I mean I know that I am pregant but I just feel like I have no emotional connection to my baby. I honestly thought that I would feel more excited than I do.
I saw my bubba on my 12 week ultrasound and was greatful that there was/is nothing wrong great little heartbeat very active but I just fee like I have no emotional connection.
I actualy bought more things for babies before I got pregant but because it took so long (3 plus years) I gave them all the my neice and nephew when they were born.
I have not bought anything at all, and when people talk about my pregancy I just want to change the subject
Sometimes it is difficult to feel bonded to something you can't touch and feel and see (apart from a few minutes during US). You have waited so long for your pregnancy and it sounds like you have a lot of expectations on yourself, expectations for how you will feel and behave. Three years build up... for something that at this point you can't see, touch and feel. At this point, it might seem like an anti-climax.
Be gentle with yourself. Take it slowly and stop expecting yourself to feel or behave in a certain way. You will bond with your baby... perhaps when you feel him or her moving around inside your tummy, maybe not until after he or she is born.
Enjoy as much of your pregnancy as you can, try to relax and take each day as it comes. Good luck!
You are not nuts at all. I have felt the same way, often. I have held off telling a lot of people, not for any reason other than I can't stand their excitement - I just can't share it with them, I'm not feeling it yet.
If you have anyone you can talk to about this, I recommend you do it. Even if you blog your thoughts here on BB for a bit, so others can share with you, and you won't feel so weird. I'm sure lots of others will have some great ideas on how to help bond with your baby.
I didn't really feel ANYTHING throughout pregnancy.. actually to be honest, DD is 5 months and I've only just started feeling excited about her!
Some people get all excited and emotional, some people are always calm and collected. Guess you and I are the latter!
I dont think your nuts, I too didnt 'feel' pregnant until i felt bubs kick the first time. Some nights i go to bed and when im almost asleep bubs kicks me and im like "what was that?" So yes i get where your coming from. I am sure you will bond with bubs as soon as you have him/her. If not it may take you a few months like Misty.
This is my 3rd pregnancy and I often 'forget' that I'm pregnant.
I think it comes with TTC long term and I guess it could be kind of like not 'counting your chickens before they hatch'?
TTC my last child took nearly 3yrs and I was kind of the opposite, where all I could think about and focus on was the pregnancy, to the point where it was too consuming, so in a way perhaps your way is better? Maybe look in to the Pregnancy After LTTTC threads and Parenting After LTTTC threads as well to see if anyone else has been through the same feelings?
I ended up with a bit of post natal anxiety after my last child and think it could have had something to do with LTTTC.
Don't feel pregant
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