Hi damprye

We waited till birth to find out DDs gender but my oh my did we agonise at times about wanting to know!!! It was hard especially as I had so many scans. But at 30 weeks we were told 'it' had hair and I must admit I was so glad we didnt find out she was a girl. With the tiny snippet of detail like knowing it had hair I felt almost disappointed that I didnt get to wonder anymore did it have hair. Does that make any sense??

My big question to all of you is.... Did you ever had any concerns about the long wait?
YES!

Did you ever swing or hope for one way or the other?
Nah, but we spent a long time TTC, it was our first born and to us it really didnt matter.

Were you ever worried that you might end up ever so slightly disappointed at the outcome?
I did wonder if I would feel a different way depending on the gender. Like I wasnt sure if deep down I wanted a particular gender iykwim.

If you had gender dreams, what gender did you dream and what did you end up having?
I had dreams but there were never any hints!

Did you ever get sick of the constant whinging from other people about them wanting to know?
Yes! Everyone assumed we knew and were keeping it a secret. SO everything we said was picked apart. If an outfit was sterotypically neutral they read into it etc

With names, did you ever want another bub just because you think both the chosen boy and girl name was just perfect?
Not really applicable to us.

Was there difficulty knowing what to buy for bub, especially if there was a sale on, especially since gender neutral items seem to be rather difficult to come by these days?
Completely and utterly YES! A lot of the neutral stuff we bought we didnt end up using as I didnt like it on DD. Our cot set someone commented was obviously for a boy because it was pale blue, green and white.

I know that in the end, as long as I get to hold my baby in my arms, I will be so happy, but these are just a couple of the questions bugging me. I was desperate for DS to be a girl until I had him so I know first hand that it doesn't impact on how you feel towards your lil ones but trying to get the rest of my brain to understand that is the hard part lol.
I cant even imagine how troubling that must be for your brain. When we want something so much and its not how we expect it to be its horribly hard