What made you decide to find out the sex?

[Mum2Romone]

I'm wondering what made others decide to find out the sex of bub at the 20 week scan?

we didn't find out with DS and we wanted the surprise at his birth and it was great!
I thought I was carrying a boy and I was Right lol

I'm wondering, do I want to find out this time!
Incase it's a girl then I can prepare better, since having a toddler I won't be able to just browse the shops after bub is born.....like I did for DS......

Thanks ladies in advance

[aussienic]

I didn't find out with my first 3 babies but for some reason with my last we decided why not! We didn't at the 20 week scan tho we had a check up scan at 32 weeks and just decided to,

Personally I would have prefered the surprise but it was cool finding out.. I love the whole guessing game of pregnancy. makes the weeks pass faster :lo:

[Lisa]

I have only found out with this baby, never with any of my others. My reasoning was that if I am to have a boy, I really need to start shopping for boy clothes. At the morphology scan we asked to find out the gender and the baby was in a difficult position as well as the cord being in the way, so we didn't get a definite answer. We asked again at the 3d/4d scan and it was pretty much the same thing. I had a growth scan done at 32 weeks where we could see more clearly but in my mind I am not 100% sure so I have not bought anything in pink or blue... I've bought some of each!
I have 15 days to go and I figure I will find out then! I love shopping after the bub arrives.

[Beautiful Disaster]

Im a control and organisation freak and needed to know so i could get everything done lol

Just being honest.

[beckoes]

DH is like a kid at christmas and couldnt possibly wait till the birth to find out so we found out with both but didnt tell anyone else with our first with this one we have told a few people.

[~Gee_Whizzy~]

We found out with DD1 because im a control freak and like to be organised for everything We found out with this one for same reasons but also if it was a boy i would've been on to selling all DD's clothes so i could start buying boy stuff. but its another a little princess so all good here

[Rach75]

we had always planned on finding out with Katy but the world had other plans for us
with Jack I needed to know I dont think I could have handled if he had been a girl I was scared he was going to be a girl even though all along I felt he was aboy, Jase left the room and I found out, told no-one
with Luke we didn't find out, and I knew he was aboy gut instinct we were still discussing names as I as being prepped for c-sect I said why are we discussing its a boy LOL

[Danielle_NZ]

We have two boys already but have had to purchase everything all over again and white can be very limiting and I dislike yellow. We knew we wouldn't have the money when the baby was born and we suck at saving so decided that for us it was best to know....

That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it lol

[Tuesday's Child]

DH is very impatient with surprises. With our first pregnancy I would've been happy to be surprised. It ended in miscarriage and when I got pregnant with DD I felt detached so finding out the sex helped me to feel bonded with her. It was just as well. DH had his heart set on a boy and it gave him a chance to get his head around the fact that we were having a girl.

[HotI]

I wouldn't buy just pink or blue for either sex, so buying stuff isn't an important reason for me. Not knowing gives you a chance to be a bit less restrictive in your colour choices- you will prob be given enough blue or pink when bub gets here anyway. My bub wore heaps of funky clothes when she was little, rainbow coloured, grey with stars, greens, purples, orange, blues. Of my fav newborn clothes, none are gender specific

[Feijoa Mum]

I suffered gender disappointment when I found out DS was to be our fourth son so I wanted to prepare myself as I knew those feelings would be back if number five was another boy.

The last two are the only ones I found out the sex with but in saying that if we were to have an "oops" now I wouldnt want to know. Well I say that now because I do love the surprise factor but then again the control freak in me might take over.
Why am I talking like this is an option??? I dont want anymore babies!!

[MrsBexie]

We found out because I wanted everything to be gender specific. So pink stuff for a girl n blue for a boy. I'm not really into neutral colours or green, yellow n purple on babies. Lol. And I am OCD with organising things so I had to know so I could plan and organise her nursery...
And last reason was that I wanted a girl, dh wanted a boy... We found out at 20 weeks ao there was no chance of even a split second of disappointment at birth...

[MrsBexie]

Im a control and organisation freak and needed to know so i could get everything done lol

Just being honest.

Lol love it!!! Me too!

[boobaloo]

i had a really bad pregnancy, especially with ds, and was feeling very depressed etc; i made the choice to find out his gender so that i could bond better prenatally. i found it worked for me, and by the time he got here, i was already completely obsessed with him. we asked at dd's 20 week scan, and they weren't sure, my obgyn did a couple of ultrasounds, cause she liked to put herself in weird positions, and said 'i can't be sure, but i certainly don't see anything dangling'. i always thought she was a girl anyway..

[*Sparklez*]

with my 1st two Ds's i never found out and my x MIL wanted to know but hahhaha he had his back turned and would never let her see LMAO (sucked in) anyways i knew they were boys somehpow i found myself buying all blue without realising it till i set up the room and same with my 2nd ds..
with ds3 i knew he was a boy cause with all pregnancies i would eat ot of ice so i knew but dh wanted to know cause he actually wanted a girl..
and with dd i found out cause i was over suprises and thyis time dh didnt want to know lol
with dd i had the same as you boobaloo!! she was always sitting down in that position and would take ages for any scan till the nurse jiggled her lol

[Dragonbub]

Awesome thread by the way!

We had alot of pressure NOT to find out, mainly from DHs side. We didn't find out with DS, and despite all the anticipation and surprise, it really wasn't much of a surprise for me (like, it was going to be a boy or a girl right? There are not that many other options )

So this time I was definite that I wanted to know. I was a little bit disappointed at first, but then I would have been disappointed (slightly) either way, as whatever we got meant we wouldn't have the other (does that make sense?). Now I am so happy we found out, it really does help me bond with him and prepare DS for a baby brother as he is adament he is having a sister.

All the best with whatever you decide. Either way it is a surprise, one you just get earlier, and the other you get when you have the baby!

[Mum2Romone]

yeah I agree, either way it's still a surprise! DS keeps telling me its a girl too..... Maybe I'll find out for him

[~Hestia~]

I haven't read all the replies so sorry if I'm repeating anyone

I have always said I'd find out the sex of any kids I might have. I like to be prepared, not just with clothes and things but emotionally/mentally too. I like to know what is going on so not knowing the sex would really stress me out!
We also felt we able to bond with Moo before he was born, calling him by his name and referring to him as he instead of it.
Where I live I found there weren't many unisex colours in clothes and bedding etc so it would've been difficult to get his nursery ready.
People kept saying we'd ruined our surprise and the birth day wouldn't be as exciting! I just said that we're having a baby and it's going to be exciting regardless

You have to do what feels right for you, good luck with your decision!