oh i forgot to add:

get your car serviced
make sure all your tyres are good
anything car wise get checked and fixed, even if service isn'[t due for two months or something

when people ask "what can i do to help" in the early first weeks,
think of that Now and make a list, put it on the fridge
"fill my car up with petrol"
"walk the dog"
"make up a loaf of sandwiches and leave in freezer"
"entertain Charlotte (and list some of her fave things to do, her fave snacks)"
"vacuum car (put everything they find in one shopping bag so you can find your stuff afterwards)
"cut up a box of finger food that you can eat onehanded e.g whilst feeding" fruit is great for this
"when i'm having a bad day, my fave nibbly treat is (insert name and brand of your guilty pleasure)"
"entertain bub so i can have a shower"
"do not wash the nappies unless you have checked with me HOW to do it, it is not like washing clothes"
----anything that may help you when you're in your babymoon, timepoor and having different priorities

Having that list, in a visible place means
other people will see the list (whoever walks thru your kitchen i mean)
when you get put on the spot, visitors asking you, if you feel blank, you can just refer to your list to rejog your memory

if intending to bf
- join ABA
- have the helpline magnet on your fridge
- have the details of a good lactation consultant in your address book
- work out a bf-ing corner (close to horizontal surface for phone, box of stuff you need whilst bf-ing)