anyone else feel the same?

[sirenz]

last night, i was sitting there thinking about the impending birth of my son and i just find it so hard to believe that soon i will have a baby in my arms.. it just seems like its all a dream and i will wake up soon..

is it normal to feel this way? Its kind of like i'm in shock already and I don't feel ready to become a mother..

I keep getting all the what if questions in my head.. you know like, what if something goes wrong during labour, what if something happens to the baby, what if i can't cope...

should i be feeling this way? i just find it all hard to believe that I am about to go through all of this and in the end become a mother...

i think i am really, really scared and don't know how to think positive about all of this

[C~Q]

It is so normal! It's a really scary and nerve-wraking time, especially when its your first but even with later kids! You doubt that you will cope and handle it but you will find a strength that you never even knew you had

Best of luck withthe rest of your pregnancy and don't fret, just enjoy your pregnancy and your growing bubba!

[Hoody]

i was alot like that with my DD very anxious i wanted her very much and she was planned but i was doubting myself and also going through the what ifs, i'm sure you will be fine and when he is here you will wonder what you ever did without him.

My 2nd dd is due 25/11

[Amelia]

Oh I can so relate to what you are feeling!! I had a little nerous break down this morning about the exact same thing!! "What happens if I am not a good mother?" Then freaky enough DH called just as I was getting myself back together and he could hear itin my voice and it started all over again but it felt good to tell him as well!! Lol.....I blame the pregnancy hormones!!

[joel's girl]

Im with you on this one..............only set in a few days ago but boy it's being persistant. Im normally such a positive person but I've managed to think of every conceivable problem that may occur next week or so.

I'm ****ting myself and if I mention it to DH he fobs it off saying, "you'll be fine", I know he's trying to be encouraging but somehow my pregnancy hormones interpret that comment as being 'dismissive and uncaring'.

Big hugs to all of us............... it WILL all be worth it I'm sure......(said with fingers firmly crossed and hoping like hell)

[LizzysMum]

Very very normal. My DH also had quite bad anxiety before DD was born. In the vast majority of cases as soon as that little bundle is in your arms it vanishes As Amelia said we are very hormonal at the moment so everything gets exaggerated YK

All the best for you birth - you will be agreat Mum!

[Alan]

Hi Sirenz
Your feelings are normal and very common. Giving birth is always a scary time. Trust in your body it knows what to do

[Mrschunk]

I have also been feeling the same. Not so much about the will i cope or will i be a good mother, but i am definitely still in denial that i am pg (even with a constantly moving bub in my tummy). It feels like only yesterday that we found out we were going to be parents and now it could be any day really.

[luua]

It is very normal. Your hormones and instincts will kick in when bubs arrives. You cant help but take care of them. You end up reading anything and everything you can about how to take care of them.

Its important though you have support if you are sleep deprived. Accept any help (I didnt and it was very tiring) especially after labour because you'll feel like you've been thumped around in a boxing match.

Rest Rest Rest. And you'll enjoy your new bubs more.

Good luck

Ann

[Willow]

Yep, totally normal. This is my second bub (third prg) and it still doesn't feel 'real' to me. I can't actually believe that I will have another baby.

I thought it was the whole m/c and ivf thing that was causing the denial, but it's good to know lots of mums to be feel the same way!

[Delicate_Dove]

Yeah I too am going through this, unfortunatly my husband usually responds with "I dont know how we will cope" which then sets me off on a spiral of "he doesnt think I am capable" blah blah....

in the end i feel more confident about coping then he does about me coping.....

it doesnt really matter in the end , cause this baby is coming and thats that we will have to cope and we will find a way to cope.

but it's certainly scary.

[chon]

I remember feeling that way in the final weeks. I thought 'what on earth am I doing, I haven't even baby sat or changed a nappy in my life!!' I was a bit scared of how short a time you have in hospital and then they send you on your way after a few days with a baby!

BUT, as soon as Maya arrived instinct kicked in and I was so amazed at how I knew what to do and when to do it!! It was such a fulfilling and wonderful feeling. The only thing I was nervous about was bathing but when I got home and was able to do it with no nurses looking over my shoulder and my DP to help me, it was fine.

Don't worry you will be amazed at how you handle everything as it comes from the labour to the birth to bringing up your beautiful baby

[Dragonbub]

Sirenz - I totally feel the same! I am having a particularly hard time at the moment with the impending birth. I keep having dreams that I have to make the decision whether or not to have a ceasar - and now for some reason I have developed a bit of a phobia about it (I am not scared of one, but just would feel really ripped off and disappointed if I had to have one, IYKWIM?). It seems everything I hear is about it being a 50/50 chance, despite having a perfect pregnancy so far.

It does your head in doesn't it?

[sirenz]

thanks everyone for your words of encouragement

i really think its just the hormones talking.. because i have other horrible thoughts.. tooo.. i can't wait to get back to normal lol