Scared!!!

[Babyluv]

Hi ladies,
I'm 6 weeks today I've been trying to stay really positive but last night it all got the better of me and I couldn't stop the tears.
I think the ultrasound in two weeks is really scaring me!
I'm so scared of going for the scan and having them say there is no heartbeat!
Guess I'm just wondering how do you stay positive, I'm scared by being negative I could make things go wrong!
I don't know how I'll be able to even look at the screen at the scan, I'm terrified!!!!
Just needed to get it off my chest & I know that you girls will understand how I'm feeling.

[Tanya]

It's hard not to be fearful... It's easy for people to say just try and relax etc etc... but that is so much easier said than done.

Just take one day at a time , try and keep yourself occupied.

xx

[Mrs McAwesome]

Babyluv,

I totally hear you. Just so you know i am sending you a big hug, cos I really do understand how that feels. Unfortunately I don't really have any advice for you except to try and stay positive and take each day as it comes. As you can see from my Sig I lost 9 angel bubbas before this pregnancy and I was gripped with anxiety right from the start which has slowly eased off as the weeks progressed.

Can you maybe get in for an ultrasound sooner. I had my first one at 6 w 4 d and it really put me at ease seeing the little flickering.

I know there are many ladies that may be able to give you better advice than me. I guess all I did was pray. I was a bit of a wreck by the time I was pregnant this time.

x

Cara

[Babyluv]

Hi Cara,
Thankyou I've been praying so many times a day for our little one and I feel guilty that I don't trust that everything will be fine.
I organized my scan for 8 weeks cause I'm scared of going through the whole saga of scan after scan because they don't see a heartbeat etc! I guess I was thinking if I go at 8 weeks I'll know for sure, but maybe I should go for an earlier scan, it might take the anxiety away a bit!
You're such a strong woman, it's so hard to go through this and have the courage to try again!
It is harder each time you have a loss I think!

[human bean]

I understand exactly what you're going through, and like everyone else says, it really is just taking it one day at a time, and trying to be as positive as you can. Easier said than done though I know.

As for the day of the scan, I was such a wreck by the time I got in there, I burst into tears just walking into the room. I told the sonographer what had happened with our previous pregnancy and it really helped, she calmed me down and then talked me through it and was just wonderful. Perhaps when you ring to book/see if you can get in earlier, explain how you're feeling so they know beforehand.

Good luck and thinking of you

[Roryrory]

Hey there chicky, I know how you are feeling. I think being scared is just part of being a mum, unfortunately

[tnw10]

Babyluv,

I had 2 miscarraiges in August and November last year and am now 13.5 weeks pregnant. We had our NT Scan on Tuesday just gone and i was so scared that they were going to tell me that the bub had died but as soon as they put the probe on my tummy i saw a baby with waving arms, kicking legs and a flickering little heart beat! I am still paranoid even now that i'm past the "danger zone". Everything feels quite surreal at the moment, i keep having to remind myself that that was MY baby on the screen! I don't think i will rest until that baby is in my arms. It's just our motherly instinct to be worried hunny.
I had a scare at 6 weeks and as soon as i saw that speck of blood i burst into tears and didn't stop until hubby was home from work. I had a scan and it turned out it was just a subchrionic bleed...phew!

I'm sure this is your time and everything will be great! Good luck with your scan.

tnw10
xoxox

[redrosie]

Hi

I am just over 5 weeks pregnant and am having my first scan on 18 May. I have had 2 silent miscarriages (both at 6 weeks and 2 days) detected during the 7 week scan. I am terrified of going through the whole silent miscarriage thing again and am slowly driving myself crazy. Any ideas on how to distracted myself for the next 7 days? I am hoping this forum might help as my partner is being philosophical and trying to convince me not to think about it - yeah right. They have discovered that I have natural killer cells so I am taking medication for that and am dosed up on progestrone but I am really anxious that I am going to go through the same experience. I feel like my 'symptoms' aren't getting any stronger - has anyone else experienced that??

Thanks

RR
3 IVF cycles
2 silent miscarriages (July 2008, January 2009)

[Elixis]

Hi Guys,

I know what you mean, i also have had a misscarrige on Jan 4th and it really is terrible. Now ii'm pregnant again about 7 weeks. I havn't been scheduled my ultrasound yet, I assume when I get my blood results they will schedule it. I too worry so much. I don't get morning sickness so sometimes when I don't feel symptoms I get real worried. Last time I remember saying to DH "I don't feel pregnant" a few days before i m/c. So now if I don't feel sore boobs or a bloated belly I get real worried. Untill I see the heartbeat I can't relax. Everyone tells me to relax, but it's so easy for them when they havn't been through something as terrible as losing a child.

All I can say is that you arn't alone, but when I do panick, I tell myself that stress isn't helping and that stress could just harm the baby so I try to think of something else, or picture my baby healthy and happ in my tummy. There is nothing you can do but eat well, don't drink/smoke, and just try to picture your little one healthy and happy.