My top ten fears are:
1. bleeding
2. blighted ovum discovered at scan after spotting scare
3. missed miscarriage, after symptoms disappeared and spotting began
4. horrible cramps and bleeding before D&C was scheduled to take place
5. waiting in the maternity ward for a D&C and then being returned there for recovery
6. fear at every scan that there will be no heartbeat
7. high risk due to my age at NT scan
8. lack of movement after getting movement
9. constant fear of late miscarriage or stillbirth
10. genetic abnormality, such as di George syndrome (my sister had this with her last baby)
Nearly 24 weeks pregnant and I still can't bring myself to prepare for the arrival of this baby due to these fears. I just can't believe it's really going to happen.
1. spotting/bleeding
2. Lack of strong symptoms
3. Seeing empty sac at first u/s
4. Seeing no hb at second u/s
5. Fear that once I do finally make it past the first tri I will fall over or have some sort of accident that will harm the baby
my top 5:
1. Down's or some other genetic abnormality due to my age and poor quality eggs.
2. having to do something about the above.
3. not being able to conceive again due to age, pcos, and just plain leaving it too late.
4. poor genetics from DF - he is adopted and has no family history other than knowing his birth parents had to give him up due to alcoholism
5. my family not accepting my pregnancy
I have so many things floating in my head right now.
Each test is like another hurdle jumped over. Innocently each time I have thought that we were threw the worst, that innocence is gone and I am a true realist now.
My concerns now are
1. Seeing a strong healthy heart beat at our scan in just under two weeks
2. Getting through until the 12 week scan and seeing bub healthy etc
3. I will worry about everything else until I have them in my arms.....and then its new worries to contend with
So,I am pregnant for the 6th time, after 4 angels previously.
1-5 greatest fears this time:
1. Having to miscarry at home, giving birth to a first trimester baby on my toilet because the hospital won't admit me if it all goes wrong again.
2. Having to make the decision to allow doctors to remove a baby while it is still growing (if I have a heterotopic pregnancy).
3. Molar pregnancy
4. Miscarriage of any kind.
5. My father being right when he said if this one doesn't turn out I should stop trying because the miscarriages are affecting my health and therefor making me not able to properly look after DD.
Plus loads of others. But at this moment, today, they're my top 5.
I'm pregnant again after too too many late losses. I can really relate to what everyone here is going through - I feel a bit like I'm missing out on 'enjoying' the pregnancy because I'm busy being paranoid about every little muscle twitch, and Googling all the medications I have to take to see if they have been "proven" to prevent it happening again. I don't have five worries - just one: that I'll lose this little bub. So far I've made it to the 6 week scan, the 7 week scan, the 8 week scan, the 9 week scan... so far so good. I'm also on some medications that will apparently make my chances better (wish they had worked that out earlier).
I think that only another pregnant woman who has experienced miscarriage/s can understand the level of paranoia we are all experiencing. That must be why these forums work
Top 5 worries:
(1) That the next ultrasound will show no hb.
(2) That there will be some issue with my cervix and I'll have a late loss.
(3) Every little muscle spasm or tiny cramp (which can, Podgy, be normal - my obstetrician told me some cramping is ok as long as it's not regular or strong and not accompanied by bleeding)
(4) That after I stop the progesterone something will go wrong and my body won't make enough or something
(5) That me or the bub will get some kind of haemorrhage (I'm on heparin)
GOOD LUCK ladies. I hope your bubs stick, and that your worries are unfounded ;0
Well, firstly I have to day all you BB ladies are very brave, and your stories DEFINATLEY help others!
I am sad that I am having to post on this particular forum topic, but I am very proud to be amongst others who will understand what it's like and help ourselves overcome these hurdles, until we have healthy bubs!
My top five worries/fears/wishes ~ now post blighted ovum
1. To be disappointed, and not enjoy the next pregnancy, because I'm scared it wont be a good one again. The stress of knowing things too early, analyzing every little thing and trying to work out what my 'normal' is!
2. To disappoint DH, as he is the most wonderful, supportive, patient man, who also so wants to be a parent. As much as we both know we couldn't have done anything to make our bubble grow, I can't help but shake the feeling it's my dodgy bits that didn't make bubble grow : (
3. When the next BFP appears, the anxiety & emotions just go away, and my naïveté creates a blissful, boring but healthy pregnancy!
4. Overcoming pangs of sadness, to be happy for others who are pregnant, or just had a bubs. I just hate making others feel bad or make them feel as though I need their sympathy.
5. That I won't be able to get pregnant again - for all unreasonable reasons imaginable.
Thanks for reading ladies, it's helps get it off my mind!
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