%^&*() :o give me strength. About 45 minutes until I can lock myself in my room and have a tantrum.