Big baby (apparently) - needing some reassurance.

[Pandora]

hav you read up on active birthing positions as well? That would give you more room to fit out a bub if you do have a larger than average (and whats an average anyway - roughly 50% will be smaller and 50% larger!)

[Oorki Galoorki]

im sorry your OB has put this doubt in to your mind!
You are right that your body grows a baby right for your body!

check out the gaskin manouvere(sp) maybe give the info to your ob
it is a change of positon that opens your pelvis up more when bubs is (if it happens) stuck.

I think you know that no good will come out of the scan as they can be soo far off base with the measurements. that i think you shouldnt go....
as it will add more stress and doubt on to yourself about "not being able to birth" your baby the way you want! and that your ob obviously thinks you wouldnt be capable either.

[Ginger]

hi little berlin
is this your first baby?

[littleberlin]

Gosh, are those third trimester growth scans ever accurate at all?! Our doula was actually just talking about the Gaskin manouvre - she is loaning me the more recent Gaskin book (not Spiritual Midwifery) which has a whole section about that in there. I wonder if the incidence of babies getting stuck have more to do with the kind of labour you experience, rather than it just being a matter of having a 'big' baby?

Our OB is actually pretty great...we were also talking about optimal birthing positions, particularly ones that allow for ease in protecting the perineum, and also about taking things slow as I want to avoid an episiotomy...she did also say that a bigger baby is not necessarily going to be an indicator of a difficult or traumatic birth, so it's not all doom and gloom! I think she's definitely in the minority in terms of obstetricians, particularly in that her style is to consult with you, rather than just tell you what to do! Although I hate that I am worrying about it now, at least I have a doctor who is accepting of the kind of hopes I have for the birth. I feel as though I have read so many stories on here of women being told that thet have to birth via c-section due to baby's size, only to discover that their 'huge' baby wasn't really all that huge at all!