For me i had to know #2'S Gender because i needed to prepare myself for another girl....so we did and im forever greatful. Downside was knowing i had another girl on the way and found it hard to deal with, but also good cos i was prepared for 20 weeks and could start accepting it. (I really wanted a boy).

#1 is always best left a surprise!

Also....do u prefer a boy or girl this time round? If you want a particular sex i think it helps to find out.

I too wouldnt push your DH....