I never had this problem with any of my pg - I mustn't be very approachable
I actually wanted to show off my bump and have people feel bubs move, but no-one ever tries or asks to have a feel and I think it might be a bit weird if I went around asking others to feel my belly - LOL.
Thats the problem, she doesn't ask she just has to ouch me, even when im at the table eating and its really annoying, I have friends who hve asked me if they can feel it before just doing so and im fine with that, but for some reson with her it is just annoying..
Maybe you feel that way with her because she just assumes she can touch you and not ask!! I really hate it. My cousin does it all the time but doesn't just rub, she pokes and prods it trying to get bubba to move and it's really annoying. People at work and friends also invite themselves to rub my belly! My bubba is clever and he always "goes to sleep" when someone else wants to touch and then everyone's like "oh why isn't he moving!!" My Mum, sister and DP are the only ones that have seen and felt him move - he really is choosy! I just don't feel comfortable with people touching my belly that's all
i find it damn annoying, and have said something to all but one person who have tried it. i'm a very private person, and just get very antsy if my space is being intruded. the one person i didn't say anything to was a family friend i've known since i was a baby - she knows of what we've been through to get here and she was so excited to see us for the first time after we went public with the news we were pg - so she walked up and rubbed my tum. i did say something to my mum (it's her bestie) who mentioned it to her anyway.
the ONLY people allowed to touch me without asking first are DH, and my bro's three kids - they don't do it often, but if i'm gettin a snuggle from them, the littlest in particular, will rub my tum - no drama there
you're not alone in feeling annoyed by it i promise!
BG I find it really offensive too - in fact more like a violation of my personal space and body. Get this, my Mum rubbed my bump a few weeks back, I was giving her a hug goodbye and she just went for it and I have never felt sooooooo invaded ever before. I think because it was unexpected, it didn't really help either. It was just plain weird. So i can't imagine what I'll do if some random person I hardly know tries to!!!
Lolly x
I only had one person who just came up and rubbed my tum when I was preggy with Niki she just did it and I was so taken back nobody else dared too but this woman just did it.
Even my bestie never touched the belly.
I guess one way you could stop it if you were game is when someone pokes and prods and rubs your bump immediately following them (so once their hands are off) do EXACTLY the same to them but it needs to be immediate to have the most effect.
People will not do it again when they realise how intrusive it is. SOmetimes family think its ok to just go ahead so in your case Just say to MIL when you walk in and she goes do touch, "I'd really appreciate it if you wouldn't" before she gets there or simply put your hands/arms over your belly hugging it and make a vline for a chair.
I thought I wouldn't like it, but I actually do like people touching my belly. The only time I don't like it is if I'm wearing white and I don't want it to get any marks on my top. Thankfully to date I haven't had any strangers try, I think that would be a different matter.
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My Mum, sister and DP are the only ones that have seen and felt him move - he really is choosy! I just don't feel comfortable with people touching my belly that's all
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