How involved is your mum in your pregnancy?

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

My mother did buy some things for DS - while I did appreciate things like the moses basket, bedding for the cotbed I'd bought and changetable, I didn't appreciate being made to change my mind over the bedding I wanted because it wasn't "cute enough" or "colourful enough" for a baby. I wanted soft pastels, not bold jungle animals!

But supportive involvement all went to my cousin. My mum did her gardening even! MiL was nice and friendly, but she had a granddaughter already so was more involved in her. My mother also told me I wasn't as big as I should be, I didn't feel kicks when we'd SEEN the things, that I didn't want to do breastfeeding, cloth nappies, co-sleeping or demand feeding, let alone look after my DS when he cried... She just seems to be the polar opposite parent to me. Which has caused more distance between us because I'm doing it "wrong"... personally, I want my DS to love me and WANT to spend time with me, not remember a mummy always too busy for him with cleaning or other people. I think it makes you a better person not having Mummy run around after you, but that's my biased opinion.

[jess_s]

Puppies I am on the same page as you.
Mum has never been very maternal. My big sis has 2 kiddies and at the time seeing her with them thought that maybe she was not ready to be a nanna yet.

10 years later I am pg with her 3rd grandchild and whilst she asks how I am feeling I had to ask her if she wanted to look at my scan pics where I know most mums would be begging to see them.

Mum had alot of pregancy problems so I don't know if this may have something to do with it. It is just frustrating and leaves me a lttle bitter to be honest!

Anyway, glad someone else is in the same boat, even if its a tough one to be in!

[KimB]

I wouldn't worry about her and concentrate on yourself. My mum has never been involved in any of my pregnancies and still doesn't have much to do with my kids. My brother's kids on the other hand she sees all the time. I have had to accept that she will never show much attention to my lot and just get on with things.

It is only later that she will realise what she has missed out on by not being a grandmother to all her grandchildren.