I'd been bleeding small amounts of brown blood for almost a week before I went to see a doc. I had called the hospital several times but was told it was old blood and I chose to wait it out. When I did have a scan the baby had died a week before the bleeding had started. I chose to have a D&C, although the ER doc did agree this was best in my case and would have steered me this way if I hadn't chosen it for myself.
DH and I waited one cycle to try again but having the D&C allowed me to physically recover so that I could move on.
I understand wanting to let it happen naturally though....Part of me wished I could have allowed my baby to leave me in its own time (even though I knew he was already gone) rather than 'getting rid of it', ITMS. But the longer you wait the greater the risk of infection too. Not that a D&C doesn't have its own risks.
All the best whatever you decide. I'm so sorry for your loss
Last edited by Tuesday's Child; September 16th, 2010 at 11:09 AM.
: added a bit more
I had a missed m/c in November 09 @12weeks (bubba has passed at 8weeks) which i found out about at my 12week scan and my doctor gave me my options and i opted to have the D&C as opposed to waiting it out as i just wanted to grieve & move on. I got AF back roughly 5weeks after the D&C. So it happened we fell pregnant end of December 09, not because we were desperate to start TTC but because it just happened that way.
I had one because it was a suspected (and later confirmed) molar pregnancy and they wanted it out straight away. Waiting wasn't an option.
Because it was molar, we couldn't try again anyway, but I feel like the d & c, despite all its risks, was a great thing to do and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again. My cycles have never ben more regular -perfect- than after it - the first AF was a bit heavy and icky, but the next three were perfect, and my girly bits just felt so healthy and "clean"
It's not for everyone, and there is still some bleeding afterwards, but especially with a late m/c, when there's so much stuff down there, I do think it's a good idea.
Just looking over my old thread because I'm going for the d&c in the morning, it's been ages and I'm still bleeding and recently (last two days) it's been really heavy, clotting again, it's ridiculous, especially with a toddler to chase around.
So hopefully I will be all better tomorrow afternoon and finally be able to put this behind us.
I'm so freaked about it all, but it has to be done now, it's even too long.
General aneth too. Is that was everyone else had?
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