I was told that generally an episiotomy is bigger than the tear would have been, and it tends to take longer to heal. but then, I think you'd really need to talk to someone who has had both to get a good idea. My mum had an episiotomy and couldnt sit down for weeks.

Personally, i tore, just 3 small tears not a huge one. I think they wanted to do an episiotomy but then didnt. I dont like the idea of an episiotomy, and I agree with Rachel actually... i woldnt ask for an episiotomy because it might not even be required. I think i would let the midwife/doctor make the call, or at least tell you what they think because theyll be watching whats going on and can probably see if you are likely to tear or not. having said that you might not be in the frame of mind to really think about it at the time either lol.