I was going to have my Nan's name (Margaret) as one of the middle names for my first daughter anyway, so when she died it didn't make a difference to that. But we're going to be using the male equivalent of her middle name (Frances/Francis) as a second middle name if Cookie's a boy. That was decided in the backyard as the paramedics were taking her body out of her house, and hasn't changed since (IIRC, I was 8w6d when she died)... The only reason it's not the male variant of her first name is I can't find one for Margaret