How long did u/do u want to stay in hossy for ?

[CinderToriella]

Hi All

curious how long did u stay in hossy for after the birth or how long u would like to stay in for when u have ur baby-if you can choose of course.

I am hoping that i can go home hours after the birth if me and bubs are doing ok, and she is breastfeeding ok.

if i am very tired maybe one night at the most.but i really hate hostpital and would feel much more comfortable being at home .

my mum thinks im silly and a lot of ppl around me seem to think that as im a first tiem mum that i should spend a few days there.

what do u all think? i would love to hear what stories

[BhoysGirl]

I was in hospital for 5 days after DS, and I loved it. It gave me a chance to focus 100% on BFing, and general baby stuff, without having to worry about cooking/cleaning etc. Plus the food in my hospital was great

I'm planning to stay for as long as I can this time around too - for the same reason that it means I really only have to focus on new bubs. And for the food...

[hj1981]

I too was in hospital for 5 days and certainly wouldn't of liked to have been in there any shorter! as it was i still hadn't mastered the art of BFing when i left! but was more than happy getting outside in fresh air and to be in own bed (even though that was never for long)

2nd time around im hoping to do the same, this time to master bfing and to have some one on one time with bub alone!

[diannescruffy]

With my first I was in for 4 days but with the others was home the next day.

Regards,
Dianne

[~Hestia~]

I was in hospital for 1 night & that's only because DS was born at 5pm, otherwise I would've gone home that day.
I was lucky to have my own midwife that visted everyday & my DH was home too. Plus I had a fully stocked freezer so basically didn't have to lift a finger
If you do go home early, just make sure you stagger your visitors out. I did find that we were inundated & that wore us all out. In hindsight I would have no visitors for the first week!!
When I first told my DH I planned to go home the day of the birth, he was against it. But once I explained my reasons & he thought about it he felt the same.
My reasons were that I wanted to be in my own bed, I wanted my own wonderful shower & bath, I didn't want to put up with room mates or their visitors, I wanted to eat what I wanted when I wanted it, didn't want to waste DH's days off in hospital, didn't want DH to have to go home & just basically be in my own space surrounded by things that make me happy & comfortable.
Good luck!!

[hj1981]

With my first I was in for 4 days but with the others was home the next day.

Regards,
Dianne

was that by choice? could you of stayed longer?

Sorry shell1 - hope you don't mind me asking that question!

[Lisa]

DS1 - 4 days (forceps birth & episiotomy)
DD1 - 12hrs (born at 11:55pm so thought I would get some sleep and go home next morning)
DS2 - 5 days (difficulties with BF and with DS losing weight)
DD2 - 4hrs

[Rainbow_Mumma]

DS - 2 days could have left the next day but after his passing i just wanted some time on my own
DD1 - 3 days due to her losing weight
DD2 - 5 days due to c/s

[MummyTummy]

5 days - I had a C/S but like BhoysGirl I really wanted to stay there that long. I was in a Private Hospital and my room was big and spacious like a hotel room, the food was great and it allowed me to focus solely on my baby and ask any questions I needed to at the time of thinking them. We had issues starting BF too, if I had have gone home I am sure I would have given it all up as a bad joke. There was a B/F room there at the hospital that always had an LC on duty and I could escape there when the visitors got too much, and I knew that I was getting expert advice for my particular situation.

But in saying all that, if you really hate hospitals and want to go home then that is exactly what you should do. As long as you and baby are healthy enough of course. I think if you are in an evironment where you feel uncomfortable it will impact negatively on your bonding experience with your baby. I know people that went home hours after the birth and they had excellent follow up care over the next few days. Just make sure that you are going to get the follow up care you need.

I wish you well in whatever decision you make!

[kitten2b]

DD1 2 days
DD2 24 hours

but both girls were in hossie for another 4 weeks as they were both premmies so it felt like I never left

[squidipa]

I was in hospital for 5 days after DS, and I loved it. It gave me a chance to focus 100% on BFing, and general baby stuff, without having to worry about cooking/cleaning etc. Plus the food in my hospital was great

you sound like me haha i stayed 6 days with all my kids think maybe 7 with oen first born was vb and it was 6 days i was a heavy bleeder... the nurses offered and i took it with both hands i needed it..

second time round was the same but i had c section and had some troubles recovering.

third and 4th well with kids on top and home to be concerned about i socked up that every moment i could have with me and bub as i knew after csections again i would not be able to recover well at home. As its hard to rest with other kids.

[Cassius2]

i was in 4 nights with DD. felt that after the 3rd night i was going a bit stir crazy and felt a bit 'lost to the world'. but have to say that it was good to be there for the milk coming in as i had a LC and midwife to guide me through the mega-boob madness.

[Cadence]

Hi,
I was in for 3 days with my DD, had a c-section and I asked to leave a day early, could have stayed an extra night but wanted to get home and feel more comfortable.
This time I have been told that the average stay is 48 hours for a vaginal birth and 72 hours for a c-section.... am not sure I am kind of thinking I will get more rest in hospital whereas if I were to go home I might be tempted to do too much too soon particularly with DD to run after. I guess I will see how comfortable I am in hospital!
You do what you feel is right for you.

[NaeNae]

i was in for 2 nights and tbh i wished i could have stayed in longer - at least until my milk came in on day 4 and to get more "supervised" time with dd. personally i thnk they kick mums out far too quickly.

[MummaSue]

I'm with you Shell, I want to be in and out as quickly as possible. I hate hospitals and leaving my care in the hands of others. Stupid I know but that's how I feel.

I am sure that will all change when I have a little bundle in my arms that I don't have a clue what to do with though

Sue xx

[Linzy]

3 days with DS, due to a bit of blood loss. Had my own room though and the food wasn't too bad

But this time I wanna be in and out as soon as possible as I have problems sleeping so if the other ladies in the ward snore I'll never sleep without tablets! So I really hope I either get my own room and no blood loss so I can come home asap. See how we go

[Miss E]

I was in for 5 nights (had a ECS) and am really glad that I was. As a new mum it is really hard to get breastfeeding going and work it all out (especially when the baby blues hit on day 3), DH and I found the help of the midwives over those first few days invaluable. Also I found it good for bubs too, he became jaundiced on day 3 (yep right when the baby blues hit) and because the midwives noticed it (before I did) we were able to get on top of it really quickly and he didn't have to be admitted to SCN for light therapy.

So I guess my advice is stay as long as you can, the first day or two I was walking on air, but then the curve balls started coming on day 2 and 3 and it was great to have the help of the midwives.

[Indadhanu]

I had hoped for a natural intervention-free birth, and wanted to stay for as short as possible - only one night, if that. I registered for the early discharge program.


As it turned out, I had a hard labour and emerg. c/s. I stayed 3 nights after the birth (which was at 5.15pm), and that was so long enough for me I was just wanting to go home and be in familiar surroundings. We would have been home after the 2nd night but Jazz was jaundiced and they wanted to be on top of it rather than let us go home and then possibley having to readmit her.
I had midwives visit me for about 2 weeks. I had a really good MCHN visit in hospital and showed Shel and I breastfeeding techniques, and Shel helped me get it right at home. Midwives were overworked and understaffed so I rarely saw anyone between my routine checks anyway even when I pressed the button. I had my own room but just wasn't comfortable.

I've spent some time in hospital before, and not good memories. I also lost my grandfather two days before Jazz was born and I just felt very cut off from Shel and family being stuck in hospital and I jsut wanted to be home and grieve. Those two things might have also factored into it too.

Next time I would love a home birth so I don't have to be in hospital at all. Or to be in hospital for only as long as medicaly necessary. 5 days would be too much for me. But play it by ear, you never know how you'll feel.