Honey, I can relate. I'm 18 weeks now and still struggling to connect. I didn't have this issue with my other two pregnancies but after ds was born so ill and all the trauma that went along with that I'm having trouble believing there's nothing wrong with this bub. I would def recommend counselling. It is helping me so much. Turns out this feeling after LTTTC or birth trauma etc is fairly common but you should absolutely get some help.
HUgs hon, I know how horrible it is.