OK,

I remember writing about this on the tail end of someone elses baby shower question but I was offline for a few weeks and never got any answers if there were any.

Everything is a stress for me right now - so please understand if it seems trivial to you.

I have a friend who asked me about my baby shower plans the other day... I desperetly tried to avoid the subject.

Reasons I don't want Her to organize Baby shower:

She isnt organised enough and messed up my hens night which was a total and utter flop.
She has a sis in law also due same time and wants to SHARE baby showers:
I hardly know her , dont want to share and also shes a size 8 and I am size 18 and I dont want to be constantly compared to her on the day. I don't like skinny people right now..(sorry skinny people)

I am known as the party person, I always have themes and decor to set the mood and everyone looks fwd to my yearly festivals we celebrate.

So I like decorating and having themes and matching balloons and table ware etc, and she thinks entertainment is putting the T.V on during a party and throwing a bag of chips at you.

Her heart is in the right place but my heart isnt when it comes to her parties.

I know I am a mean friend, but u only get 1 baby shower and I missed out on engagement party, bridal shower and big wedding and I just want to enjoy this pregnancy as we have never got this far before.

what do I do ? is hosting my own party even an option ?

I asked my mum to set a date for a shower so that my friend thinks she is throwing me a surprise one in august to ward off any many questions.

I was thinking it would be nice to have a family shower as in, everyone male and female can come and not just women only.

what are my options here? whats the right thing to do... I just don't want my friend to mess up another party....