Hi all thanks for the fantastic advice, my partner is really good about it and does pull her into line but she is really annoyed that i wont let her control me, i had a very controling father and walked away from that and i told her if i wanted to be controled i would let my own parent do it not her. She wont be looking after the baby after it is born as i simply dont trust her, she is a smoker and even now wont stop smoking around me even if i leave the room she follows, and we live with my mum so dp's mum will not visit as my mum and her dont see eye to eye, the only way she will be seeing bubs is in a park or at a family function and there will be no unsupervised visits without myself or dp present, his mother has gotten that bad she called my doctor a bad doctor when she hadnt even met her because i havent had a appointment at the hospital yet, but the thing is the paper work that was faxed while i was still at the doctors surgery didnt go through so it wasnt anyones fault it was jsut a technical glitch and she reckons i cant make good decisions because of it.and she is going on about us not being mature enough and all stiff like that when she was 17 when she had dp, and he wasnt even her first pregnancy, she lost the other one.
Briggsy's girl - i dont take offence to what you said about my age, but i dont think it is just that, my mum and i are really close because for a long time it was just her and me.
DP's parents are just very rude arrogant people, and the worst thing is his grandmother calls us than what ever we have said she rings dp's parents and tells them. it is just too uch drama and so i stay away, she rang dp last night and ask why we havent been out there and he informed her that i wont be going back out there before bubs is born as they are unsafe to be around and that it is not good for me or baby.