Massive arguments with DH about to circumcise v's not to

[Tuesday's Child]

Hi again, thanks firstly for the replies.

I have myself tried to inform myself either way, if a little bias on my part. And i have tried to get DH to look at my info but he is reluctant to take it in as DH feels that he himself can't articulate the reasons why it shld be done other than to tell me he is a man, which is not good enough for me.
I feel it is my duty as a parent to protect my son and give him the opportunity to make the choice to have his skin removed if he wants it done.
Of course if there was some anatomical issue with his penis such as phimosis (tight skin) which is quite rare, and why would i authorise such a procedure Just in case??, then if he did have that problem i am more than happy to have the procedure done pain free sounds good too!!
Anyway my main thing is i think it shld be his choice, its his body.
And yes Aligater, DH is circumcised....

Thankfully we don't have this issue as DH isn't circumcised so doesn't want any boys that we may have done (unless necessary).

I just want to add that I agree with Just Me about not arming yourself with more information. Maybe gather together some, give it to him and let him look at it in his own time. But I wouldn't be going to your doc and getting him to explain the risks to your DH either as it may just make him feel like he is being ganged up on. If he is already having trouble articulating his reasons bombarding him with more information may just overwhelm him and make him more stubborn.

[love.tillie]

Hi again mum's,
We are agreeing to disagree at the moment. But it is pretty much all i'm thinking about of course. I'm a bit lost..

[xXHopeXx]

im lucky that my DH is in the same view as me, as he isnt Circumcised, and didnt see the need to have it done on our son (if/when we have one), but i think the suggestions that a couple of the girls have come up with are very good.

maybe say to your DH that if he can come up with PROPER reasons and research also benefits AS WELL AS risks (of both the procedure and tools, equipment, aferwards, etc.) to get your son circumcised (other than "just because") you may be more willing to participate?

this might make him think abit harder and do some research about it, and may actually make him realise how brutal it can be. for medical reasons, i agree to get it done, other than that, i find it cruel that they do it with no medication and he's so little!

like some of the other mums said, just their DH's doing RESEARCH about it, and realising what it actually involves, and telling him that IF (big if that is) you ended up agreeing to get it done, he is the one to hold your DS and be with him during the procedure, not you, might actually be enough to make him realise that its not something that should just be done "because".

but i also agree with OP about not shoving info down his throat, maybe just make the comment that you want HIM to research PROPER reasons why he wants it done, and that if it were to happen, he would be the one to be with him etc. and give him time to do the research, then see what happens?

from what i understand, there can be different medical and physical rammifications later in life of circumcision even if the procedure were to go well too?

very tough situation though hun its always going to be a win-lose situation so i understand the need to go about it carefully because noone wants to be resentful at their partner over things like this