20 week ultrasound - sonographer slips out the sex!

[Fleur]

I think it's probably more respectful to refer to your baby as 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' IYKWIM? So probably a work habit

[Mildez]

With DD2 the sonographer pointed out there is "her" stomach. I didn't want to say anything out of fear it would be confirmed as we wanted a surprise so I didn't say anything. DH didn't think he was referring to bubz been a girl just saying that instead of it but she came out a DD and from that moment I had a strong feeling I was having a girl. My Aunt also was told she was having a boy when she didn't want to know with her first.
As a midwife I always refer to the bub inutero as a he or a she especially in labour when I don't know but I make sure to call it he and then she a few times so I don't favour one or the other IYKWIM. Much nicer to say he or she then it if you don't know.

[*Ash*]

With my 2nd pregnancy, the sonographer kept saying 'bubs' when referring to the baby...'here is bub's heart', 'here is bub's brain', blah blah...Then he said 'Here is his ....' a couple of times, before slipping back into using 'bub'. I was thinking 'ok, has he slipped up?' or was it just a generic term? We wanted to know the sex, so eventually asked him, and yes, he was a 'he'!

A friend of mine went for a scan for her 2nd preg and did NOT want to find out the sex. They had a 2 year old son, who they did not take to the scan. As they were leaving the sonographer said 'So, how old is your other son? oops!

[Fleur]

A friend of mine went for a scan for her 2nd preg and did NOT want to find out the sex. They had a 2 year old son, who they did not take to the scan. As they were leaving the sonographer said 'So, how old is your other son? oops!

Now that is a bit of a give-away! What did your friend say?

[kyrawolfe]

hmmm yes that one was an obvious slip up!

I went for my 20 weeks scan recently, we didnt want to find out the sex and our sonographer was actually very good.. He said "the babies" in reference to all body parts and then he turned and asked us "so do you have a little boy or a little girl at home?" We realised then we hadnt yet asked him not to tel us and made it clear at that point we didnt want to know but told him we have a DS at home.. He just smiled and said "ahh ok I did see something but lets leave it for a surprise then!" So I think he did really well, left me so curious and kept us guessing all the way home! Still no idea, find out in 18 weeks!

I would take it as a general term.. besides, even if he did slip up, they can sometimes get it wrong anyway, so best off letting it roll off your back

[Kazmar]

Yeah I have heard that they refer to them as 'he'......

[Dragonbub]

I just recently had a scan and told the sonographer I didn't want to know (until DH was with me). He then referred to bub as "he" a few times and I commented on it, even though he was looking at the head circumference, kidneys etc so I knew he wasn't actually telling me what "it" was. He said he always refers to them as a he so I wouldn't worry!

[firemansgirl]

I had my 20 week u/s last thursday. We wanted to know the sex ~ I did ask the sonographer if he had 'ever' slipped up. He stated never, he doesn't go near the 'bits' of the baby and if he does see it, he wipes it all from his mind! Well trained sonographer I'd say!!!

[GabberQueeN]

I had my 20 week u/s last thursday. We wanted to know the sex ~ I did ask the sonographer if he had 'ever' slipped up. He stated never, he doesn't go near the 'bits' of the baby and if he does see it, he wipes it all from his mind! Well trained sonographer I'd say!!!

Very very smart!!!!

[TeniBear]

Our ultrasound guy just says "baby" for everything - "there's baby's stomach" or "here's baby's arm" etc.
He actually seemed disappointed when we told him we weren't finding out, I think he was looking forward to it He asked twice, the first time as "was there anything else you wanted me to look at?" then straight out "are we finding out the sex today?"

Now, here's hoping when we have our 30 week u/s we don't have a slip up! ("Baby" has a cyst in his/her brain, we have to check if it's grown, gone away, or stayed the same size at 30 weeks )