Im just wondering what everyone thinks about alot of ppl toucing their belly..
Are you ok with it or is it really annoying? I find it frustrating, My mother In Law feels the need to touch my belly everytime I walk throughthe door and it is becoming quite frustrating, How do I ask her not to do this without sounding too mean?
I never had this problem with any of my pg - I mustn't be very approachable
I actually wanted to show off my bump and have people feel bubs move, but no-one ever tries or asks to have a feel and I think it might be a bit weird if I went around asking others to feel my belly - LOL.
Thats the problem, she doesn't ask she just has to ouch me, even when im at the table eating and its really annoying, I have friends who hve asked me if they can feel it before just doing so and im fine with that, but for some reson with her it is just annoying..
Maybe you feel that way with her because she just assumes she can touch you and not ask!! I really hate it. My cousin does it all the time but doesn't just rub, she pokes and prods it trying to get bubba to move and it's really annoying. People at work and friends also invite themselves to rub my belly! My bubba is clever and he always "goes to sleep" when someone else wants to touch and then everyone's like "oh why isn't he moving!!" My Mum, sister and DP are the only ones that have seen and felt him move - he really is choosy! I just don't feel comfortable with people touching my belly that's all
i find it damn annoying, and have said something to all but one person who have tried it. i'm a very private person, and just get very antsy if my space is being intruded. the one person i didn't say anything to was a family friend i've known since i was a baby - she knows of what we've been through to get here and she was so excited to see us for the first time after we went public with the news we were pg - so she walked up and rubbed my tum. i did say something to my mum (it's her bestie) who mentioned it to her anyway.
the ONLY people allowed to touch me without asking first are DH, and my bro's three kids - they don't do it often, but if i'm gettin a snuggle from them, the littlest in particular, will rub my tum - no drama there
you're not alone in feeling annoyed by it i promise!
BG I find it really offensive too - in fact more like a violation of my personal space and body. Get this, my Mum rubbed my bump a few weeks back, I was giving her a hug goodbye and she just went for it and I have never felt sooooooo invaded ever before. I think because it was unexpected, it didn't really help either. It was just plain weird. So i can't imagine what I'll do if some random person I hardly know tries to!!!
Lolly x
I hate it too. I made my feelings very well known early on though via a funny story.
A lady at my work who I barely knew one day came up to me and started rubbing my belly, quite seductively I thought, while I was on the phone. I was furious so i put the call on hold, and before she could say anything I said "My boobs have gotten bigger too, would you like to grope them too?"
Needless to say she never spoke to me again
I then retold the story quite proudly ta MIL's house and my BIL and SIL took the hint and stopped trying to grope me every time I saw them.
Second pregnancy I also made myself a t-shirt with an iron on transfer that said "NO you can not touch my belly!"
Yes, i had a very sleazy man touch my belly recently.
I moved backwards as i found it uncomfortable, idk if I'm just being sensitive or what but i find that someone no matter how well you know them touching your belly is an invasion of privacy. I'm not one to be touched by people unless I'm close to them like a relative or close friend so idk if its just me or not lol.
There has only been 4 people touch my belly so far...
DP - before I was pregnant I told him he couldn't rub my belly unless there was a baby in there, so now he has free reign of it and I love it
Sister - we were comparing our tummy sizes (mind you she isn't pregnant, can just stick her belly out )
Bestie - she asked but it wouldn't have worried me anyway... we've shared soo many things together and I think at times she is more excited than I am about it all
4yr old cousin - she lifts my shirt up over my belly, rubs it and asks where my baby is with a puzzled look on her face... soo cute to see
If a stranger walked up and touched it I think I would freak... but only time will tell
when i was pregnant i worked in a very social place and staff/friends would touch my belly all the time, one lady would greet my belly when i walked in to the room, rub my tummy and put her mouth right upto it and say hello to the baby, then say hello to me....WIERD!! ididnt even know her that well, she only did it a few times and i had to tell her i didnt like it.
But the biggest violation i experienced was at a friends birthday,there were a few people i didnt knw there and this guy was talking to my, all of a sudden her grabbed my belly, like a basket ball player would grab a ball with one hand,(my belly was quite round) and gave it a really hard squeeze, harder than i would touch it myself, I was so upset, would you grab my baby that hard if i was standing here holding her...NO!!! Told him so too!! what a jerk!
But all the other little belly rubs i just kinda delt with, every one loves a baby and a little pat on the tummy didnt really bother me that much, people are more curiouse than anything, and they were mostly younger people. If a random old stranger had tried it though id have probably been different!
I'm not all that keen on people (other than DH) touching my belly. Before I got pregnant I thought that I'd be ok with it but I'm not.
I work in a psychiatric facility and had a (manic) patient dash up to me one day and start rubbing. She was very gentle but it really upset me, so now I steer clear of that area of work.
Also, a few people at work rub my belly and one girl gave me a hard poke one day to try and get the baby to move. I just stepped away from her and changed the subject of baby talk.
It creeps me out having people touching me and even more so when people don't ask. I feel very protective of this little one.
I also feel uncomfortable with people coming up and touching my belly. Its like someone slaps a sticker on your head and says "im pregnant! Rub my belly!".
I know it's so awful and awkward when people touch your belly, but now I find I have to physically restrain myself from touching friends' growing bellies... they're just so cute!! I'd never do it though because I know how icky it feels, I just sit there staring at it and I'm like, 'Don't touch the belly, don't touch the belly, don't touch the...' I mean no harm, I swear!! I just love baby bellies
I also don't like the idea of being treated like a public buddah... don't rub me for luck! I ain't laughing!!
I'm also not affraid to tell people to back off. Sadly for my DH, that includes him! I don't like my tummy rubbed when I'm not pregnant - a few short months haven't changed that. I really like the "hands off the bump" tshirt idea!!
so far i don't have an issue with people touching my belly. Funnily enough no one really has wanted to even though my belly is enormous. I'm like "it's ok you can touch it". I am just so excited about this pregancy i don't care who feels it. I might feel a tad different after a number of grabs though.
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People Touching Your Belly
My Mum, sister and DP are the only ones that have seen and felt him move - he really is choosy! I just don't feel comfortable with people touching my belly that's all
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I mean no harm, I swear!! I just love baby bellies
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