Seenabeena - I went to Deb's one. It was one of the first times I met her in real life, and it was really fun. So if there are girls around you from BB that you are getting along well with, invite them too!
I had one, onyl because one fo shane's friends organised it. It was OK I spose, I'm like you, felt really bad about people buying me things. The worst thing was, all these people bought more things when Jenna was born! Probably cause she is a girl though, people love buying girls stuff.

You could always put a swing on things. Have a babyshower tupperware party, or maybe a nappy party if you are looking at doing cloth?

Its nice when people can show you they care.

Fi