Hi Girls,
I apologies for being MIA. Things have been awful. Have had my grandfather pass away and then had my 20 week ultrasound last week to be told my baby has club foot. I'm so shattered and it has caused so much self doubt and anxiety and so much pain worrying about the baby. I still have morning sickness if i ever get hungry- i vomit bile. Not good. I try and get ahead of it but sometimes it is impossible. I have further tests next week with specialists and then counselling. I'm praying its just positional and will rectify itself but babys feet look like little umbrella handles on the scan so i don't like our chances. And yes he is a boy. so those of you who voted boy;hoorah for you.Ironically club feet is 50% more likely to affect boys-as with every medical condition. Its not chromosomal. They don't know what causes it. It affects 1 in 1000.
Hope everyone else is doing wonderfully. i miss talking to you all,but just feel when i'm sad its easier to shut down.If any of you have or know anyone who has had a baby with this condition i would be overwhelmingly grateful for a chat or some advice.
God Bless
Pauline
Aww Pauline
Firstly, I am sorry to hear about your grandfather.
Secondly Huge (((hugs))). I hope all goes well for the rest of your pregnancy and bub's club foot isn't too bad.
A friend of mine had a little boy born with club foot - wasnt diagnosed early so she had no idea unti he came out.
He had plaster cast made and although im not sure how long he was in it there is apsolutely no residual problem.
He is now 10 and plays footy and runs the same as any other kid... in fact i had forgotten all about it until now.
Pauline, I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
Just want to let you know that a friend of mine had a little girl with club feet... she spent a long time in plaster and foot braces, but also had clicky hips and trying to treat both problems at once meant that neither were being treated as effectively as they could be. She's now a happy, healthy two and a half year old (assuming I can count properly, time is going MUCH quicker than I think some days!) and everything appears to be ok at last.
Your baby's feet will go into plaster fairly soon after birth, and chances are very good that everything will be fixed up and perfect really quickly and he'll have no memories of the treatments at all. It seems to be harder on mum than it is on bub.
My BIL has a club foot. He spent many years in plaster as a bub (it was 28 years ago so treatment has probably come a long way since then). His affected foot is 2 sizes smaller and he does tire more easily when he plays sports but other than that he's totally OK. Oh, the one other thing is he got knocked back from the navy because he couldn't pass the physical but that's not a huge issue. He's a happy, healthy 28 year old preparing to marry his true love. Life for him just gets better and better.
Aw sweety I'm sorry to read this news. It would be so upsetting receiving that news about your little bub.... must be so worrying. I hope you have support of loved ones close by around you & you will always have us girls here for support too
I hope the counselling helps you. It's not fair that you have to have this on top of everything else we already worrying about in pregnancy. I'm sure your little boy is going to be just so so gorgeous and even with club foot, just like any other baby you are going to see that little boy's eyes when he comes out and you are just going to fall in love with him.... you have so much to look forward to so keep focusing on positives hun.
xx
Hi, I am 22weeks and was my son was also diagnosed with club foot at our 19 week scan. While it is upsetting, I am trying not to think about it as there is nothing that can be done until birth. Secondly the treatments these days are very good we have heard (my dad is an orthopaedic surgeon and he says that things have changed dramatically over the last 20 years). Our OB says she will line us up with a Pedeatric Orthopedic surgeon at birth and he will take over. Apparently they will put our son in splints/cast for the first few months and then operate if things are not improving. Hopefully by the time he is walking things should be rectified....My husband and I look at it as if that is his only problem in life then we will be happy...we know many others that have children with other more serious problems.
Stay positive!
I am sorry to hear about your grandfather passing I am also sorry that things arent going well in general in respect to your son. I hope you find some comfort in the responses of the ladies here as to the children they know with the same condition as your son. I have actually been thinking of you lately and wondering were you were.
sorry about your grandfather, I hope you are coping ok with that. A friend of mine had a little girl who was born with her feet on back to front and had to endure some ops to correct it but she is now a bright and healthy 14 y/o. Also she was one of a set of twins born very premmie and her brother died. I wouldn't worry about bubs foot as technology these days has improved in leaps and bounds.
Girls ,
Thankyou so much for your support-it actually makes me tear up. I'm so scared, i have my thorough ultrasound booked for tommorow. I have had the midwife call me today to give me a run down of everything that will happen tommorow as i will be seeing about three different specialists. i'm starting to feel a bit like a lab rat.
I don't want to think"Oh woe is me" but why?? Didnt i already have enough to deal with, i think my last bloods havent been good either as the itching has started and i have to see my ob/gyn tommorow too. I called my sister in a bit of a panic,saying why are there all these people involved in my care? "Do they know something they don't want to divulge over the phone?" Something worse than the talipes?Because they did say earlier that it could be more complicated. I cant stop fretting, but my little boy keeps kicking away almost to say I'm here mummy and I'm ok. God i love him so much,so so much. i need him and want him so much and I'm so scared for him. I feel like i have already failed him by giving him such a difficult start in life. It's so unfair on him. Funny though i keep thinking of names and nothing ever dawns on me. Yet yesterday a new name popped into my head and when i said ETHAN out loud-he kicked. Maybe a sign of approval. I looked up Ethan on the net and it means solid and enduring. How appropriate. He will sure need to be both. My sister made me cry a little because she said "Pauline-sure this child will have challenges and adversity-more so than his peers,but you forget one vital component!He has you;and you are the most wonderful mummy i know" He is not disadvantaged;he is blessed to have you.I am very lucky to have her as my support person. I worry that when i go into labour and its time to push that i will hesitate for fear of seeing him. I think i will just say show me his beautiful face and his heavenly eyes and wrap his legs so i cant see. then just wait till i'm alone and process things in my own time. I'm just praying its nothing worse than this. What is it that Kanye says;that, that don't kill me will only make me stronger. If its one thing i promise to pass on to my son it will be a fighting spirit. God help anyone who denegrates or laughs at him or condems me. People can be very unkind of differences. The looks of pity;I'm not sure i can hold my tongue. I will want to defend and protect him so much. C'mon lil boy stay strong and keep on fighting for your mumma.
Polly,
CONGRATULATIONS ON A LITTLE BABY BOY !!!!
I am so sorry that the road to meeting your man has not been as smooth as
you hoped for.
Just try to take it one day at a time.
You will be a wonderful Mum.
Look after yourself & your little boy. AnnaBelle
You have an absolutely amazing and wonderful sister there. I want to give her the hugest hug for knowing exactly what to say and when to say it... I have a sister with no tact or diplomacy...
I'm sure it's scary and horrible, but I'm also sure that things will work out, and that no matter how bad the feet are, you'll love your little man all the same.
When you are ready, there are some good websites for parents of kids with talipes (clubfeet).
TIPS (Talipes Information And Parental Support Group)
STEPS (STEPS charities UK)
Clubfoot.co.uk
Treatment has greatly improved over past few years. Non-surgical methods (plaster casts and boots) are the preferred first option followed by surgery if necessary. These are known as the Ponsetti method.
I'm sorry to hear about your bad news. I am sure your sister knows what she is talking about. Babies are born to parents who are suited to care for them and your are SO suited to care for this angelic boy of yours. BTW congratulations on having a boy! And Ethan is a great name.
Goodluck with the u/s tomorrow. I hope they can give you some good news too
Hi Polly!! My long lost mousekateer. I was so sorry to read about bub and your grandfather's passing. Just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your little man and I'm sure things will be ok in the end.
AFM, 16 weeks today, time goes so fast. It only feels like yesterday you and I were in the IUI thread going through treatment.
Sorry to hear about your grandfather passing. It is shocking news to hear your child will be born with clubfoot, especially when you are not entirely sure of what the future will bring.
Noah was born with club foot and he was treated by Minoo Patel at Monash Medical Centre in Clayton. He is the BEST orthopedic surgeon for clubfoot, everyone who gets treated by him only has the best to say about him. You are also able to book appts with him pre birth so you can get a run down on the treatment used. I highly recommend doing so to put your mind at ease.
If it is both feet it is likely it is not positional but don't stress, everyone who gets treatment and follows through with it will have a 100% improvement.
The further tests they are probably wanting to do is amnio, I refused because my trisomy risk was very minimal at my 12 week scan. I didn't want the 1 in 200 chance of losing Noah just to find out he didn't have any other condition. I did go for the scan though to make sure that clubfoot was the only visible impairment.
I am now pregnant with my second child which at my 16 week scan looked to be another boy and I am almost certain I saw the same turned in foot we saw with Noah. The ultrasound specialist refused to comment until I return for my morphology scan. So it looks like more trips to Melb to see Minoo.
So and I am here to chat if you have any questions. Excuse me if I rambled on too much but I am in that awful placenta brain stage My msn and yahoo should be in my profile as is my email.
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Apologies for being a snob.20 weeks u/s not good.
It seems to be harder on mum than it is on bub.
We have been missing you in BB group
My msn and yahoo should be in my profile as is my email.
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