first of all congratulations.

i'm sorry you DH might miss the birth. but most of all im sorry he might miss being there for the first breath.

I do think you will need a support person tho. a friend, family member or Dula whoever you are comfortable with.

as far as bonding goes it can take a mother a while to bond and even longer for a father. as the mother i didn't even get to touch my twins for hours or hold them for days after their premi birth,. it has not affected our bonding at all. i truly believe sometimes there is too much of an enfisis on how your surposed to bond etc and if things don't go to plan than people get worried, depressed etc.
you and your DF will be together with your DD as soon as you can and together you will love and cherish her.

Try not to worry too much, and i really hope yous DF isn't away from you too long.