thanks for all the great replies, I wished I was able to get online yesterday as She called again last night and mentioned it.

I said I was suspsicious that my mum was throwing a surprise one and she should discuss it with her. She continued to say, Well hyperthetically who would you invite, and I replied well mums knows all that stuff and she still kept asking me.

When I mentioned my husband going She jumped in Ohh but thats not right.

I have like 2 female friends thats it the rest are mums friends and my friends own circle of friends .

sigh....

I wish sometimes people would just take a hint.