Thanks for your support Glamourcide. I am positive things will improve, i just wish i could get a little bit of the pleasantries out of this last part of my pregnancy!

Thanks for your advice LaDeeDa. It is reassuring to know that someone else made it through this kind of thing. I know you are right about things taking time to get back to normal after ceasing drinking. And i am so very proud of my DH. We even had a wedding for close friends on the weekend, and he didnt even consider a drink for a second.. he has just become a mega coca cola addict! You are also totally right about the 'provider' thing, as with his loss of job and income and the trouble with the mortgage etc, it is all alot of pressure. I am trying to encourage him to talk about it, but unfortunately he is not a talker.. not to anyone... and his parents have passed, which is even harder for him. I'm trying really hard not to be selfish about stuff and i am being so encouraging towards him every day, you know, telling him that i think he is wonderful for going out there and finding a job so quickly, even though it isn't what he wants to be doing and it isn't fun or exciting.. and that i am so proud of him for getting through the wedding without drinking and for each day that he is sober. I just hope he bonds well with the baby.

Tomorrow is a little test. It is our first antenatal class (we are doing a 2 day crash course over 2 x saturdays) and i think it will be an indicator of his level of interest in the baby stuff, which i think to be honest he just feels a bit left out of really, because he is male obviously and it is not happening to him.

I'm going to stay positive and hope that things improve with time. There is no point in adding extra pressure to our situation... afterall sex isn't everything i suppose (although damn it is good when i get it hahaha )!