First timer with anxious DH Help!!!

[neane]

Hi everyone, I haven't been on BB for a long time. Well it's official i just finished work at 30weeks I tried working night duty on the weekend which was great to catch up with everyone but I couldn't keep up with everything then ended up the next day getting admitted to hospital because i got really sick and started to have I think braxton hicks contractions not painful but could really feel my stomach tightening, nothing happened thankgod, but i have been given orders by my gynae and DH no more work. So now i have no idea of what to do with myself and my DH is hovering over me so everytime i move or burp you name it he is fretting. Any ideas of how to make him relax a little would be great. He has even gone to the extent of not working in case something happens and he isn't here for me. I really understand he is worried but this over attention is driving me nuts. We went browsing through K-Mart yesterday just looking at baby stuff which was great but he was literally walking on top of me, i had to ask him to just give me a bit more space. Sorry about whinging but i really just needed to get that off my chest any suggestions would be fantastic, He really is a great DH sorry if i made him sound like an oger.

[Kmn]

Do things with other people wherever you can - that way there is still someone who can get help for you on the tiny chance that things go pear-shaped, and your DH can have a break too. Also if you are going to be "babysat" then at least do as many nice things together as you can, and as many jobs-that-need-doing as possible. Do you have a follow up appointment soon with the Doc - some reassurance that things are back where they should be may also help.
How far away is his work? Can you decide that you are going to have a very un-strenuous day and get him to go back to work for the day? You'll be very glad to have him around when bub comes, so the more leave he uses now the harder it may be then...
good luck
Kate

[Alyssas_Mum]

If he's gonna babysit you then take advantage of it, go to the movies and do stuff together while you can.
Good luck with the next couple of months, wishing you all the best!

[Shanti]

Aww that is so sweet that your DH cares for you so much and is so protective to the put that it's going a bit over the top... he is probably feeling very anxious like you said, perhaps just talk to him and let him know you are coping just fine and that if anything was to happen whilst you were home and he was at work, that you'd call him and he would know about it....

My DH is really relaxed about all this... it's our first bub too. I think because my Dh is a registered nurse too probably helps as medical stuff, pregnant women etc doesn't scare him he's seen it all before but for most husbands it's all very new.... remind your husband that you aren't 'sick' you're just 'pregnant' and that it's a natural thing for a woman and her body to go through

Just talk to him and let him know it's all okay and that he should be saving his energy for the labour/birth as he'll need it then!!

[Snacks]

Oh wow, you haven't made him sound like an ogre at all - he sounds lovely! Dunno what to suggest, other than if he won't listen to you telling him you're ok, will he listen to your OB/MW? Maybe tee them up to let him know it's not necessary for him to babysit you. All the best for your last weeks of pregnancy!