im hating my belly right now

[Muffy]

thanks rach....

is anyone else feeling the same thing?

[cocobambino]

hey babe, dont stress I think you look fine, your FAR from fat, i feel the same i feel fat but its rounded so i know its not fat but im fat all over YOUR NOT

[fazzamum]

Hi Laura,
i think that we have so many unrealistic media pictures of perfect mums (who have personal trainers, chefs and sly tummy tucks after) that we think we should look perfect like that too. If you look at everyone here with no top on you would see LOTS of stretch marks and flubby skin trust me. I have been pretty slim but have retained a belly since my second baby so I have had lots of people ask me if I am pregnant when I wasn't!!! With my last baby at 20 weeks people were asking how many days I had left!! So if you are small enough to not look mega pregnant at this stage you are doing a fabulous job. I bet you are beautiful - just think of the wonder and forget about reaching for unrealisitc goals. In the end you just want you and your bubba to be healthy.
Stay strong and feel beautiful!!

[Nai]

Laura, I know how you feel although I just feel huge and already have people asking when I am finishing up work and I have 4 months to go!! Some days I just look fat and other I look enormously pregnant so we can't win.

[Shanti]

Oh sweety! You're growing your little baby girl in there, be proud of how you look..... it's the most beautiful thing being pregnant.... I bet you look more beautiful than you realise

I have stretch marks too..... Bio Oil & Palmers Butter did NOTHING for me but who cares... it's a sign we're going to be wonderful mummies

[AliBaby]

Awww Laura.... You are such a beautiful girl and are growing the most gorgeous belly.

It is natural to feel self conscious about yourself and we all have days where we just feel....well...fat. I know I do. I went to a party with DP the other week and someone was talking about this other girl who was pregnant. The pregnant girl said refering to me "Ali's pregnant too" and this other girl goes "oh really" I actually said to her "what did you think I was just fat or something" and she actually said I thought you had just put on a few kilos. I was devestated but didnt show it until I got home.

I realised it doesnt matter what other ppl think but it does matter what I think and saying negative thoughts to myself doesnt help. I am going to order one of those tshirts to wear that have funny slogans on them like "I'm growing a baby...what's your excuse?" I reckon you should get one as well to wear when you are having one of those days where you just dont feel great.

Lots of hugs to you babe. You are beautiful!

[~Kaz~]

Ditto exactly what Ali said.

You don't look fat to me - you look pregnant!

FWIW - I have many many more fat days than pregnant days. I've put on a stack of weight so far and I don't have a prior pregnancy to compare this to. I do know how you feel, I can't wait for my belly button to stop being a crater and for the flabby bits to get fully stretched but I am fully expecting the stretchies to emerge too.

Try to focus more on what's going on inside.

Ali - what a stupid-head!! I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume either she was drinking (so not engaging her brain before her mouth) or that she generally lacks social skills or that she has had little to no prior experience with pregnant people (or perhaps all three?). That T-shirt is a great idea! Where do you get them from?

[SugarDust]

I know how you feel!

I just wish it would all tighten up and look pregnant not just fat!

[AliBaby]

That T-shirt is a great idea! Where do you get them from?

Here are a couple of websites you can order online from (I hope I am able to post them here, if not I am really sorry mods)

Lumpee Bumpee Funky Maternity Wear or bump, under manufacturing process, gifts for new fathers, new mom gifts, maternity apparel, funny maternity t-shirts