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    Trying really hard not to cry right now....... 4.15am and I just cannot take the snoring any more



    Sunday is the big night. Induction at 7pm and although we changed hospitals purely so DP can stay with me I am at breaking point. I am going to have to tell him to go home because although I cannot get to sleep without him I cannot sleep a whole night with him either (I know once bubs is here I wont get a whole night but I imagine being awake with his snoring in between cries). I am not the most assertive person in the world either and just dont know how to tell him without him getting peeved at me.

    Well I just needed to vent..... I'm off to attempt to get some sleep on the couch..... AGAIN!!! I would really just like one full nights sleep before bubs comes and I never get one again!!!

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    wake him up and tell him to sleep on the couch

    I poked my DH a number of times last night and made him roll over..

    Good Luck for Sunday

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    I would wake up hubby too and send him to the couch. Has his snoring ever been assessed? He may have sleep Apnea something that may be worth investigating at the GP's.

    Good luck!

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    Can you buy him one of those nose things from the chemist that are supposed to stop snoring? Allegedly I snore sometimes!! DH just pushes me in my sleep (or sometimes more roughly) and turning over stops it , I find when DH snores he doesn't even remember that I've disturbed him and made him turn over so he doesn't get annoyed.
    Good luck with the hospital, DH stayed with me when I had DD2 and it was actually not a good idea cause he kept getting angry that she was waking him and he had to go to work so I ended up pacing the corridors with her and the nurses got upset.

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    I have a chronic and very very loud snorer here too - so I feel your pain babe. He still can't understand why I choose to sleep in the spare room most nights when he refuses to wear his ventilator (to prevent him from snoring - but he even snores through that).

    Does he stop breathing, or is it just the snoring? Mine stopped so I could use the excuse that I was concerned about his breathing and pack him off to the doctor. Might be a bit late for you now though.

    I've tried to think of a way to help you say it nicley but I can only think of being nice but blunt.
    I know he's not asking for feedback, but there's a technique called the sandwich technique where you give positive feedback, then the negative feedback, then finish up with positive feeback. The theory is they are better able to take in the negative feedback if they don't hear it straight up.

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    Everyone tells me he should be the one on the couch..... I actually think we are finally getting a bed for the spare room today (I asked him if we got one would he use it). I can't tell him to go to the couch - its that assertive problem. I just wake him again and again and hope he will leave on his own accord but after awhile I just get up if he doesnt.

    He went to a specialist a few weeks ago and we are still waiting on a referral for a sleep study (how long does it take to write a referral???) He doesnt stop breathing, its definately just snorning but he even snores on his stomach. They have warned us it will be one of two operations to clear more room in his airways but we wont get in to have it done until mid to end of 2009...grrrrr

    We have tried everything excepot a mouthguard - nose rings, snore strips, sprays in fact we have even done combinations of them and some nights it helps - its a softer snore that I can sleep through but its almost like it wears off after a little while and its back to full blown snoring.

    It took me an hour and a half to get back to sleep last night and to top it all off next door have a new dog that has taken to yelping at all hours of the day and night so I was up again early listening to the dog which I so nicely want to choke!!

    I really just needed a vent I feel like such a whiney cow now.......

    Thanks for the GL's as well. I am actually quite scared, I didnt think I would be but I am.

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    I know its not funny but i cant help but laugh, my partner snores and im forver kicking him, squeezing his nose, covering his mouth, sticking a pillow on top of him just to shut him up.

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    My DH snores and I shake him till he rolls over. It stops for a while...I spend a bit of time on the couch too *sighs* During my last PG when I had SPD probs he slept on the couch.

    Get yourself some earplugs You probably shouldn't wear them once bub is born but at least you will be well rested before the birth!

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    My DP is a really loud snorer too and he's mortified when I tell him that he's really loud. I've had to wake him up properly to get him to stop sometimes. Sinus spray sometimes helps. If he's had a glass or two of wine with dinner, the snoring is awful.

    And I have the yapping dog next door problem too. I ended up getting those soft earplugs just so I could get some sleep after months of just putting up with it. After a really bad week of no sleep, I caught the owner as she was going up to her house and told her that I couldn't take it anymore. I asked her to move the dog to the other side of her house as she had it chained up to a tree next to the fence on my side. She was good about it and moved the dog to a different part of the yard so it's not quite so loud. Some people shouldn't have dogs. Mine rarely ever barks, certainly not for no reason, nor has she ever howled. But then I don't keep my dog chained up all day and night.

    Good luck with solving your no sleep problems!

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    my DP snores when he lays on his stomach... i ALWAYS wake up (not in the best of moods) and tell him to roll over or he can go sleep outside!! lol have u tried the stop snoring things they have at the chemist??

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    I feel your pain! We have tried everything and my DP still snores!

    I have also spent many nights on the lounge - I just can't seem to wake DP up enough for him to get his lazy a$$ out of bed and downstairs!! It's just easier for me to get up and go instead!

    I'm sorry I can't offer you any suggestions, but I can sympathise with you!

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    Oh yeah, I can relate!! I start to feel really cranky if I can't get back to sleep in a reasonable time and start to simmer and boil about it. I sometimes end up in tears too cos all I want to do is get some sleep! I stress then and make it harder for myself. This morning...lol... I said... do you HAVE to keep me awake!??? lol... *ahem*. I am lucky though as DH always goes to the spare room. Lately it's almost a habit I think, he wakes around 3ish and goes downstairs ..lol. I don't really have any suggestions which haven't already been made. I think though that it's not a matter of being assertive, but maybe asking him if he'd mind getting up. When bubs is born, is bubs going to be sleeping in your room with you? If so, that's the perfect reason for you to stay and him to go All the best hun

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    I say if my DH is able to poke me the last few nights, as I have a cold, and tell me to roll over then you have all the more reason to do the same.

    You need to build up a little courage and just say that the snoring is becoming too much and although you would much prefer the idea of having him sleeping next to you, you simply need some rest so would he mind sleeping on the lounge or in the spare room for a few nights to allow this to happen.

    Probably a little late considering your induction tomorrow night but you really should say something at least for tonight so you are rested and ready for your big day tomorrow.

    Take a deep breathe, go to your hubby and tell him what you are feeling.

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    Darl, you need to get him to agree to sleep on the couch BEFORE he goes to bed. No-one likes to get someone to shift in the middle of the night. But you really do need your sleep. You're not being selfish, just practical.

    I slept on the couch for quite a few nights when I was pregnant because DP has a tendency to sleep diagonally in the bed (God save me) and I needed to lie straight because I had a dodgy back. So instead of having a row, I would just sleep on the couch. But the final straw was when he let me sleep on the couch and 'forgot' that he had the day off the next day!!!! I was ropable and would never EVER be that selfless again.

    But you will be pleased to know that I think the snoring actually helps babies sleep better. DP often sleeps in the spare room because he's a shiftworker but DD always seems to sleep for longer if he's in the main room snoring his head off with us.

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