Becky23 - i agree with you! i think the whole baby experience is a private thing with you and your hubby.
I had a elective ceasar with my 1st daughter (due to a really tragic family history of natural deliveries). Once i went into recovery i phoned my mum and dad to tell them (they were actually off to melbourne for the day and didn't know i was having the baby, so what a shock they go) and then phoned everyone else about 2 hours later once i was settled back in my room. lucky, we had sooooo many visitors very soon after the phone calls had finished. everyone just come in, they didn't even check if visitors were allowed so it was a bit out of control on day 1.
Even if i had a natural delivery i wouldn't have my mum in the delivery suite, not cause i don't love her, but because of the whole "mum thing".
I'm having another ceasar with our 2nd child in 4 weeks. we have actually had to tell mum and dad this time, we need them to look after our daughter but are not telling anyone else, it's just a nice surprise to get "the phone call". we are also going to tell them no visitors until the evening or on day 2 and we are going to blame the doctor, just our little secret though!!!!
maybe after a couple of hours in labour phone and tell who you want but ask them not to come in until after your ring with news of the arrival.
i hope you and your hubby can agree!!!
take care