thread: What to do when the big 'O' is a no no?

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    What to do when the big 'O' is a no no?

    I am going nuts out of sexual frustration. I want it bad but have been told no more by my OB, especially as I end up in hours, sometimes days of pain afterwards... just because of O, not even DTD. I know this is the best thing for me and bub and it'll be ok, can resume after recovery and all and I know this but what can I do right now to deal with it?

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    Have a google of Tantric fire-breathing. It can be incredibly intense though, so I'm not sure if it's a suitable alternative.

    otherwise, throw yourself into something creative, exercise (if you can), singing at the top of your voice. A brisk walk can help if you can do that.

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    a cold bath? LOL sorry couldn't help myself

    do you know what about the big O that is causing the pain?

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    The extra blood flow to the area gets the irritable uterus going...even before O. If I do push myself (this is before OB said no more) then when I do O, I near on pass out because of BP issues and the blood so concentrated around the uterus. I so badly want to exercise but am on rest due to movement making the IU play up as well and leaking amniotic fluid. I'm doing lots of artwork atm but the frustration often distracts me and I have to move on to some thing else.

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    I know I'm always getting turned off by my children wearing me out lol

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    Oh and to say I have a high sex drive is a gross understatement lol!

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    I deal with the frustration of raising children by DTD regulary.
    The two things that put me off the most are that it can cause bub to be unwell (infection, premature birth, etc) and of course, the amount of pain that happens and how long it lasts for. It's why I haven't but it hasn't actually helped all that much with the urges and my temperment

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    If you have BP & leak issues, dont try the Tantra. Try meditation instead. Otherwise, you may just have to suck it up as one of those annoying pregnancy things.

    i realise that's completely unhelpful - sorry.

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    that really does gotta suck!

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    Lol yeah, I'm pretty sure the only real answer is to just suck it up but worth trying for ideas ;-) I know from the years on BB there have been many couples go through the no DTD routine during pregnancy I'm glad that with DS2 it was just insertion that had to really be avoided, O was still ok for the most part lol