i'm crazy jealous

[Ginger]

ok, i need some support. has anyone else out there gone crazy while pregnant? i have turned crazy jealous. completely irrational and insecure about my relationship for no good reason. last weekend i caused a huge fight with my boyfriend over his ex girlfriend. it was completely uncalled for as he has no contact with her now and is more committed and 'in love' with me than he ever was with her, but for some reason my head is messing with me so badly that when her name came up in a conversation i completely lost it. i've gotten all insecure about his relationship with her and have even had images in my head of him having sex with her. it's like i'm torturing myself and i just can't understand why i am doing this to myself as he is completely faithful and supportive of me. it's like i'm creating something out of nothing and am 'doing my head in'. what's going on?? is this first baby nerves getting to me???/

[~Trish~]

Sounds like good 'ol pregnancy hormones to me! I had a couple of days last week where I would cry for no good reason, I am not normally an emotional person so I knew it had to be those hormones! It did pass though, but I'm sure they will be back. I hope you start to feel better soon.

[littlemissc]

This happens, I had this with my last pregnancy. I told my DH maybe he should get back with his ex as I was insecure about how I looked and imagined that for some reason if we hadn't got married and I had not got pregnant they would be back together.

It is quite simply the HORMONES!! Im really not an insecure person but pregnancy does some really strange things to your body. Last night i had a really odd dream that I slept with some weird old guy from a cooking program on the telly. DH thinks its funny, I find it quite disturbing! lol

Rest assured things do go back to normal after so just try to relax, take a walk or some exercise usually helps.

claire x

[Ginger]

ok, i feel a little better now hearing that. i am feeling really insecure about how i look, and i've had the exact same thought process, that if i wasn't pregnant my boyfriend would leave me for someone else, even though he's never given me any reason to think anything like this!!! i can't wait for the hormones to slow down and for me to start feeling more secure in myself as a person..

[onemore]

Hi Gracie,it`s been a while since I was in your position but I can assure you your not the only one!
Hormones and body change is a huge thing to deal with, and I`m sure you and your baby belly are just beautiful! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

yup, hormones. My DH was telling me today just how awful I was (had my hormonal girlfriends round last night - he was scared of us all!). I didn't think DH was cheating, but I did get annoyed with him for something about 20 weeks along and change the locks so he couldn't get in the house... think that was about a returning to work issue.

Bless those hormones - our emotions are real and we hate being told it's just hormones, but it honestly is just those little beasties messing you around.

[Emma24]

I've been feeling exactly the same Gracie, don't feel guilty about it either just look after yourself, as if we don't have enough to deal with already.

[~Kate~]

My moods have been unreal. I made sure that I explained to my DH that whatever is said during pregnancy should be ignored. I even brought a pair of pyjamas that say Moody Cow on the top with cow print pants.

[Emma24]

I've been feeling exactly the same Gracie, don't feel guilty about it either just look after yourself, as if we don't have enough to deal with already.

See i was feeling like that thinking it was without real reason to believe until he came home last night from work drenched in perfume. I didn't accuse him just asked why? and he explained that the receptionist sprayed him with it after he was a smart *ss to her, then very quickly changed the subject. Either way I can guarantee he is at least flirting with her at at work, funny how they mention men they work with but nothing of the females. It also makes me wonder what kind of female sprays a taken man they've worked with for a month with their perfume? How playful! I spent the whole night unable to sleep and he has the luxury of thinking "pregnancy hormones" Anyway sorry to hijack the thread my rant is over, I hope your worries are completely unjustified and you're just purely hormonal.

[Junglemum]

Glad i read this thread, i have been a bit the same!
My body certainly doesn't look like it used to, i have cellulite where i didn't think you could get it! Don't get me wrong i am over the moon about being pregnant, but i sure don't feel sexy anymore! On top of that DH finds DTD 'wierd' now, like someone is watching! So the fact that he isn't turned on by me doesn't help how i feel about my body!
To add to all that, i guess pregnancy consumes the pregnant woman, but not as much as the partner. i could spend all night feeling my belly move, because it is a strong feeling inside me. But for DH it is is like a little nudge now and then, so he is not as interested in the bump as i would like him to be. I am sure this will change when the bump arrives.

Over the weekend, i had a stupid fight with my DH over an ex girlfried from 12 years ago, who we ran into! They had both had a few drinks, she was flirting with him, he wasn't flirting back, but i felt so insecure. So i picked a fight with DH later! I know it was stupid but as you ladies all say those pregnancy hormones!!!

So i think i need to expect less of my DH, then i wont be dissapointed! i mean this in a positive way!

I hear ya Gracie! Let's hope this is a phase, because i was never like this pre-pregnancy either!

[pansy]

Hi Gracie I have a friend who is feeling totally insecure at the moment in her relationship with her DH and she is in her first trimester.She has absolutely no reson to be like this and we think it's her hormones doing funny things to her emotions...

[Ginger]

thanks for your support guys- my fears are all unjustified, my dh is completely loyal and trustworthy and has been nothing but devoted to me since the day we met- i've just loat the plot somehow! i do feel a lot better hearing other people's stories, because when i tell my non pregnant or single friends they just shut me down and tell me not to be stupid. i think i just know how lucky i am to have him and to be expecting a baby as well, and am just really scared of losing it all iykwim?? anyway, i've been feeling much better the last couple of weeks and i'm heading into my third trimester now which is super exciting- can't wait to meet the little one!

[ej_1974]

yowsers and I thought my dreams were bad .... seriously though, you have a lot of hormones raging thru your body and creating all sorts of havoic with your emotions and you are not alone.
I dreamt my DH wanted a divorce for some random tramp in his office that I've never met nor heard of and I woke up very upset; he was very good about it and reassured me he didn't want a divorce nor was there anyone called Anne in his office LOL! but has has also told me in the 6 or so years we've been together he's never known me to be so moody as when i get pg ... hormones ... gotta love 'em!

[Mrschunk]

Oh some ladies i can relate to.....

We were at the pub the other day and some younger, skinnier tarts walked in and my eyes went straight to DH's to see if he would dare look at them.... he didnt so was very very lucky.

I also have been having heaps a dreams that DH is going to leave me or cheat on me etc and i wake up in a huge panic. He doesnt understand why i am sh*tty with him in the morning hehe.