Hubby is going away before I am due and I am freaking out that he won't be home before I go into labour! Most people say they were 'late' with their first bub, but obviously there are those that go against the grain and have their first bubbies early.
How many weeks pregnant were you when you had your first baby?
DD1 I was 41+2, DD2 I was 40+1, I am thinking DD3 might be nice and come a few days early!! Good luck hun, how long before your EDD should he be back? Mine gets back 6 weeks before my EDD from a 3 month training course.
He's away for 3 weeks overseas and he'll be back only 4 1/2 weeks before my EDD! (35 wks + 5 days)
Does anyone have any tips on how to keep my little bubs inside me for as long as possible? I've heard that being totally relaxed helps - anything else? I'll accept any advice - witchcraft, hocus pocus, grandma's secrets to a long pregnancy etc. I know most people are ok with bubs coming a bit early but not when their hubby is out of the country!
Alioops - a 3 month training course... wow. Is he back for a weekend or 2 during that time?
Last edited by Megsy; February 7th, 2009 at 05:18 PM.
If bubs comes more than 3 weeks before your EDD it will be officially classed ad Premature. If bubs is premature that is a medical emergency and if DH is away as defence (I think you once said he was) then they should send him home ASAP. Meanwhile it is worth setting up a support network incase bubs does want daddy home before he is supposed to be, but I honestly think that he will be home in plently of time.
I had my DS at 34wks, one day before I was to offiaclly start Mat leave. My DS decided to try and make an early entrance at 32wks. I was getting very uncomfortable contractions every 2 hrs for 12 hrs before I went to get checked out. They stopped the contractions with medication, but my Cv continued to ripen and DS head cound be felt on VE. Waters broke 10 days later, DS was induced 4 days later. I was happy to be induced, but I was not showing signs of infection so could have held him in for longer if I had wanted.
I agree with Alioops though about your DH getting emergency leave if you go into labour early. Just make sure you can either contact him or know who to call if he is uncontactable.
Thanks girls. Actually, DH is away overseas with friends and is not there for work (which makes it a bit harder for me to deal with!). He organised the trip before I fell pregnant. In fact, I was supposed to go too, but obviously can't now. At the time he paid for it, I was trying to be brave and told him I was fine with it all. The worst thing is that he is going to be on the move so it will be tricky for me to contact him if something happens early, and he needs two flights to get back home.
As for other support people, my best friend is away with her husband and kids for the same 3 weeks as DH (Nth Qld - I'm in Brisbane) and my other close friend has just had twins, so counting on her is not realistic. My mum passed away many years ago and my MIL lives 3 hours away! I have no sisters or SIL's that I can count on either. So it is down to a third friend to be my support, but she has a lot of her own commitments (2 kids, pregnant, has small business).
In your situation, have you considered a doula? At least then you have someone you can count on for support regardless of which family/friends will be available?
I am sure that there are plenty of BB members that would be willing to help hun. I know I would if I was down there. Head to the meetups hun, and get your village to work for you
I'll be around Except between the 27th of March and 8th April though which is probably that window of time that you're most worried about... darn - I love attending births and I want to be a doula too! Sorry - I realise this isn't actually a very helpful post...
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