Stressing My Self Out..

[Jakabella]

Hey Ladies,

Am struggling a bit at the moment.
I have myself all convinced since someone said to me "gee your small for 29 weeks" that there is somtihng wrong with bubs and that he/she should be bigger??
I know there is no "uniform" size as eveyone carries differently - I just cant shake this feeling of dread. Bubs is kicking around like normal and I have no reason to belive that anything is wrong either.
My OB has been happy with the way eveything is going and I have another appointment on Monday so I will raise my fears.
I have my 31 week growth scan on Tues 30th and I am petrefied that they will say bubs is under size and something is worng... I cant shake this feeling.

Thanks for listening!

Love to all
Kate

[Nai]

Kate - I wish people would shut their stupid mouths sometimes! Why is it ok to comment on a pregnant woman's size when it is rude any other time? Grrr! Everyone is different and if bubs is active and your OB is happy then I'm sure it is all ok.

[Jakabella]

Thanks Nai,
I know its going to all be ok - im just getting a bit paraniod I guess.
Thanks so much for your kind words - helps alot!
Kate

[Nelle]

People make all sorts of thoughtless comments. Someone said a similar thing to me, 'wow you're small! I hope nothing's wrong!'

So while I knew in my head that things were okay, I also was uneasy.

Here are some reasons why people carry small. I'm sure people will be along to add more.

- you're tall (more space for baby to fit without pushing outwards)
- you or your partner are small (so the baby might just be small like it's parents!)
- you're carrying bub more against your spine
- it's your first baby (stomach muscles hold everything in very efficiently)
- you were very slim/underweight to start with

Anyway - the bub where people commented on my size - ended up being 9.4lb! That's not small really. I just was slim, and it was my first baby.
I know it's easy to worry, but remember that if your bub was too far behind dates (mine would be behind, then have a growth spurt where I felt extra tired and then would measure ahead of dates), then your ob would have said something. Take comfort in the thought that pregnant women everywhere get these silly comments.

[Jakabella]

Thanks Nelle!
It is my first bub so I really dont know how big / small I should be.
My midewife siad that bubs will grow the most in the last month so I guess I have pleanty of time in that regard.
I dont think im that small - but again being my first have no bench marks! I feel like stalking any preg woman and asking how many weeks she is and comparing - but that would do my head in as well I think!
Thanls for your advice has made me feel better!

Kate

[Tobily]

Aw Kate - everyone, and I mean everyone - gets at least one comment when they're pregnant that they are either too small or too big for how far along they are.

Honestly, people just can't keep their mouths shut and unfortunately this commentary on your parenting continues until your children are grown

If your OB is happy then there is nothing to worry about. Trust me hun, if there was any concern about your baby's size whatsoever your OB would be the first one, all over it. Don't worry, just enjoy this wonderful time in your life (and practice selective hearing! )

[[M]umma[M]ia]

aww hun! god some people really **** me!! ur bub will be fine. I have measured the same for the past 5 weeks and my bubs still growing (i had a growth scan done). dont stress... just tell them ppl where to go.

[Jakabella]

Thanks Tobily!
Im trying to just enjoy the last 8 weeks or so of my pregnancy! I will certaily practice my selective hearing tecnique!
Kate

[Jakabella]

Thanks Hollye!
I wish I could tell this person where to go - but she is one of my bosses! hehehehe
Thanks hun!
Kate

[[M]umma[M]ia]

thats the thing with bosses.. they think they can say and do what they like. grr they **** me. people just **** me today! lol

[MrsB26]

Others peoples comments can be just plain rude. I am sure everything is just fine. I have has all the way through this pregnancy comments about being so small :shrug: what can you do?
I actually had someone say to me last thursday "OMG you are HUGE!" i was like- i beg your pardon? - and she went "imagine how big you're going to be at the end if your're this HUGE now!"
WTF? obvioulsy this girl has neer been pregnant herself but tbh it hurt more that she said i was huge rather than all the small comments i have been getting.
Just try to ignore it or say something witty back (if your unlike me and can never think of anything)

[Nelle]

I dont think im that small

Haha, I was like that too, and I always remember to ask people how they feel now - because I felt HUGE, I was uncomfy, I felt fat, ugly (you know, that's the bad days of pregnancy for you :P), and people were saying 'oh you're tiny, wish I'd had a neat comfortable package like that'.

Comments like that just invalidate how a pregnant person is feeling, I hated it, because they said it like it was praise and I should graciously accept their comment like 'oh yes, thankyou, yes I am small, I did it deliberately, and of course it's comfortable, what sane 30 week pregnant chick wouldn't be comfortable?'
Dorks.

Anyway, I'll stop having flashbacks :P and remind you again, DON'T let comments worry you if you weren't worried before and your carers aren't worried.

[SamiH]

This is my third and I feel huge - but I have had good size bubbas too - people like to tell me I look big too - i dunno what is worse - too big or too small ...

This is your first so you probably have lovely tummy muscles still pulling everything in (jealous ) - good support for you and bubba - don't stress and rely on your carers.

[CathieW]

HI
Don't listen to what people say, people can be soooooo rude. Baby is kicking and your Ob is happy. Don't worry.

Cathie

[Jakabella]

Thanks ladies!!
I feel heaps better and I hope I can start to give myself a break!!
Thansk for all the words of wisdome and sharing all your own experiances!

Kate

[Devon]

Hi Kate

What is it with people? We had a lunch with DH's family the other week, and they hadn't seen me for a while, and all I got was a crowd of people standing around me exclaiming over and over again how small I was. I said I thought I looked quite big and they kept going - 'oh no, you're so small'. Thanks a bunch! This was before my 20 week scan and I was worried I was too small and there was something wrong. Of course everything was fine, and they were just blabbing out the first thing that came into their heads. It ruined the rest of the day for me though.

So I really do sympathise, even though I'm not as far along as you are. And if your OB is happy then everything is fine!

I really can't understand why a woman's body suddenly becomes public property when she's pregnant.

[satya]

I know how hard it is, but try not to stress.

I was continually being told how small my bump looked by friends & workmates. I even had some workmates who didn't even realise I was pregnant and I was well into the third tri - I had to tell them.

I had a growth scan at 32 weeks and I was really worried that he'd be tiny. I worried for nothing. He was normal size but the sonographer said "he's not going to be a tall cherub". At that stage I was told I'd have about a 7 pound to 7 and a half pound baby. He was 7 pound 13 at birth. I never expected to have a bub that size as both my DF & I were smaller than that at birth & my bump just never got that large.

I'm living proof that bump size does not relate to baby size.

[Alyssas_Mum]

I wouldnt worry. i know easier said that done. I got told i was huge by one person and tiny by the next, as long as your doc is happy and you are happy then there is nothing to worry about. This lady prob only seen preg ppl who had 9 pound babies or something.