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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Hawthorn, VIC
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    Lol another one who says - throw away the book! My independent MW was over the other day, she went through my pile of 20+ pregnancy booksm and chucked most of them in a box and told me not to open them!

    Re. food and diet - HAHAHA! Before we got pregnant, during the 8 months trying to conceive, I researched the Perfect Diet, planned meals, did checklists etc., so I could be the perfect pregnant mumma and nourish my baby with 4 serves of yellow vegetables and 3 serves of red vegetables and 4 serves of green leafy veggies... Now that I think about it, I nearly fall off my chair laughing! I was soooo sick for a few months, I ate what I could. For over a week that was ONLY deep fried food. Often I couldn't even eat the fish, and just ate the batter off it. Hey. It was that or nothing! Now my diet is pretty good, I'm eating as many raw veggies as I can, drinking lots of milk... But it's still not perfect.

    My MW said, 'your bloods were great at the start, you obviously have loads of vitamins in store, and your body is so efficient when you are pregnant, so don't worry about it!'. She would not even have a discussion about diet with me - she said I look healthy, I obviously care about what I eat, no point stressing in any way! LOL last week a friend, who is a GP, said 'your body knows what you need when pregnant, listen to your body' and I replied, 'if I listened to my body I'd be eating instant noodles, milk and raw capsicum and nothing else!'. She shrugged and said maybe that's what I need this week! Carbs, dairy and vitamin C!

    Re. all the Junk. Hmm well despite having a room heaving with Stuff like rattles and 20+ bibs and enough singlets and socks to clothe an army (a very small army), plus waaaaay too many onesies (every time I see my mum she has another onesie in a bag!).... Well the truth is, all they need is a couple of blankets, some suits, some nappies, some boobs and a carrier!

    You will be SO fine! At least you are asking and wondering and thinking!

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    Lake Macquarie, NSW
    131

    The book has been returned to the person who lent it to me - she lent it to me in good faith but has actually never read it so didn't realise how it might affect me. She said she would read it before lending it out again!

    I really was upset by it because I am doing the best I can do, as I can see so many people are doing, and I just didn't understand how it could be so wrong.

    I can see by your stories that it is not wrong, it is human and I am not harming my baby but giving it every bit of love and strength that I have...I made a deal with him early on that he could take whatever he needed....it didn't matter how sick I got as long as he was okay I was good with that. So that is how it has gone.

    Funny thing is that no matter how many times I was sick in a day & how poor my diet may have been (in amount of food rather than content) our baby grew but so did my hair (that no longer splits at the ends) and my nails are growing out of control....I don't think hair & nails would grow so healthily & baby didn't have what he needs.

    I will keep eating as many pieces of fruit a day as I want without worrying about the sugar content and if I feel like sparkling water then I will drink it without guilt. As for my few pieces of dark chocolate each day....surely Mum being happy is only good for baby!!!!

  3. #3
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    Sep 2008
    Melbourne
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    Kat's pregnancy diet:
    3 main meals of the good stuff - museli, yoghurt, salad, lean meat, fruit....
    + a potato-cake almost every day for the entire pregnancy (to the point that my work colleagues called the baby 'potato cake')
    + more than 'a few' squares of dark chocolate (LOTS more!)
    + several glasses of milo a day
    + about 600 apricots in third trimester (I don't know why, I just got obsessed with them!!)

    = happy slightly chubbier Mummy and healthy happy baby girl.

    Just reading your posts I have no doubt that you are %1000 devoted to the health and wellbeing of your little one. You're doing a wonderful, wonderful job and your bubba will be healthy and strong for all the love and nurture you are already giving. It sounds to me like you could be a bit gentler on his/her Mummy though. Just give yourself a pat on the back, book yourself in for a massage and soak up every last minute of the wonderful experience of growing a bubba.

    As for baby stuff... well, like the others said. Babies don't need that much and honestly if you discover there's something you do need it's not that hard to send someone down to the shops (or go yourself) after bubs is born. I freaked out about what we 'needed' too but just kept reminding myself that babies are raised pretty successfully in igloos and in the African outback and it's surprising how well they manage without a monitor with a camera in it and a singing, dancing, flashing bath seat!!!

    All the best hun.

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Jan 2010
    29

    Totally agree with Dansta! Up The Duff all the way, practical information and it makes you laugh. I lived on ginger beer and double chocolate muffins because even bread made me gag and my DD is so healthy she puts me to shame.

  5. #5
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Feb 2006
    South Eastern Suburbs, Vic
    6,054

    Haha Kat. I remember Shellbell3 was convinced my #1's amniotic fluid was just all melted Frosty Fruits.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Hawthorn, VIC
    230

    Haha Kat. I remember Shellbell3 was convinced my #1's amniotic fluid was just all melted Frosty Fruits.
    Fantastic! ever since I learnt that amniotic fluid changes flavour daily, depending on what you eat, I call it 'soup', and when I eat things, I say "hey little baby girl, mumma is making you some satay chicken soup!"


    Santosha - well the 600 apricots make sense! Apricots are REALLY high in iron and fibre, both wonderful things for 3rd tri!

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    Lake Macquarie, NSW
    131

    Great!! I haven't heard that about the amniotic fluid...baby is having a berry smoothie this morning...I hope he likes berries!