thread: I'm in a lull...

  1. #1
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    Nov 2008
    Perth
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    I'm in a lull...

    Hi girls

    I need to have a mid-pregnancy whinge. I'm floating along in a lull at the moment and although things are going really well with Tarko, I'm just so frustrated and sick of counting the days and weeks! I really wish time would go faster but I just feel like I'm stuck in the 20's (ie weeks) forever!

    I feel so terrible for being frustrated about such a beautiful time in my life but I'm just so excited about meeting Tarko that the wait is really doing my head in I'm completely over work too and every day is a real struggle in the office. Everyone is frustrating me often there is no reason for me to be frustrated. I feel so sorry for anyone who dares to email me about work or enter my office - I'm so unpredictiable these days!

    Has anyone else felt like this? I'm trying my best to just look forward to things in the near future like the weekend, my next OB appointment, etc but deep down I just wish I could press fast forward and get to the really awesome bit - meeting our baby!

    I'm guessing this is a normal part of the second trimester. Please tell me it is!!

    PS: and it doesn't help that I just noticed my ticker has suddenly lost 2 days!! I should be 24 weeks and 2 days and we all know that those '2 days' make ALL the difference! LOL

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    Sep 2008
    South West Sydney, NSW
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    Taurean,

    When BB went down on Monday we lost a day on the tickers, I redid mine and it is correct now - maybe you can do the same and then you will get those 2 days back (trust me I know how important they are!)

    With regards to your lull... I think it is normal (well either it is or you and I are both going through exactly the same thing lol)

    I don't realise how I am reacting to something until I get some perspective or 20/20 hindsight - but at least you (like me) are now aware of it and can hopefully catch yourself before you say/do something you will regret.

    One thing that brings me back to reality is when bubs kicks and I feel it (anterior placenta so I might not feel all of the kicks but am feeling more and more each day) - maybe focus on those kicks and movements... as I said it has worked for me so far

    xox

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    Nov 2008
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    Thanks TK - ticker updated. Woohoo!

    I think I just need something to preoccupy my mind a bit more. I'm focussing way too much on the EDD which is just under 16 weeks away - FOREVER! I think my other problem is I normally have a holiday of some sort booked every quarter but as I'm not allowed to travel (strict instructions from my OB due to my low lying placenta), I have nothing else planned to keep my mind busy.

    Tarko is moving lots and I absolutely love it. The movements make me so happy, it's just the frustration of the 'waiting game' that's driving me nuts.

    Right, it's time to think positive and focus on my next OB appointment which is in 2 weeks. They're always fun and exciting.

  4. #4

    May 2008
    Melbourne, Vic
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    I hear your pain - I remember those weeks draaaagging by! Didn't help that I was bored at work too...

    I passed the time posting on BB (lol), talking to Bump, having long lunches, looking at baby clothes and mat clothes online and planning the baby's room.

    The other thing I enjoyed doing was writing down all the questions I thought of between Ob appointments. You know how you get to the Ob's office and go "I had all these things to ask you but I have forgotten!" and then you get home and go "I wish I had asked X!"

    So as I thought of them, I'd write them down in my diary on the page that said "Obs Appt, 2.15pm" so that every time I turned to that page and wrote something down, I'd see the appt and go "ooh exciting, not long to go now..."

    The time WILL pass.

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    I wrote a post yesterday but its not here

    OK so in brief: try to find something else to occupy your mind like re arranging your nursery or researching something baby related (or un baby related) start lists of things you'll need for you hossy stay or meals that can be frozen.

    Take up knitting or something that requires consentration and is time consuming when you first start out (I'd recommend spinning but then you need a wheel and wool and all the stufff to make the wook balls). Maybe even a baby themed counted cross stitch pattern to frame and pop on bubs wall?

    I dunno hun, I didn't get very far into the 20's so cannot really understand your frustration.

    Luv nae x

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    Taurean, because we had issues with the server yesterday as well I had to do another update to my ticker... just thought I would let you know in case you needed to redo yours as well

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    Taurean,

    Not much consolation, but when you have your second one you'll wonder where the heck the time went. Completely opposite to the first.

    I remember sitting there with DS thinking the same thing. This time around I'm thinking I'm in week what?? ALREADY???

  8. #8
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    Apr 2009
    Cowra, NSW
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    Im the same, im only 18 weeks and im already sitting here wishing i was 40 already, but then people tell me its best not to rush it as its all full on once bub is here, i guess we just gotta enjoy the time we have now

    But i am definately feeling the same, and im not even in the 20 weeks yet

    i think im just stressing too much, which is prob wats causing my anxiety and heart racing.

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    Nov 2008
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    Thanks for your thoughts and ideas girls. Well Im 25 weeks today and feeling a lot better about things. I feel like I've crossed another hurdle as I'm on the downhill slide to 30 weeks now.

    Most of the jobs I had on my 'to do' list before Tarko arrives have been done but I've still got my photos (sorting and putting in albums) and my pantry to attack. Today I'm actually sorting my wardrobe - putting the things that no longer fit to one side and grouping all my preggy-friendly clothes together. That should fill in some time.

    Thanks girls, I feeling much better today