Not all OBs are terrible

[Floweryfields]

Maybe I should have been far more detailed in my original post and included a whole heap more of my personal history as I've now done. I thought it was enough to say hey, I've got a great OB. Lucky me

It should be enough and you shouldn't feel a need to explain yourself or meet anyone's expectations but your own.

[RhiChiChi]

I see you live in Perth, because I could have sworn we are talking about my OBS in Melbourne!

I am extremely comfortable and happy with mine too. He was my OBS for my DD and I decided after much careful thought into what type of model of care I wanted (I chose private hospital again) that I'd see him again & I am so glad I did. I too don't get rushed in any of my appts, he went through my birth notes and his notes when I saw him for my DD. We talked about the decision I had to make in relation to where I wanted to give birth (which hospital) and how I wanted to give birth (I had an emerg. c-sect with DD). We talked about risk of VBAC (uterine rupture etc..) and repeat c-sect. Told me I had plenty of time to decide or change my mind (I have chosen VBAC). If I change my mind & decide c-sect he said that is my choice, however is cheering me on for a VBAC and as he said if I don't give it go, I won't know. I also talked about my choices in hospital being respected by him & the midwives & that they are all on the same page (in as many circumstances as they can be) and what the % of successful VBAC is at the hosptial I have chosen - all answered honestly & frank.

I wish you all the best for your upcoming birth & it sounds like you are in great hands!

[sahbear]

I have a very similar ob, and will go with him and the same private hospital when we decide to have number 2!
We had a wonderful experience from all caregivers, and made an experience which I was completely freaking out about wonderful and empowering! (I was so scared about it all, I had convinced myself I would never ever be pregnant again, now I cant wait!)

I am so grateful to have found a "good" one!

Good luck with your upcoming birth, looking forward to reading your BA!


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[Cranky Kitten]

Yay for good Obs and more to the point, having a good relationship with your ob where he knows what's on your mind and vice versa.

I'll say I was very glad to have my ob there when it all started to go pear-shaped during DS's birth and am grateful for all his expertise and assistance that kept me from needing a c-sect in the end.

[BlackRose]

My OB is awesome too. Just saying

[onthefly]

LuluHB, you're happy with your OB and the care you're getting. I'm glad to hear it.

I don't think you need to justify this at all. I do think maybe the title of the thread made it seem like you wanted to have a go at the haveagoers, and may have invited some comment.

[AwesomeFoursome]

When i was pregnant with DD3 I had a terrible OB at our local hospital, would end up in tears every time I seen her, it was her way or no way. However when I went in to have DD3 I had a wonderful OB. I ended up having a c-section which was hard after 3 VBs but I know the OB did all he could and waited as long as he could before talking c-section. I had my midwife and student midwife with me plus the 2 midwifes from the hospital who all agreed with the OB so I know he didn't just jump into it lol. He gave me a chose and listened to what I wanted. I'm glad you got a good OB. It will all be over soon and you will be holding your beautiful baby.

[Sagres]

I love my Ob, I'm glad you've got a good one also! I think my ob was one of the ones cheering the loudest after DD2's smooth drug free arrival, she said I should get a crown and a gold star and I should tell EVERYONE how well it went

I also think that tarring all Obs with the same brush is unnecessary and unhelpful. These are very highly trained professionals with years of experience that we can't assume to replace with some reading on the internet. I think we can research and compliment that years of training but not replace it.

But I can definitely see how they get a bad wrap. Of course there are the Obs that are the bad seeds.
I was a private patient and hand picked an Ob who was I was going to work well with and help me get what I wanted, but I can totally see that many women going through a public system mostly see midwives (which is a good thing!) and only see an Ob when things go pear shaped. And no one is going to feel warm a fuzzy about the person who had to take action when things have gone pear shaped. Like another poster has said, they are the ones trained to handle things when they go wrong, so by virtue of that they are going to handle a lot of situations where things haven't gone to plan and there is a lot of ill feeling.

[Charlotte91]

I'm glad your OB is great. sounds like he knows what he's talking about and knows you really well.

I have a good OB this time, after having a nightmare of OBs last time, I know how important a good one is.

Can't wait to see your BA and will be silently stalking.

All the best for the coming days/weeks.
xx

[k4t]

I'm glad you're happy with and trust your OB LuLu. Yay for all the great OBs out there.

I'm sorry some people in this thread have made you feel like you have to defend and justify your trust in your OB. Overall this is a pretty open minded and respectful forum but it's certainly not perfect.